Wow, well said. Definitely got me thinking things through.
To protect her and myself, I'm not going in details with the lies. Just in case she would find this thread.
Thanks again
Fell hard for a SP, now I'm screwed...
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To protect her and myself, I'm not going in details with the lies. Just in case she would find this thread.
Thanks again
For sure, that is wise. Not asking you to reveal any details, but just letting you know others have been there and it’s not a good situation be in longer term, for your own happiness / sanity. It will have you at times questioning if you are nuts. It is a typical pattern of abusive / controlling behaviour, not unlike the situation in physically abusive relationships where the victim starts to make excuses for the abuser and blames themselves.
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This was only a test drive on both sides. She seems like at least an honest person to me. Otherwise she would have kept you around for the holidays, grabbed all the presents, and then bolted.
A friend of mine at breakfast on New Years Day asked his girlfriend why she was crying. She said she was crying because she needed to break up with him.
Don't be a Sappy Santa. Exit now. Out with the old. In with the new.
A friend of mine at breakfast on New Years Day asked his girlfriend why she was crying. She said she was crying because she needed to break up with him.
Don't be a Sappy Santa. Exit now. Out with the old. In with the new.
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My father always said before you get serious check their teeth in the day time, lest you get stuck with huge dental bills.
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'Anyone else here scratching their head as to why he's asking for "words of wisdom?"
You already know it's not a healthy relationship so there's no "words of wisdom" to be had and the client/worker relationship is over.
Move on.
You already know it's not a healthy relationship so there's no "words of wisdom" to be had and the client/worker relationship is over.
Move on.
“After the ball was over,
Minnie took out her glass eye.
Put her false teeth in cold water,
Hung up her wig to dry.
Stood her cork leg in the corner,
Screwed her tin ear, from her head.
Then what was left of poor Minnie,
Crept slowly under the bed.”
Breakup Music from Frank Zappa. This music has always given the Prez solace and closure. Are there any other good tunes to ease the pain of this breakup? Frank Zappa understood falling hard.
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Lonely Teardrops - Jackie Wilson - Crying over Unrequited Love. This has been happening since cave man days since she left for a guy with a bigger club and more meat in the cave. The spin around and reset move is symbolic to recover from a broken romance. The split should not be attempted without a couple of beers to relax the adductor longus.
I always say that there are ladies I'm quite fond of who I also like to think enjoy my company but at the end of the day, I'm realistic about the nature of our relationship.
Yes I know that's a bit cynical of me but I've always told myself that if I started to develop deeper feelings for any of the providers I see, I would stop seeing them immediately and completely cut off all contact.
I've seen the ugly side of this far too often in my years seeing escorts and seen the toll it takes on ladies.
Yes I know that's a bit cynical of me but I've always told myself that if I started to develop deeper feelings for any of the providers I see, I would stop seeing them immediately and completely cut off all contact.
I've seen the ugly side of this far too often in my years seeing escorts and seen the toll it takes on ladies.
Little update, after having deleted everything, she's contacted me again. Being the sucker I am for her, we exchanged another round of texts this week. And low and behold, yet again false promises from her and now radio silence from her. I've been nothing but nice with her. I'm done with all the BS with her. Going to see another SP today and I'm not looking back anymore. This has been a hell of a learning experience.
Thanks for all the feedback.
Thanks for all the feedback.
If you are going to finish it - I am not a fan of ghosting, at least without warning - , just calmly explain that things aren't proceeding in a way that is healthy for you and this is the end.
Then... be motivated! It is a great time to use the strong emotions that you are feeling and channel them into a positive drive to improve yourself. Damn, it will feel good to get in better shape, dress better, accomplish something.
Ah
The ol, "fell for an escort and it all went to shit".
Tale as old as time
As a previous hopeless romantic as well. I get where you're coming from.
I won't reiterate what's been said so far. There are pretty good insights here.
One thing that really helped me, was to just write a long message to her. (usually I leave the warnings till the end, Dr Strange style. Before you ask, because it's usually hilarious. But you're somewhat vulnerable right now, I know I was when I was in that situation so:
***For the love of God DO NOT SEND IT***
Also, write it by hand. That one's just a suggestion)
Spill out your entire perspective about the experience. What you felt going in. What you hoped/imagined it would be. How you felt and how you feel now.
Read it a few times, let your experience sink in and process it.
***Keep it safe and hidden from other people, this is for you.***
Pay attention to your own feelings, process them. Learn what you can and let them go.
When you can think of the whole situation. Without feeling sad or angry, delete/burn it. (But just the message, don't burn anything down ffs).
Wounds heal, people learn. What you learn and how fast you learn it will be different. Sometimes we have to go through the lesson several times because we didn't learn the right thing before.
Good luck
The ol, "fell for an escort and it all went to shit".
Tale as old as time
As a previous hopeless romantic as well. I get where you're coming from.
I won't reiterate what's been said so far. There are pretty good insights here.
One thing that really helped me, was to just write a long message to her. (usually I leave the warnings till the end, Dr Strange style. Before you ask, because it's usually hilarious. But you're somewhat vulnerable right now, I know I was when I was in that situation so:
***For the love of God DO NOT SEND IT***
Also, write it by hand. That one's just a suggestion)
Spill out your entire perspective about the experience. What you felt going in. What you hoped/imagined it would be. How you felt and how you feel now.
Read it a few times, let your experience sink in and process it.
***Keep it safe and hidden from other people, this is for you.***
Pay attention to your own feelings, process them. Learn what you can and let them go.
When you can think of the whole situation. Without feeling sad or angry, delete/burn it. (But just the message, don't burn anything down ffs).
Wounds heal, people learn. What you learn and how fast you learn it will be different. Sometimes we have to go through the lesson several times because we didn't learn the right thing before.
Good luck
