Is twice a week with the same provider too much?
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I've found that familiarity breeds routine...it becomes ordinary and most SPs just don't put in any effort to make it fun and different anymore.
If a, b, c, gets you off normally, that's all you get and they usher you to the door with a "see you next.time". It's cookbook...in fact I'm pretty sure one SP thatvI saw regularly took notes that said, for Ardy do this for 15 minutes, this for 5 then switch to this and you'll have him shooting in 10 minutes. If I tried to deviate a little like some standing hugging and DFK she'd quickly try to steer me to the bed and go to step a.
That's been my experience. I'd be interested in knowing what other guys experience?
If a, b, c, gets you off normally, that's all you get and they usher you to the door with a "see you next.time". It's cookbook...in fact I'm pretty sure one SP thatvI saw regularly took notes that said, for Ardy do this for 15 minutes, this for 5 then switch to this and you'll have him shooting in 10 minutes. If I tried to deviate a little like some standing hugging and DFK she'd quickly try to steer me to the bed and go to step a.
That's been my experience. I'd be interested in knowing what other guys experience?
First I am not an SP, so I can't say what they do as far as notes go. BUT!! If I were an SP.....which I am not, I would make notes on each of the individuals I would see. Yes understanding indivuduals is important and you can't remember everything everyone says to you or what they like or what gets them off. Remeber you said twice a week, so it wouldnt take long to remember your likes or dislikes. I tend to see a Lady once, so this doesn't tend to be my problem, also it is for a 2 hour session. Maybe if you still want to see the same peraon 2 times a week....tell her at the beginning that tonight we are switching it up! Dude you are the one who is paying for the experience, if you want a little change tell her in advance. Tell her you don't want your usual or what happened last time. I am 1000% sure she will work with you.....if you say nothing then don't expect change....these Ladies provide a service.....and none of it is a Mind Reader.....if you get off every time you see her.....her job is done!! Take a little control here.....or see someone else!! Or better yet pay me each week to go see the Lady for 2 hour session, before your 2 times a week session and I will explain everything to her for ya!!
HB69......was here!?!??!?! Sarcifices his time to help others.....have a better session!!
This actually describes exactly what I meant by the “bitter taste.” The first time feels organic, the second already feels scripted. And even when they try to make it different, it often feels like you’re being taken for granted and that corners get cut on a few things : time, passion... you name it.
To be fair, I also found myself becoming less willing to fully engage the second time around. Maybe because of the frustration of them being late, it becoming routine for me as well, or simply not being in the mood… I’m not entirely sure.
Thanks for sharing, it’s interesting to see I’m not the only one noticing this pattern.
I agree with you that communication is key, and I do take responsibility for not always expressing what I want in the moment and/or my frustrastion. That said, speaking up doesn’t always bring back the spontaneity, sometimes the dynamic itself has already shifted.
Is there a reason you tend to see a lady only once? I personally feel like it can become more “real” and passionate after a few repeats. I also had the case that it became a bit too reel. But that's another story. Also, I’m around the same age as the providers I date, if that matters for the conversation.
TBH it's not about keeping the notes. It's about it becoming very cookbook, every time the same.
And you try to say "oh! Keep that up, it feels good!!" But instead they switch to the next step..and so, on.
If I want that, I'll masterbate and watch the same video.
Sure record my likes and dislikes, but don't do the same thing, the same way EVERY TIME
Hard to say. Some SPs I’ve seen multiple times in a week kept it fresh and exciting. We were like horny teenagers. Another recent one seem to start taking me for granted and I found every time I repeated she cut more and more services. After the 4th visit I made a mental note to not repeat for a while and what happens? She DM’d me asking why she hasn’t seen me in a while so I went back and …she cut yet another service 
Your question asks for an opinion. My response that twice weekly with the same provider is very likely too much. One or both of you is likely to turn this into some form of dependency that may verge on some manner of 'relationship' that goes beyond provider/client boundaries. In situations like this, someone is likely to walk away unhappy or sad when it ends for any reason. Yes, it's great to feel safe and comfortable with a desirable lady who treats you well but, as you express, it can become routine for one or both of you. I was happiest when, before Covid hit, I enjoyed the company of 3 wonderful ladies in rotation. I prefer MA sessions and all three were great at that although they did offer FS as well. Each, who I trusted and could depend upon without fail, visited me of an hour once every 3 weeks. While we were familiar with each other, there was never a sense of boredom and I'm certain they looked forward to our encounters as much as I did. I sometimes served food with the wine and we dabbled in a few role plays or games. We enjoyed catch-up conversation as part of our sessions and each has some personal differences in preference of services... theirs and mine. Many times, they stayed for a while after their hour was up. Besides, it was a great way to celebrate my birthday three times each year as well as celebrate theirs. I also came to be 'grandfathered' by all of them so I benefited from a little relief when they increased their rates. Sadly, through the Covid times, two of them retired and the third gravitated to catering only to full at significantly increased rates. Perhaps you might enjoy something along these lines. If so, I suggest trying to find some established local ladies with good reputations who might fit your itinerary in times and your preferred types of encounters. Good luck!
