Yeah I agree. I thought open minded meant a girl was open to the idea of fetishes or something. Like it means they're not going to make someone feel like a tool for asking to get a dick in the bum or lick their feet or armpit or ask to have someone fart in their mouth.
I used to say I was open minded to let people know I wasn't going to be a kink shaming b*tch if someone asked me for a fetish request.
I definitely wasn't trying to tell anyone I offered unprotected sex.
Everyone is different, so up front communication saves a lot of time and effort when it comes to finding a compatible provider. And, that not only includes personal tastes, fetishes, but also each half gets an idea of the personality of the other, a first clue as to whether there is a good chance that things will go smoothly. And sometimes you see some warning signs ...
As for requests for BBFS, I suspect that independent escorts attract a different crowd than other SPs. And personally I find the higher level of service and quality lead me to not even notice that I have a condom on during penetration especially over time as I get comfortable and can relax more with an escort.
As for Kink shaming, let's be honest, what comes out of our mouths maybe polite, accepting, etc., but in our heads we all do it. One person likes being humiliated, the other likes wearing diapers while calling the SP mommy, both think the other is weird. Respect and good behavior are choices, not natural compunctions. It is why I strongly believe in good manners - they enable us to co-exist with people who have very different ideas and values.