Should have spent my money on an SP instead of a date.

[doggystyle99]

Seeing SP's and dating in the real world are totally two different things, never substitute seeing SP's for dating, even if you are thinking about it stop seeing SP's and re evaluate your priorities.

BTW I date often and sometimes instead of picking them up or sending a car to pick them up I would meet them somewhere convenient for the both of us and never have I asked a girl to meet me at a corner of a street. That's where you went wrong, it's not a manly thing to do and frankly it's just lazy.

And also she does sound like she is full of drama from her not telling you over the phone to meet her at a corner of a street is not something she wants to do, to her trying to tell you that she is attractive to other guys and they try to pick her up, and to her having a fallout with her friend that she was out with the other day.

 

[rhuarc29]

Dude, you kinda messed up in my opinion. She wanted to show you off to all her friends, and you let your own insecurities of "not letting her friends know who you are dating" show up. You need to understand that the women will lead, you need to follow. The fact that she was telling you about how she gets hit on all the time, she was trying to make you jealous, obviously. This is normal in the dating world.

That's her problem, not his. Plenty of gals out there who don't act like teenagers when dating.

That said, I've never asked someone I'm interested in romantically to meet me on a street corner for a first date....

 

[lewd]

IMO, you lost all control when you gushed and told her she was 'stunning'.
She saw you were weak and had you wrapped around her little finger. That said she probably didn't consciously screw you over for drinks or dinner...she's likely use to being put on a pedestal.

 

[SplitSecond]

A street corner? That really showed her how much you respected her.

 

[The Fruity Hare]

I agree with this. Personally I have never ask someone, who I am interested to date, to meet me at a street corner.
If I'm not there to pick her up, I'd prefer to meet somewhere indoors (bar section as bruce mentioned is perfect). I'd even rather it be a Tim's or Starbucks than a street corner.
Just my personal preference.

Offering to meet on a street corner? Really? Is that a thing?

If you aren't at that stage yet where you can pick her up at home, offer to meet at a close by pub/ bar etc. or at the very least a Starbucks or something.

Meeting at a street corner is just about the weirdest thing ever.

A street corner? That really showed her how much you respected her.

Nothing to do with her being Korean, it was the standing on the street corner like an escort she wasn't happy about, knowing that while she waited she would be hit on by other guys. If you had met at her place I am sure it would have been a different story.

 

[Popeye11]

Offering to meet on a street corner? Really? Is that a thing?

If you aren't at that stage yet where you can pick her up at home, offer to meet at a close by pub/ bar etc. or at the very least a Starbucks or something.

Meeting at a street corner is just about the weirdest thing ever.

Asian cultures are different. Respect and being treated like a woman are the norm and expectation. Meeting her on a street corner ? Where's the chivalry in that ? There's a certain amount of disrespect in not offering to pick her up or meet her somewhere. And perhaps she will feel awkward or unsafe waiting on a street corner for you.
With any woman chivalry and respect go a little my way. Be a gentleman not a douchbag.

 

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Asian cultures are different. Respect and being treated like a woman are the norm and expectation. Meeting her on a street corner ? Where's the chivalry in that ? There's a certain amount of disrespect in not offering to pick her up or meet her somewhere. And perhaps she will feel awkward or unsafe waiting on a street corner for you.
With any woman chivalry and respect go a little my way. Be a gentleman not a douchbag.

Not sure it has anything to do with her being Asian or korean- not too many women would want to me on a street corner on a second date.

 

[Chloë.]

Not sure it has anything to do with her being Asian or korean- not too many women would want to me on a street corner on a second date.

First* I think.

I wouldn't count the hook-up as a date lol.

 

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First* I think.

I wouldn't count the hook-up as a date lol.

Interesting- see I am old fashion and I would but I see your point

 

[Spacealien2]

So I'm really confused about dating. I don't date much, but when I read OP's post it seems like dating is just full of pretenses and games? For instance, I have a couple of female friends that I care for. I would offer to carry some of their bags and making sure they have someone to walk them home safe in the evening and so on. I can't imagine doing the same to women I meet the first time and definitely won't be giving them any kisses when I have no feelings for them. Is there actually any sincerity left in the dating game anymore?

At this point I feel like hobbying causes less of a headache - both parties know that it's just a contract.

 

[barnacler]

designer label obsession...