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Is there a reason you tend to see a lady only once? I personally feel like it can become more “real” and passionate after a few repeats. I also had the case that it became a bit too reel. But that's another story. Also, I’m around the same age as the providers I date, if that matters for the conversation.
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Just to be clear, if the experience is good, it's not 1 and done. I just rotate through a string of ladies.
But I'm not a twice a week guy, either.
I've got the money and the stamina, but just not the time.
Is there a reason you tend to see a lady only once? I personally feel like it can become more “real” and passionate after a few repeats. I also had the case that it became a bit too reel. But that's another story. Also, I’m around the same age as the providers I date, if that matters for the conversation.
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Just to be clear, if the experience is good, it's not 1 and done. I just rotate through a string of ladies.
But I'm not a twice a week guy, either.
I've got the money and the stamina, but just not the time.
I think it really depends on how you are as a client
If you are a sweet gentleman, respect boundaries & make sure she has fun too? She would LOVE to see you twice week!
I personally think building long lasting friendships/ relationships in this industry should the goal
but that’s just my opinionWouldn’t you rather catch up with someone who knows a bit about you, can ask how that big meeting was, kisses your neck right where she knows already it gets you going… and so on
I understand the joy and excitement over someone new repeatedly but I also think familiarity can be beyond amazing for you & her
You guys have to remember every single time we meet someone new we have to worry about our safety, and how the session will go. (Yes stuff can always happen down the line, but it’s normally less likely)
So knowing a client is safe, respectful & again most importantly SAFE we will be more at ease and relaxed
I think it really depends on how you are as a client
If you are a sweet gentleman, respect boundaries & make sure she has fun too? She would LOVE to see you twice week!
I personally think building long lasting friendships/ relationships in this industry should the goal
Wouldn’t you rather catch up with someone who knows a bit about you, can ask how that big meeting was, kisses your neck right where she knows already it gets you going… and so on
I understand the joy and excitement over someone new repeatedly but I also think familiarity can be beyond amazing for you & her
You guys have to remember every single time we meet someone new we have to worry about our safety, and how the session will go. (Yes stuff can always happen down the line, but it’s normally less likely)
So knowing a client is safe, respectful & again most importantly SAFE we will be more at ease and relaxed
I have to agree chemistry is key I enjoy seeing a regular lady
Also knowing safety is key and getting to know someone it becomes a friendship you can always mix it up but having that one person you can count on is paramount
Just to be clear, if the experience is good, it's not 1 and done. I just rotate through a string of ladies.
But I'm not a twice a week guy, either.
I've got the money and the stamina, but just not the time.
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Just to clarify, I was referring to HB69’s message when I asked that. I wasn’t assuming it was your personal approach. Thanks for explaining your personal approach tho.
I really appreciate your perspective.I think it really depends on how you are as a client
If you are a sweet gentleman, respect boundaries & make sure she has fun too? She would LOVE to see you twice week!
I personally think building long lasting friendships/ relationships in this industry should the goal
Wouldn’t you rather catch up with someone who knows a bit about you, can ask how that big meeting was, kisses your neck right where she knows already it gets you going… and so on
I understand the joy and excitement over someone new repeatedly but I also think familiarity can be beyond amazing for you & her
You guys have to remember every single time we meet someone new we have to worry about our safety, and how the session will go. (Yes stuff can always happen down the line, but it’s normally less likely)
So knowing a client is safe, respectful & again most importantly SAFE we will be more at ease and relaxed
I actually once went three times in the same week with the same provider (after seeing her for month). The first two times were passionate, deep and emotional. The third time, everything kind of crumbled.
After that, I changed providers and started going once a week for a few months, and every session felt “real” and different, and I loved it. This week, I went twice, and the second time felt like too much for both of us, as if the dynamic had shifted.
I genuinely believe I’m sweet, respectful (and I tip very well). Also those are providers I've seen for months. So I don’t think the issue comes from how I treat them, nor that they might feel unsafe.
Maybe there’s an ideal rhythm that preserves intensity and depth. I think I'll stick to once a week with the same provider for now, it might be the sweet spot for me.
