I have mixed feelings. The positives are that this hobby has allowed me to indulge in fetishes that I probably would never have been able to fulfill otherwise. The negatives are that my expectations are now so high that it has ruined more than one relationship with girlfriends. The last one hurt because she was quite attractive and was a pretty cool girl but she just couldn't compare to some of the mind blowing experiences I've had with some SPs in looks and service. Overall I do not regret this hobby but I recognize the negative impact it had on my life.
Anyone Regret ever starting this Hobby
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No don't regret it. That said I haven't spend 100k either!!!
I started back just before I found this place, looking for some NSA fun, while in a sexless marriage.We are now long split, but now find myself in a relationship that has now turned into little sex........so I am back. Am i better to do it ths way? I don't know. It was a long messy split the first time, which I am still paying for, and right now just don't have the guts to start aaaaaallllll over again. She is a good woman, just doesn't really enjoy sex. So for now I'll continue. Yep I feel guilt, I am a decent, caring guy, but its either this, or upset the whole apple cart. And my daughter has allready been through it once, and no interest in doing it all again so soon.Kids and family come first . Its my fault for getting hooked up deep without really knowing what I was getting into. So for now I'll continue, and be careful what I spend. I live a ways from the big city, so its easier for me to stay away from it. I set myself a limit of once a month and I,m gonna stick to it if it kills me.
It is hard to do, as I have found an SP that I really enjoy time with.
I started back just before I found this place, looking for some NSA fun, while in a sexless marriage.We are now long split, but now find myself in a relationship that has now turned into little sex........so I am back. Am i better to do it ths way? I don't know. It was a long messy split the first time, which I am still paying for, and right now just don't have the guts to start aaaaaallllll over again. She is a good woman, just doesn't really enjoy sex. So for now I'll continue. Yep I feel guilt, I am a decent, caring guy, but its either this, or upset the whole apple cart. And my daughter has allready been through it once, and no interest in doing it all again so soon.Kids and family come first . Its my fault for getting hooked up deep without really knowing what I was getting into. So for now I'll continue, and be careful what I spend. I live a ways from the big city, so its easier for me to stay away from it. I set myself a limit of once a month and I,m gonna stick to it if it kills me.
It is hard to do, as I have found an SP that I really enjoy time with.Somewhat ditto for Rosie.
Rosie's vowed to quit sooooooo many times because, frankly, Rosie's lost that 'loving' feelin when going to see a lady most times.
Rosie used to get this tingling sensation, accompanied by a little bit of euphoria upon arriving at an MP or incall; it was a real RUSH that let Rosie know that Rosie's "ALIVE".
This feeling died a few years back but Rosie can't seem to stop.
Many times, Rosie leaves a place and asks Rosie's self, "Why the fuck did Rosie go there?! Wasn't even in the mood really. Why didn't Rosie just keep on going home instead of wasting time and $$$ there?"
Slow withdrawl may work. By that Rosie means going to poon less and less frequent, until it eventually becomes ZERO outings.
The igniter of Rosie's pooning was because Rosie was soooooooooooooo crazy for Asian coco-puffs! Rosie couldn't get enough!!!
Because of the B&S that most of these fuck shops employ, Rosie stopped going to Asian incalls and MP's almost all together BUT THEN, Rosie discovered that all the other nationalities that Rosie's neglected over the years also have VERY HAWT women. Thus, Roise spent the following years 'getting some "non-Asian poon."
Rosie's winding down now....Maybe only 5 years left.
Plus, THIS SHIT' ADDS UP $$$ WISE!!!
That's right. That is the reality of "a real relationship". I saw what the end had in store when I was engaged, and so I jumped ship. I do have a few regrets in life but embracing the world of escorts and avoiding marriage are not among them.
I agree that seeing escorts isn't that fulfilling, but busting your ass in a vain attempt to make your wife happy isn't fulfililng either.
No regrets here. Women and relationships are not the be-all and end-all of "fulfillment" in your life. You guys are a buncha metrosexual queers
Here's a suggestion, let's go out and drink until we can't feel feelings anymore...
Here's a suggestion, let's go out and drink until we can't feel feelings anymore...
I don't regret hobbying. I've had some good times.