I was interested in a younger Asian woman awhile back - we went on a date and while talking it turned out that she owned a bunch of bags that were over $2,000 each! - that was really her only hobby, shopping and looking at all the brand name stuff - endlessly.

I thought to myself, holy crap, can you imagine the kind of gifts she is going to eventually expect?

No thanks, what a pathetic, shallow lifestyle.

 

[Spacealien2]

I was interested in a younger Asian woman awhile back - we went on a date and while talking it turned out that she owned a bunch of bags that were over $2,000 each! - that was really her only hobby, shopping and looking at all the brand name stuff - endlessly.

My faith in humanity just became non-existent.

 

[Insidious Von]

Sheldon Cooper is The Ultimate Man, he may have said "bitches be crazy" but his Lothario game plan is faultless. We clueless blokes can learn from him.

 

[Bud Plug]

Meeting a woman for a date on a street corner is always a bad idea, no matter how long you've known her. Here is a short list of the reasons why:

1. Women are terrible at directions. There is a very good chance you'll end up on different corners, and the date will therefore either abort or start off horribly.
2. If she is attractive, she'll have to deal with guys hitting on her while she waits for you (if she's there first).
3. If you're there first, you'll be wasting your time hanging out on a street corner (is that how/where you want to spend your time?). You will likely not be able to pass the time fending off women who will be flirting with you. More likely, as a single guy hanging out on a corner for an extended time, you'll be assumed to be a loser, homeless, or worse.
4. It may be loud, and hard to hear your phone if you need to call each other (if one of you is late).
5. It could rain/snow/etc.
6. She will likely resent that you've put her to any inconvenience, and meeting someone at any location that isn't familiar is an inconvenience.

As to your main point, it may be that it is not cost effective or an effective use of time to date civilians compared to seeing SPs. However, that would depend entirely on how much fun you have on your dates, and how much you can suspend your hold on reality while you're with an SP. In other words, it's a crapshoot which is the better deal/experience. In my own personal experience, most first dates/early dates don't turn out to be worthwhile. Also, most sessions with SPs turn out not to be worthwhile.

But no one ever told me to expect life to be perfect, so I accept the bad with the good.

 

[exnocomment]

My faith in humanity just became non-existent.

Wait till you learn about Vertu phones and Birkin bags..

 

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I was interested in a younger Asian woman awhile back - we went on a date and while talking it turned out that she owned a bunch of bags that were over $2,000 each! - that was really her only hobby, shopping and looking at all the brand name stuff - endlessly.

I thought to myself, holy crap, can you imagine the kind of gifts she is going to eventually expect?

No thanks, what a pathetic, shallow lifestyle.

Maybe she is richer than you? Its hard dating or gambling with people who are richer than you. Maybe for her, those bags are cheap- it doesn't necessarily mean she is shallow.

 

[VIPhunter]

Um, yeah.

Pick her up at her place, or place of work. If you don't have a car, rent one.

When she texted you "Are you lost, can you find your way home" The smart response would have been :"I never get lost, but I really don't want to go home..............." that may have gotten you an invite up for a nightcap.

Street corner. You're kidding us, right?

 

[oral.com]

A little objective insight. When you first met her chances are she was drunk. She thought you were attractive, maybe just her type. Meeting a guy at a bar while your drunk is a little like grocery shopping when your hungry. Then she sobers up. She thinks "yeah he's cute but is he boyfriend material?"
Will my friends be impressed? Can I take him home to meet my parents?
She decides to give you a shot, and you'd better not blow it! Meeting her on the street (unless it was her choice for safety reasons), is not a class act. Just my opinion and you know what they say about that.

 

[Titalian]

You guys kill me LOL !! Its never really changed. Even in over sixty years. Listen to this clip from the movie "Marty" Ernest Borgnine

 

[Jicama]

Asian cultures are different. Respect and being treated like a woman are the norm and expectation. Meeting her on a street corner ? Where's the chivalry in that ? There's a certain amount of disrespect in not offering to pick her up or meet her somewhere. And perhaps she will feel awkward or unsafe waiting on a street corner for you.
With any woman chivalry and respect go a little my way. Be a gentleman not a douchbag.

Oh boy, you guys are clueless. Look, a street corner wouldn't be my first choice either (not hard to specify a local bar or coffee shop), but she agreed to it REGARDLESS.

She didn't forget about the date. She purposely no-showed and had a passive-aggressive conniption about it after the fact. Immature, insecure, prone to drama/games - red flags all around.