Just to clarify, I was referring to HB69’s message when I asked that. I wasn’t assuming it was your personal approach. Thanks for explaining your personal approach tho.
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Okay for the most part one and done? Well i really enjoy the excitement of meeting someone for the first time, and i only see Ladies about once every month or two for a 2 hour session. Lots of time to try (always aiming for 2 shots, not always lucky my problem not the Lady's) what I like and some conversation to get to know the Lady. I like the diversity, thrill, guess what she likes or finding out what she doesn't, think of it like a firat date each and everytime where i get naked and lucky....I am not really shy about being naked in front of the Ladies....no I am not toned or muscular....more Dad bod but I am just pretty relaxed in who I am. Prolly 2 or 3 of the Ladies have I seen more than once, and only one more than 5 times. It is my thing.....each of us has our thing like the Ladies do....
HB69.......was here!?!??!? Answering questions even if he is not asked a question!!
Okay for the most part one and done? Well i really enjoy the excitement of meeting someone for the first time, and i only see Ladies about once every month or two for a 2 hour session. Lots of time to try (always aiming for 2 shots, not always lucky my problem not the Lady's) what I like and some conversation to get to know the Lady. I like the diversity, thrill, guess what she likes or finding out what she doesn't, think of it like a firat date each and everytime where i get naked and lucky....I am not really shy about being naked in front of the Ladies....no I am not toned or muscular....more Dad bod but I am just pretty relaxed in who I am. Prolly 2 or 3 of the Ladies have I seen more than once, and only one more than 5 times. It is my thing.....each of us has our thing like the Ladies do....
HB69.......was here!?!??!? Answering questions even if he is not asked a question!!
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And......sorry for the short answer I was in a bathroom at a Chrismtas Party!
HB69......was here!??!?!
I doubt there’s a magic formula that works for all, in every circumstance.
developing rapport over time with the right person adds depth and intensity to sessions. Something to build off is a great thing to look forward to. To Nadia’s point, it’s nice when both parties have something to anchor on (if a lady is going through X or taking on Y passion project, I’m eager to know how that’s going weeks/months later).
on the flip side, remember that that person was once a “first” for you and that was exciting.. and this city, even if not the biggest of cities, is abundant with amazing women to experience. And sometimes what you experience with another makes you appreciate something about someone else even more, or allows you to introduce a new element with them.
It’s just balance, and that balance is surely unique to each of our preferences. My rule of thumb.. book when you miss them
developing rapport over time with the right person adds depth and intensity to sessions. Something to build off is a great thing to look forward to. To Nadia’s point, it’s nice when both parties have something to anchor on (if a lady is going through X or taking on Y passion project, I’m eager to know how that’s going weeks/months later).
on the flip side, remember that that person was once a “first” for you and that was exciting.. and this city, even if not the biggest of cities, is abundant with amazing women to experience. And sometimes what you experience with another makes you appreciate something about someone else even more, or allows you to introduce a new element with them.
It’s just balance, and that balance is surely unique to each of our preferences. My rule of thumb.. book when you miss them
Great points.
Booking when you miss them, not when you feel like it. It feels like a form of delayed gratification. I actually really like that idea.
It’s also refreshing to have more in-depth discussions here, thanks everyone for sharing your perspectives.
I've never had the financial luxury to see any Sp on the regularly.
Some Sp that only comes to Town once in a while I'll see them maybe 3-4 time a Year.
If I have the $$ I would see different weekly but I'd never see the same provider that frequently I'd probably see a provider every 3 to four months but not once or twice a that would be way too much for me
Some Sp that only comes to Town once in a while I'll see them maybe 3-4 time a Year.
If I have the $$ I would see different weekly but I'd never see the same provider that frequently I'd probably see a provider every 3 to four months but not once or twice a that would be way too much for me
Gonna be different for everyone plus how they jive with the lady, only one way to find out for you!
Whatever happens, don't start paying her bills and just giving her money...well unless you want to be a sucker.
Whatever happens, don't start paying her bills and just giving her money...well unless you want to be a sucker.
I might help if you tell us what you mean by "bitter taste". If the service is bad, usually we don't say that "it left a bitter taste" but that it was lame or mechanical.
On the second visit, did you bring flowers and profess your love or something and creep them out?
By “bitter taste,” I didn’t mean the service was bad or mechanical. It was more subtle than that.
For example, arriving about 6 minutes late and ending the session 8 minutes early (on a 1-hour booking), combined with an overall vibe that felt less engaging, less present, and less “real” than usual.
Nothing dramatic. Just small details that, added up, changed the feeling of the encounter for me. It could very well be external factors on her side, I may start reading too much into things.
