To cheat or not to cheat?

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desert monk

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Okay I may be in the minority here, but I have never pooned or otherwise "cheated" on a girl while I've been with her (never been in a relationship longer than 1 year, and have always gotten out when the urge to bang other girls was strong enough).

I am probably with the best woman I have ever been with right now, and although it's only been a couple months, it's pretty serious already. The only caveat is that we jumped into bed very quickly which I usually think is an early sign that the relationship is going to fizzle.

Anyways... Yes I do want to bang other broads, and have a serious roving eye syndrome. I can mitigate this to a point. The problem for me right now is, I've got a horny cougar who I have been talking to on and off for a few months. I think she would be dynamite in the sack, her intentions are quite obvious.

I want to fuck her, and tentatively agreed to meet her for drinks next weekend.

OTOH, I care about the woman I am with. I agreed that we are "exclusive" with one another, and she has paraded me around her friends. It is very much public that we are an "item," to the point of our facebook pages being linked. I am not big into sneaking around.

In the things that I am looking for in a long term partner, she is probably a 9/10 in almost all categories except looks. She is very highly educated, earns her own money, intelligent, and accepts me for me. She is good looking and loves sex, but she doesn't get me going the way the tarts I see on the street or some of the SPs I have seen do. I would probably rate her a 7/10 in the looks department.

Am I crazy? What should I do?
 
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What a dilemma. You've found a great woman that you are in an exclusive relationship with but you want to screw a hot cougar. Who could blame you? I say you either get the balls to tell your girlfriend that you want an open relationship where both of you can explore other options or you break up with her and save both of you lots of time, money and hurt feelings. Relationships built on deception can not last. I've learned the hard way. No you are not crazy you just want your cake and eat it too.
 
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Tazz69 said:
What a dilemma. You've found a great woman that you are in an exclusive relationship with but you want to screw a hot cougar. Who could blame you? I say you either get the balls to tell your girlfriend that you want an open relationship where both of you can explore other options or you break up with her and save both of you lots of time, money and hurt feelings. Relationships built on deception can not last. I've learned the hard way. No you are not crazy you just want your cake and eat it too.
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Drop the gf and bang the cougar.
 
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Ask the GF if she would be interested in having a threesome. If not, maybe an open relationship? And if not, break it off; you may want to let it settle a little bit first tho (so I would NOT bang the cougar right away, even in the no/no case). If she says yes to a threesome just to keep you around, that will lead to resentment.

If you're a sexual nomad but she's not, you guys need to find someone compatible in this aspect as well :-/
 
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Threesome!
 
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as it was back in the school days WHEN IN DOUBT, CHEAT
 
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Art Mann

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Do the right thing.

Tell the cougar you are in an "exclusive" relationship with someone else, that you and she are an "item" with "linked" pages on Facebook. Tell the cougar you need to take the high road, and that you can't possibly be the guy she needs right now despite the fact she's so horny.

While you're at it, tell her you know a classy guy named Art who loves horny cougars, and then shoot me her contact info.
 
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Bro, I say give yourself one and only one chance to decide. Go ahead and F the cougar. You know you want to. If you don't do it, you will forever punish yourself for not taking care of this need that you obviously have, and you will be destined to cheat later because of this unfulfilled need.

But, don't tell your gf when you do it. You only need to sneak around once...and I repeat, just do it once. After you've had your fun with the cougar, ask yourself: what do I really want? Do I want causal, hot times with a bunch of horny chicks, like you just had? Or do I want to give myself to the one girl who wants to give me something in return (long-term commitment)? And, you know if this is the one or not. After you answer the question...after you compare the long-term potential versus the one-time cougar shag and all the fun that you had, you will know what to do.
 
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HOCKEY_GOD

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I would strongly suggest that you stay exclusive to the gal you're with should you propose to her or get married. However, as long as you have not yet made a marital commitment and there are no kids involved give the cougar what she wants and lay down the law. Tell the cougar that you want an open relationship and make sure that she's on the pill and uses protection. If she doesn't care for your conditions fuggedaboutit! End of story.
 
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buttercup

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When you're on the horns of a dilemma, always go for the one with the biggest tits.
 
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desert monk said:
Okay I may be in the minority here, but I have never pooned or otherwise "cheated" on a girl while I've been with her (never been in a relationship longer than 1 year, and have always gotten out when the urge to bang other girls was strong enough).

I am probably with the best woman I have ever been with right now, and although it's only been a couple months, it's pretty serious already. The only caveat is that we jumped into bed very quickly which I usually think is an early sign that the relationship is going to fizzle.

Anyways... Yes I do want to bang other broads, and have a serious roving eye syndrome. I can mitigate this to a point. The problem for me right now is, I've got a horny cougar who I have been talking to on and off for a few months. I think she would be dynamite in the sack, her intentions are quite obvious.

I want to fuck her, and tentatively agreed to meet her for drinks next weekend.

OTOH, I care about the woman I am with. I agreed that we are "exclusive" with one another, and she has paraded me around her friends. It is very much public that we are an "item," to the point of our facebook pages being linked. I am not big into sneaking around.

In the things that I am looking for in a long term partner, she is probably a 9/10 in almost all categories except looks. She is very highly educated, earns her own money, intelligent, and accepts me for me. She is good looking and loves sex, but she doesn't get me going the way the tarts I see on the street or some of the SPs I have seen do. I would probably rate her a 7/10 in the looks department.

Am I crazy? What should I do?
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avoid the cougar. give her to me
 
The Oracle

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Most of my adult life has been spent taking the low road on the scenario you have put forth.

There are more than a few great relationships that I have sabotaged thinking with the other head.

As I get older I always think what could been with a few of them but eventually I always got found out.

My advice is go one way or the other but don't be with both. Trust me it will make your life a lot less stressful.
 
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Ladyraven

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your posting this question on a escort review board.. a escort review board.. where the majority of (not all) men have seen other women besides thier SO.. so you know what you want to do and you know the advice you want to hear .. so go ahead and do what you want to do..
and make sure to review afterwards :p
 
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Dear Desert Monk: my advise to you is the following:

Masturbate x 2, then think about the subject. Do you still want the cougar or not anymore? If not anymore then you've got your answer. If you still want to do the cougar but really really want to be with your SO, then I agree with the above statement: "eatin ain't cheatin", so come on in and join my DATY club.
 
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bone_man

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HOF said:
Threesome!
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buttercup said:
When you're on the horns of a dilemma, always go for the one with the biggest tits.
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Ladyraven said:
your posting this question on a escort review board.. a escort review board.. where the majority of (not all) men have seen other women besides thier SO.. so you know what you want to do and you know the advice you want to hear .. so go ahead and do what you want to do..
and make sure to review afterwards :p
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If you decide to forgo all of the above good advice, give me the Cougar's number and I'll bang her for you and send you a review with a few glossy photos and maybe even a video!
 
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fmahovalich

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HOW OLD AR YOU O.P. ?

the cougar only wants you for a quick screw..clearly nothing long term. She will grow wrinkly and haggard in time and that lure will wear off too!!

THERE IS NO DOUBT ABOUT IT.....rarely will you find a steady lady that will do the freaky stuff the SP will do.

So your question...DO you NEED the freaky stuff......or the steady good girl!!!

You cannot have both!
 
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