To the OP - yes, I agree that the thrill decreases a bit over time. When I first started out I was younger and open to sex with any cute girl and found it really satisfying. Now I don't hobby so much as I am older and have less mojo and my appetites are less. So I don't need to see SPs often, and can easily go two, three or even four months between visits. When I started out I saw 1 or 2 girls a week. FS in mish does feel very similar, the difference being the tightness and the fact that some SPs have a more pleasant body aroma than others. A lot of the fun for me is talking and getting to know the girls I see a bit. Talking about life, day to day stuff, so it is less mechanical and more personal. Sure, it is a job for the girls not dating, but one can make aquaintances at the office and with business clients one wouldn't see except due to work as one can in the SP world. One can go the the barber, sit in the chair, say nothing but "Cut my hair" and tune out, or one can talk about life, love, politics, and look forward to the monthly visit. So it is with SPs as well.
I'd much rather hobby than play tennis or collect stamps.
One can get spoiled by being able to have sex with so many hot women who are just a phone call away, so one is less likely to run through hoops in the civilan world with girls to get sex. This ca make one miss out on more civilan relationships, which has negative as well as positive implications. In my civilian relationships I find hobbying gives me much more self-confidence and I am less likely to be treated as a doormat by hot girls as my logic is "I don't have to put up with this as sex is just a phone call away". Of course quality companionship in a relationship is much more important to me now, as sex with beautiful girls is easily obtainable but the companionship and love of a woman is more special.
To the OP - yes, I agree that the thrill decreases a bit over time. When I first started out I was younger and open to sex with any cute girl and found it really satisfying. Now I don't hobby so much as I am older and have less mojo and my appetites are less. So I don't need to see SPs often, and can easily go two, three or even four months between visits. When I started out I saw 1 or 2 girls a week. FS in mish does feel very similar, the difference being the tightness and the fact that some SPs have a more pleasant body aroma than others. A lot of the fun for me is talking and getting to know the girls I see a bit. Talking about life, day to day stuff, so it is less mechanical and more personal. Sure, it is a job for the girls not dating, but one can make aquaintances at the office and with business clients one wouldn't see except due to work as one can in the SP world. One can go the the barber, sit in the chair, say nothing but "Cut my hair" and tune out, or one can talk about life, love, politics, and look forward to the monthly visit. So it is with SPs as well.
I'd much rather hobby than play tennis or collect stamps.
One can get spoiled by being able to have sex with so many hot women who are just a phone call away, so one is less likely to run through hoops in the civilan world with girls to get sex. This ca make one miss out on more civilan relationships, which has negative as well as positive implications. In my civilian relationships I find hobbying gives me much more self-confidence and I am less likely to be treated as a doormat by hot girls as my logic is "I don't have to put up with this as sex is just a phone call away". Of course quality companionship in a relationship is much more important to me now, as sex with beautiful girls is easily obtainable but the companionship and love of a woman is more special.
Wow. So many regrets, and so much guilt. I wouldn't have expected that.
It's a very interesting angle of discussion on the topic of prostitution, much different than what we typically hear about. There's usually an assumption that only women in the sex industry are emotionally (or otherwise) affected by sex work. While I know that many are, this hasn't been my experience of sex work, nor that of most of the women I have gotten to know in the biz (obviously, this has much to do with our privilege position in this industry). I'm surprised to hear so much regrets from clients, and wonder how much of those are tainted by our society unhealthy and puritan views around sexuality.
For those who voiced regrets associated with the money that you have spent on this hobby: do you have any other expensive hobby/habits? Do you feel the same kind of regrets about this other expensive hobby/habits?
It's a very interesting angle of discussion on the topic of prostitution, much different than what we typically hear about. There's usually an assumption that only women in the sex industry are emotionally (or otherwise) affected by sex work. While I know that many are, this hasn't been my experience of sex work, nor that of most of the women I have gotten to know in the biz (obviously, this has much to do with our privilege position in this industry). I'm surprised to hear so much regrets from clients, and wonder how much of those are tainted by our society unhealthy and puritan views around sexuality.
For those who voiced regrets associated with the money that you have spent on this hobby: do you have any other expensive hobby/habits? Do you feel the same kind of regrets about this other expensive hobby/habits?
If I would have kept take of how much money I spent at the gas stations to fuel up my hot rod car I think I would feel sick right now, lol. All for the same thing, a quick thrill
I could care less about money. I hope no one thought I was complaining about spending money on sp's. I have spent much more in my civilain relationships than I have with an sp. On two occassions, I sent over $1000 USD to a girl overseas that I never eventually met, so to complain about $300 on an sp, it wouldn't make sense for me to do that.
