the question of tombstones .. At the moment, high-quality and cheap tombstones are not everywhere. I advise you to search on different sites or in real life for tombstones and you will not be able to find what you need everywhere. I myself recently wondered where to find gravestones with vases or with beautiful inscriptions on them. Luckily I found one site with flat grave marker designs . This site helped me a lot. Until now, I advise my friends who have had some kind of grief, so that this grief comes out to them in a small amount.
First thing to remember when planning own funeral: the burial and the surrounding fuss is not for the dead, but for the living. If you decide to play something, play something that reflects you in life not in death.