Discussion: The state of Durham reviews

brandon7649 · Dec 17, 2025

@missingme and @Jenesis , since I've seen you and can vouch for you, I reviewed out of my own volition.
You both are great! You deserve the praise. Its not just the sex I like, its the way you treat us.
Someday will visit the other well reviewed Durham gems and up-and-comers.

I see where the suspicion comes from and Heather alluded to it.
For most folks who have had bad experiences in the six, there are providers who offer discounts for reviews and thats just crappy.
But Durham by and large, so far, is more innocent.

whitewaterguy · Dec 17, 2025

Jenesis said:
I often asked not to be reviewed. Like in the summer, I am too busy and don’t offer a lot of “working days” and reviews bring new clients that I just can’t handle volume wise.

This is not to say that I ask for reviews either. I don’t but if I know a guy is a TERB member, I will sometimes ask not to be reviewed if I am not prepared for the extra volume.

I personally never mention to anyone I’m seeing , especially for the first time, that I’m on TERB. My personal opinion is that this is kind of tacky and implies attempts at leveraging favours. Unless I’ve experienced a disastrous or dangerous situation, I wouldn’t offer a review without the consent of the person in question.

I also despise the very micro, detailed play-by-play of every second ,of the reviewers experience. I think these are rather unnecessary, and somewhat demeaning, motivated by baboons who are essentially chest thumping . The only thing I need to know about a review is that the SP is legit , safe and not a source of chaos or scams . The page long play-by-plays , are inclined to give people hopes and expectations, which may or may not be in the cards for them as YMMV. , and going in with a whole bunch of expectations kind of destroys the sense of adventure and surprise . I’m not into repeating a robotic experience based on what some other dude has written.. I much prefer to create my own experience with the lady in question. . Sadly, civility and respect have become in short supply these days and that’s become obvious by many of the crude and unnecessarily detailed posts on Terb lately.

taker2ez · Dec 17, 2025

whitewaterguy said:
I personally never mention to anyone I’m seeing , especially for the first time, that I’m on TERB. My personal opinion is that this is kind of tacky and implies attempts at leveraging favours. Unless I’ve experienced a disastrous or dangerous situation, I wouldn’t offer a review without the consent of the person in question.

I also despise the very micro, detailed play-by-play of every second ,of the reviewers experience. I think these are rather unnecessary, and somewhat demeaning, motivated by baboons who are essentially chest thumping . The only thing I need to know about a review is that the SP is legit , safe and not a source of chaos or scams . The page long play-by-plays , are inclined to give people hopes and expectations, which may or may not be in the cards for them as YMMV. , and going in with a whole bunch of expectations kind of destroys the sense of adventure and surprise . I’m not into repeating a robotic experience based on what some other dude has written.. I much prefer to create my own experience with the lady in question. . Sadly, civility and respect have become in short supply these days and that’s become obvious by many of the crude and unnecessarily detailed posts on Terb lately.

Exactly

brandon7649 · Dec 17, 2025

whitewaterguy said:
I personally never mention to anyone I’m seeing , especially for the first time, that I’m on TERB. My personal opinion is that this is kind of tacky and implies attempts at leveraging favours. Unless I’ve experienced a disastrous or dangerous situation, I wouldn’t offer a review without the consent of the person in question.

I also despise the very micro, detailed play-by-play of every second ,of the reviewers experience. I think these are rather unnecessary, and somewhat demeaning, motivated by baboons who are essentially chest thumping . The only thing I need to know about a review is that the SP is legit , safe and not a source of chaos or scams . The page long play-by-plays , are inclined to give people hopes and expectations, which may or may not be in the cards for them as YMMV. , and going in with a whole bunch of expectations kind of destroys the sense of adventure and surprise . I’m not into repeating a robotic experience based on what some other dude has written.. I much prefer to create my own experience with the lady in question. . Sadly, civility and respect have become in short supply these days and that’s become obvious by many of the crude and unnecessarily detailed posts on Terb lately.

buddy, your connecting 2 and 2 to make it 5. you're reading too much into it. And frankly there are bigger fish to fry...I mean this sincerely.
Anyone writing a detailed long review doesnt mean theyre looking for that kind of experience everytime. Might not have to be the same everytime with everyone YMMV. I read it as them having a good time and the provider being genuine.
I'd leave whats crude or demeaning or whether play by play is a good thing for the lovely providers here to decide...that could be a double-edged sword coz then it'd seem like theyre curating whats said,
so I say, live and let live...

as for the bigger fish to fry, its the Wee House threads and the repeated deception. Thats the travesty. We're led to believe that the girls do whatever we see in porn, but on arrival its a complete 180 degree turn.. you'd be hard pressed to get a good 10 mins in. And its not just the Wee house, there are others...all of you know what im talking of by now...there need to be more reviews of that.

