Mid 30s. Lost libido suddenly. Not sure if its a bad thing...

riskparity · May 15, 2025

Have been hobbying for 5 years at this point.

Seen over 100+ SPs and pretty much satisfied my itch but suddenly last 6 months all I seem to care for is a good massage and hand release.

Desire for intercourse has come off pretty significantly.

I do have a stressful job and am constantly thinking about work for more context.

While its definitely something different, I am not sure if its a bad thing and can channel my energy to work on my life/financial goals.

Also, extension of that is actually look to settle down with a "normal" person that I can have vanilla sex and start a family.

Sorry if this is something I should be speaking to a doctor or therapist vs fellow TERB users. But if someone actually has something helpful/insightful then I will buy them a beer at their favorite strip club lol

xix · May 15, 2025

Go to Cancun for a week. If you feel the same as before maybe it best to see someone / professional with a higher pay grade than us for help.

riskparity · May 15, 2025

xix said:
Go to Cancun for a week. If you feel the same as before maybe it best to see someone / professional with a higher pay grade than us for help.

Ahahaha time to whip out those bonvoy points lol

Mr Deeds · May 15, 2025

riskparity said:
Have been hobbying for 5 years at this point.

Seen over 100+ SPs and pretty much satisfied my itch but suddenly last 6 months all I seem to care for is a good massage and hand release.

Desire for intercourse has come off pretty significantly.

I do have a stressful job and am constantly thinking about work for more context.

While its definitely something different, I am not sure if its a bad thing and can channel my energy to work on my life/financial goals.

Also, extension of that is actually look to settle down with a "normal" person that I can have vanilla sex and start a family.

Sorry if this is something I should be speaking to a doctor or therapist vs fellow TERB users. But if someone actually has something helpful/insightful then I will buy them a beer at their favorite strip club lol

I'm the same but I'm over 65, take a break from all hobbying for a while, hit the gym maybe date a civilian

LTO_3 · May 15, 2025

riskparity said:
Have been hobbying for 5 years at this point.

Seen over 100+ SPs and pretty much satisfied my itch but suddenly last 6 months all I seem to care for is a good massage and hand release.

Desire for intercourse has come off pretty significantly.

I do have a stressful job and am constantly thinking about work for more context.

While its definitely something different, I am not sure if its a bad thing and can channel my energy to work on my life/financial goals.

Also, extension of that is actually look to settle down with a "normal" person that I can have vanilla sex and start a family.

Sorry if this is something I should be speaking to a doctor or therapist vs fellow TERB users. But if someone actually has something helpful/insightful then I will buy them a beer at their favorite strip club lol

It's the stress of your job and you always thinking about work that's causing it. Been there, done that. Best is to reduce your stress load and STOP THINKING about work all the time otherwise you'll burn out.
Take some time off, relax, and you'll find your libido will return and then you won't stop thinking about seeing SPs again.

LTO_3

escortsxxx · May 15, 2025

LTO_3 said:
It's the stress of your job and you always thinking about work that's causing it. Been there, done that. Best is to reduce your stress load and STOP THINKING about work all the time otherwise you'll burn out.
Take some time off, relax, and you'll find your libido will return and then you won't stop thinking about seeing SPs again.

LTO_3

Ah stress. Been there for me for since the pandemic full force. Knowing whats coming this Septemeber makes it worse I guess. Poor World.

LP191 · May 15, 2025

I’m almost 40 and don’t feel the need for SP’s as much as I used to, same goes for relationships and whatnot

I now completely understand how the old guy with a bunch of dogs was the happiest one on my block growing up lol

Leimonis · May 15, 2025

Mr Deeds said:
I'm the same but I'm over 65, take a break from all hobbying for a while, hit the gym maybe date a civilian

I don't think that a civilian we could date at 65 would help with libido. By "we" I mean those of us who are not Bill Belichick

riskparity · May 16, 2025

Leimonis said:
I don't think that a civilian we could date at 65 would help with libido. By "we" I mean those of us who are not Bill Belichick

fame only hack left in the world

Goodoer · May 16, 2025

OP: I'm a 'workaholic' with a stressful job like you. Part of my mind is always on my work.