The reason why I regret it so much, as I don't know if I explained in well enough in my original post, is that I thought having FS with beautiful woman would be so great, considering I have a terrible relationship with my wife and we haven't had sex for about 5 years now. I thought visiting an sp would give me something I was missing and some added value in my life, but I find that no matter how hard I try to deny it, I was born an emotional sissy, and if I can't connect with a girl more than just inserting my instrument inside, well.............
The reason why I regret it so much, as I don't know if I explained in well enough in my original post, is that I thought having FS with beautiful woman would be so great, considering I have a terrible relationship with my wife and we haven't had sex for about 5 years now. I thought visiting an sp would give me something I was missing and some added value in my life, but I find that no matter how hard I try to deny it, I was born an emotional sissy, and if I can't connect with a girl more than just inserting my instrument inside, well.............
I have spent a lot of money on booze and SP's.....the rest I just wasted. I regret hobbying in Upstate New York. Without the mighty Terb to find the right SP you are screwed. It is so much better in Toronto.
Having just arrived home from a session with an overrated SP I am so angry that Rayfinkel seems happy in comparision.How this chic got any type of positive feedback is beyond me. It isESPECIALLY afte a rendezvous like this that I wonder aloud what I`m doing on this planet. If you are going to live an addictive life stay with the good ones. Or another way to pharse it is "the devil you know is better that the devil you dont".
This is a good thread, for myself, I do not feel the guilt, i did in the begining, I have a loving wife and young children. I Love my wife very much and we have good sex. But, I have always had a above average sex drive, and when I was in my 20's growing up, I've had many partners. So for me I crave the passion and adventure, and the stimulation that I get from mutilple partners. Now being married with kids, I have never had a relationship with another woman. I hobby because it allows me to have the best of both worlds, I don't lie to the sp and tell them I love them and want to run away with them, nor do I love or treat my wife any different, I treat both with respect, and I would never fantasize that I'm going to fall in Love with an SP (hard to do somtimes!)
I often think to myself that "wow! I'm so lucky to be able to spend so little money and get to be in the company of some beautiful ladies, from any ethic back ground I choose! that is just so amazing! And I have come to realize that the ladies are like you and I, human beings with feelings, good days bad day etc, and respect them for what they do, you will find that you should not feel dirty or shameful. Enjoy it while you can, know where your heart is.
And as for the money part, all hobbies are expensive, that's the way it is!
I often think to myself that "wow! I'm so lucky to be able to spend so little money and get to be in the company of some beautiful ladies, from any ethic back ground I choose! that is just so amazing! And I have come to realize that the ladies are like you and I, human beings with feelings, good days bad day etc, and respect them for what they do, you will find that you should not feel dirty or shameful. Enjoy it while you can, know where your heart is.
And as for the money part, all hobbies are expensive, that's the way it is!
You're right on with this comment! I much more adventerous than my wife (I have tried getting into various things with her - no go). SPs are a great way to enjoy fantastic sex with a beautiful woman whenever I feel like it. Fortunately, so far, it's not an addiction (I can stop when ever I want.....*twitch).
Absolutely no regrets. As the saying goes "Diversity is the spice of life" and over the past 7+ years, this hobby has allowed me to have many memorable experiences with a plethora of beautiful women. I am lucky in that I do have the disposable income that allows me to indulge on a regular basis but at the same time I believe that, like anything else in life, moderation is key.
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Well said! The only problem I have is sometimes having to pleasure the SO after a good session! going to look into the little blue pill soon! Shoot! getting that itch!
regrets? sure I've had a few. but then again, too few to mention.
frankly, its important to keep perspective and date civilians. if this is your only outlet, then I don't think thats wise. every hobby can seem empty of purpose at times ( I sometimes pnder what I am doing on the back nine) but when that happens- leave it for a bit and come back recharged. If not, then you will approach each date with misgivings and they will go badly which re-inforce your negative feelings and lead to a downward spiral. have fun or move on.
frankly, its important to keep perspective and date civilians. if this is your only outlet, then I don't think thats wise. every hobby can seem empty of purpose at times ( I sometimes pnder what I am doing on the back nine) but when that happens- leave it for a bit and come back recharged. If not, then you will approach each date with misgivings and they will go badly which re-inforce your negative feelings and lead to a downward spiral. have fun or move on.
