anyone ever refuse an SP?

[dallassomething]

i understand some SP's have to refuse service to clients based on a client showing up drunk/unclean etc, but has anyone had a SP show up and you refuse them?

it's happened to me several times - i won't name names, just the situations -

1st time - i booked an asian/spanish mixed girl but i couldn't communicate with for the life of me - i'd ask what she liked to do together and she'd smile, shake her head and shrug... any intimacy/chemistry was totally lost in translation and i asked her to leave after several attempts to talk. i just couldn't connect. it turns out the texts to book her were written by a 3rd person. lesson learned.

2nd time - my SP arrived late-ish, and was clearly strung out - i asked her to leave immediately.

3rd time - this time i was visiting an SP at a hotel and when i arrived a) i'm not sure she was the girl in the pictures of the advert, b) and i hate to be shallow, but her complexion was terrible, c) she was dressed in lingerie but looked kind of uncomfortable/frumpy. so i excused my self as politely as i could.


for the record - i did give each girl $ - not the whole amount, but i felt i'd booked time that she was counting on.

 

[shack]

It is not uncommon at all.

 

[krazyplayer]

I have cancelled several times and usually paid a cancel fee of $40 or $50.

 

[teched]

I've had a couple of situations where I should have cancelled, but didn't. In one case, the SP was not what I was expecting based on description I was given on the phone, but I ended up having a great time. In the other two cases, it was an ok experience, I probably should have turned around and left. But it just didn't seem right.

 

[dallassomething]

thanks, good to know i'm not alone in having cancelled before - i feel kind of bad doing it but don't feel like there's any other option for me.

 

[WoodPeckr]

Sure. Have canceled a few times on an obvious B&S. Just said there must be a mistake since you are not the girl in the ad or whatever and just walked away. B&S are not even worth talking or arguing with especially if they are unattractive.

 

[afterhours]

Canceled a few times and hopefully will have the guts to cancel whenever I don't like the girl.

 

[prestokeys]

Is it ok to cancel and not pay anything at all?

 

[pencilneckgeek]

I did not cancel when i should have and i regretted it afterwards.

 

[The 1]

Yup!

Is it ok to cancel and not pay anything at all?

Absolutely!

 

[pencilneckgeek]

Is it ok to cancel and not pay anything at all?

Of course if it's B&S. It's your money and I do my charity elsewhere.

 

[blueman]

Is it ok to cancel and not pay anything at all?

If it is bait and switch you should NOT pay a cent. It is they who wasted your time. Lots of places will pull a bait and switch and collect $40 or more as a cancellation fee. Not bad pay if you have 2 cancellations per hour and don't actually do anything but drive there to collect cash.

Any time I have felt the need to cancel; not as described, not what I asked for, drunk, stoned, smelled like smoke and alcohol, etc I refuse to pay the cancellation fee

 

[Zook]

Never. But I spend a great deal of time researching. If you show up and there is a bait and switch. Walk away for sure and report to the community. Likely you have not done your research, though. If you do research it is rare that you will have a bad experience.

 

[d_jedi]

Never. But I spend a great deal of time researching. If you show up and there is a bait and switch. Walk away for sure and report to the community. Likely you have not done your research, though. If you do research it is rare that you will have a bad experience.

+1 terb has been invaluable to me in filtering out the bad ones..

 

[GG2]

Never. But I spend a great deal of time researching. If you show up and there is a bait and switch. Walk away for sure and report to the community. Likely you have not done your research, though. If you do research it is rare that you will have a bad experience.

In order for you to do research others had to TOFTT.

I agree that if it's B&S just cancel, walk away, and don't pay shit.

 

[prestokeys]

What if it is not bait and switch, but the SP does not look quite as nice as you thought she was (e.g. complexion worse than was pictured, but it really is her). Are you an asshole for leaving without paying anything?

 

[Blue-Spheroid]

If you show up and there is a bait and switch. Walk away for sure and report to the community.

Agreed. If the lady on offer is obviously not what was promised (or if she is clearly impaired or otherwise unsuitable) you should not feel any obligation to pay anything; walk away or send her packing. I also agree that such cases should be reviewed and exposed for what they are.

However, I would caution that there is a difference between true "bait and switch" and the simply not finding an SP as appealing in person. If the description was accurate (if incomplete) and the pictures are (or could be) of the same lady, you should allow yourself to be charged a cancellation fee. It's always possible that the lady, in person, may disappoint you. However, if there was no clear fraud in the way she was represented, you have to accept (at least) partial responsibility for the disappointment.

Likely you have not done your research, though. If you do research it is rare that you will have a bad experience.

I don't fully agree with this part of the post. If all we ever did was go and see well reviewed ladies with multiple positive reviewes, we'd all be doing the same couple of dozen women. They would quickly get rich from all of our attention and, in a matter of a few months, they would begin to retire. If we only continued to see well reviewed SPs by "doing our research", we would soon run out of active SPs who are well reviewed.

While the scenario above is (obviously) a little extreme, the point is valid. There is significant value to trying new providers, taking one for the team, and discovering unknown gems. Of course, in so doing, we run the risk of finding some less than satisfactory providers along the way and bait and switch is part of the risk.

 

[Rockslinger]

I tend to stick to SC dancers because the girl you see is the girl you see.

 

[rhuarc29]

for the record - i did give each girl $ - not the whole amount, but i felt i'd booked time that she was counting on.

I find this part funny. Or having a cancellation fee for that matter. If you have something come up or something else on your part and you have to cancel, yeah I can understand a $50 cancellation fee. However, if you show up and the SP is high, drunk, in poor hygiene, or otherwise indisposed, why should you pay anything? If an SP cancels because a guy smells like he hasn't seen a shower in a week, does she give him a quick BJ on the way out? I don't think so, and she shouldn't.

With that said, I don't see anything wrong if you want to be a nice guy and pay for her trouble. You just shouldn't feel obligated.

 

[harryass]

I agree that if it's B&S just cancel, walk away, and don't pay shit.

I have cancel at least on two B/S and did not pay any cancel fee. It's not who I arrange to see. Not my problem if a SP can't make it and a sub fills in. Dont ever pay for cancel fee.