It seems that you're just looking to get off as opposed to finding shared intimacy. Unlike you, by my mid-30s, I already had my kids but was trapped in a sexless marriage. Now in my mid-40s, my recommendation would be to take a break as well and work on your health (I always sacrificed this)... With hundreds of SPs under your belt, you may need to be open to finding a perverted female version of yourself as vanilla will get boring. You can push this thought forward into different relationship dynamics.

riskparity · May 16, 2025

LTO_3 said:
It's the stress of your job and you always thinking about work that's causing it. Been there, done that. Best is to reduce your stress load and STOP THINKING about work all the time otherwise you'll burn out.
Take some time off, relax, and you'll find your libido will return and then you won't stop thinking about seeing SPs again.

LTO_3

thanks. ur probably right. appreciate ur help

Goodoer · May 16, 2025

LP191 said:
I’m almost 40 and don’t feel the need for SP’s as much as I used to, same goes for relationships and whatnot

I now completely understand how the old guy with a bunch of dogs was the happiest one on my block growing up lol

Having HOPE is what makes me happy. Being needed is what always keeps you going... I worry (and hope) that my sons will outgrow my usefulness... I'm not sure if I worry or not that my wife will ditch me when I'm old.

canada-man · May 16, 2025

Try increase your protein intake. Try protein powders that are marketed to vegans or whey protein powders(contains milk bad for those with lactose intolerance I use the vegan ones)

Muscle loss and protein needs in older adults - Harvard Health

Adults tend to lose muscle mass as they age. Protein is essential for building muscle, but some people may not get enough in their diets. Can protein supplements help?...

www.health.harvard.edu

lundunguy · May 16, 2025

Taking a break and relaxing should definitely work. More you worry about this worse it becomes.

Insidious Von · May 16, 2025

You want to restore your libido, run or better yet speed walk. Work isn't everything.

tris_82 · May 16, 2025

escortsxxx said:
Ah stress. Been there for me for since the pandemic full force. Knowing whats coming this Septemeber makes it worse I guess. Poor World.

What's coming this September?

Robert Mugabe · May 16, 2025

I got dumped a while ago by yet another atf. Curiously at my age I started my day off with blue balls. Something I had been ruminating that was a thing of the past and was sort of resigned to it. So, on the strength of my newfound libido I drove over to the woman's door. Had second thoughts about surprising her with an uninvited visit, since she quit answering my texts. Drove all the way back home. On the upside. My libido came back for a while.

LTO_3 · May 16, 2025

Robert Mugabe said:
I got dumped a while ago by yet another atf. Curiously at my age I started my day off with blue balls. Something I had been ruminating that was a thing of the past and was sort of resigned to it. So, on the strength of my newfound libido I drove over to the woman's door. Had second thoughts about surprising her with an uninvited visit, since she quit answering my texts. Drove all the way back home. On the upside. My libido came back for a while.

Yeahhhhh, surprise visits usually NEVER go well especially with someone in or once in the SP biz. More surprised you were able to leave with your pole and sack intact. Respect their privacy just as they respect yours. You seem to building a not so good rep with former regulars you once saw.

LTO_3

Robert Mugabe · May 16, 2025

LTO_3 said:
Yeahhhhh, surprise visits usually NEVER go well especially with someone in or once in the SP biz. More surprised you were able to leave with your pole and sack intact. Respect their privacy just as they respect yours. You seem to building a not so good rep with former regulars you once saw.

LTO_3

Well. I didn't get out of the car. Yea. The ones I like usually turn on me. Only a couple. But it hurts.

Moose134 · May 17, 2025

riskparity said:
Have been hobbying for 5 years at this point.

Seen over 100+ SPs and pretty much satisfied my itch but suddenly last 6 months all I seem to care for is a good massage and hand release.

Desire for intercourse has come off pretty significantly.

I do have a stressful job and am constantly thinking about work for more context.

While its definitely something different, I am not sure if its a bad thing and can channel my energy to work on my life/financial goals.

Also, extension of that is actually look to settle down with a "normal" person that I can have vanilla sex and start a family.

Sorry if this is something I should be speaking to a doctor or therapist vs fellow TERB users. But if someone actually has something helpful/insightful then I will buy them a beer at their favorite strip club lol

It’s fairly simple and nothing to worry about.

You are diverting more sexual energy away from women and toward financial goals. You’re unconsciously transmuting your sexual energy without even knowing it. You’re good.

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