IndigoKnight · Dec 17, 2025

I personally enjoy reading detailed reviews and over all these years, some have steered me to some hidden gems. One person I miss reading reviews from is @Agent.Orange His reviews were both very detailed and accurate, combined with a sense of humour. I miss the good old days when he was still around contributing to this board.

missingme · Dec 18, 2025

Many of you Know i have been a member for a very long time with a 10 year break( possible age give away) LOL !! My point is , I read the the reviews, and have over the years , good and bad of myself and others ... as a business woman .. these reviews have helped me and I'm sure other SPs become better and more aware of men's needs and how you guys like or don't like things in and out of the bed. Obviously as an SP it helps to be a sensual , Kind woman and love Sex , but there is much more to it IMHO. I appreciate the reviews

And all of the Terb Ladies and Gents

RebelinBed · Dec 18, 2025

missingme said:
My point is , I read the the reviews, and have over the years , good and bad of myself and others ... as a business woman .. these reviews have helped me and I'm sure other SPs become better and more aware of men's needs and how you guys like or don't like things in and out of the bed. Obviously as an SP it helps to be a sensual , Kind woman and love Sex , but there is much more to it IMHO.

This right here is what many of the younger and new SPs are missing. This is why you and all the other Durham Greats have the reputations you have. This attitude and business-sense right here is the one thing you all share.

It also highlights something a lot of SPs fail to see reviews as: feedback. Be it positive or negative, it is feedback. It's not just meant for us to help each other as clients, it's meant to help the SPs too - provided they care enough to listen. But many don't.

Bearlythere · Dec 23, 2025

Jenesis said:
I also often feel like I have a “hype” to live up to. I’m not fond of the pressure to “preform”. I prefer a chill environment for both of us to explore and engage in making a personal intimate experience that we both enjoy.

It is a catch 22 because I love reading about how my clients have truly enjoyed their time. I don’t want that to stop but sometimes I just can’t handle the volume and I feel the pressure. LOL. Strange I know. Most want as many reviews as possible. I’m just different and quirky that way I guess.

I remember you asking me once you knew who I was to not do a review (and in the summer when I met you I understood why).

Guys who tell a provider they will do a review for any extra are to me scum. Your review is worthless. I do reviews only for ladies that haven't been reviewed that I feel are worthy of praise for the effort and care they took but in the case of some of the more well reviewed ladies on here you are so right. You feel pressure to meet an expectation that often is in the head of the guy coming in and if the chemistry isn't right, he feels like he got ripped off.

I think reviews should be done carefully and be always read with the codecil that your experience may be different....

Daddy2021 · Dec 23, 2025

whitewaterguy said:
I personally never mention to anyone I’m seeing , especially for the first time, that I’m on TERB. My personal opinion is that this is kind of tacky and implies attempts at leveraging favours. Unless I’ve experienced a disastrous or dangerous situation, I wouldn’t offer a review without the consent of the person in question.

I also despise the very micro, detailed play-by-play of every second ,of the reviewers experience. I think these are rather unnecessary, and somewhat demeaning, motivated by baboons who are essentially chest thumping . The only thing I need to know about a review is that the SP is legit , safe and not a source of chaos or scams . The page long play-by-plays , are inclined to give people hopes and expectations, which may or may not be in the cards for them as YMMV. , and going in with a whole bunch of expectations kind of destroys the sense of adventure and surprise . I’m not into repeating a robotic experience based on what some other dude has written.. I much prefer to create my own experience with the lady in question. . Sadly, civility and respect have become in short supply these days and that’s become obvious by many of the crude and unnecessarily detailed posts on Terb lately.

I have been saying this for years. The play by play down to each detail is strange and also I’m sure makes the ladies uncomfortable to be written about intimately. Just give the basics. That’s all that’s needed. They do it more for the community approval it would seem.

whitewaterguy · Dec 23, 2025

Daddy2021 said:
I have been saying this for years. The play by play down to each detail is strange and also I’m sure makes the ladies uncomfortable to be written about intimately. Just give the basics. That’s all that’s needed. They do it more for the community approval it would seem.

It seems to be juvenile ,” look at me and what I did”, ego gratification . Something which teenagers are prone to, bragging and showing off

or alternately , shilling and promoting. Using a private experience to create a public spectacle is simply uncool imho

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