What's going on here from a man's perspective
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He's spending the money and the customer is always right.
I doubt very much he actually came all this way for you.
This just sounds like gross entitlement.
Thanks for taking the time to write that. It was a very articulate answer and it does really make me understand the thought process there. I didnt really get what he was thinking but I understand now.
I did make a point of saying that I hoped that he didn't show up specifically for me and that he was in the area for something else. He said he was there specifically for me. I thought that was very strange considering he didn't have an appointment but I get mostly strange people contacting me when I advertise on Locanto. I paid for an "Top Ad" and Ive had this guy yesterday. Through the week 3 black men treated my ad like it's a dating site and someone ask me "front" them services, meaning they wanted me to provide services first and pay me later. Locanto is a shit show.
Its free and advertising is VERY cheap but it brings a quality of client I dont want.
Ive met some great people off of there but I feel like it also attracts more people like the person I posted about. The people that contact me from there are not particularly terrible they just seem to be less respectful of me and my time in general.
I did make a point of saying that I hoped that he didn't show up specifically for me and that he was in the area for something else. He said he was there specifically for me. I thought that was very strange considering he didn't have an appointment but I get mostly strange people contacting me when I advertise on Locanto. I paid for an "Top Ad" and Ive had this guy yesterday. Through the week 3 black men treated my ad like it's a dating site and someone ask me "front" them services, meaning they wanted me to provide services first and pay me later. Locanto is a shit show.
Its free and advertising is VERY cheap but it brings a quality of client I dont want.
Ive met some great people off of there but I feel like it also attracts more people like the person I posted about. The people that contact me from there are not particularly terrible they just seem to be less respectful of me and my time in general.
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Locanto is the worst of the 3 advertising boards you could use and that alone answers a lot regarding the guy that "wanted you". And no doubt you get a lot of requests like that when your ad is on Locanto. Not saying it wouldn't happen on the other advertising sites but have heard that often about Locanto. As for that guy, just block him and move on with your life. I'd suggest blocking all such calls moving forward IF you keep using Locanto.
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Some guys in this hobby just get too obsessive over sp's and feel like they have a special bond with the sp forgetting that there really just another client. Nothing more nothing mess. Just stay away from guys like theis. Listen to your gut and if your feeling a bad vibe it's best to just ignore and block. Don't ever feel bad about it. If your a good sp with a good reputation for every 1 one these guys you will have 10 guys who are going to be great clients.
(Clarity: I read back over the initial post, and I saw that you "blocked him" - so I guess this thought process I wrote out can be merely something to consider in the future with some random person)
Yes, no complete shock that a Craigslist-like website in their long-ago "Business Personals" area would indeed draw a more uncouth subset of humanity than would a place like TERB, where you have to register and interact before gaining very much from the content there. Of course the trade-off is a more vast viewing audience, and most probably more clientele scattered all across the spectrum.
There are too many variables with regard to how far your guy traveled (to reach your town) and whether or not he had cause to be in some other place along the way, or beyond your town, on the same trip) for me to gain a great deal of clarity about just HOW odd he might be, from the story of his having been in your town.
(here is an odd thing to ponder tangent to your queries about him)
Y'know those many times throughout ("real") life, out in public, when some guy was just staring at your chest... and seemed awkward as all hell... and because of the situations you stewed over it, mostly silently... for concerns of safety or for you yourself feeling inappropriate for the situation depending upon your own response/actions (as well as who else was around)???
Well consider the times when the overtness of the social offense wasn't that bad... and when you might have imagined yourself gently conversing directly with the offending party, beginning with: "Hi... what would it take to draw your attention (further) up HERE... <indicating your eyes> where I might be allowed to be and seem more like an actual person, and not just somebody to be stared at?"
(and of course such a person will usually feel a wave of self-consciousness, but you could still continue along the same line of conversation)
(continuing my silly example) "... you can imagine that there are countless times that I've had this experience, and it really isn't that difficult to engage me in direct and sincere conversation, perhaps while stealing sideways glances now and then, rather than to just stare silently..."
(now consider the realistic,-but-only-in-the-perfect-time,-company and place feeling that you'd have as you attempted to maintain direct eye contact with such a person, as the conversation drifts from the scripted to the unscripted and possibly toward shared interests and other such things)
CAN you attempt to (woo yourself through the same type of interaction with this guy who was the subject of your OP?) (this not yet having anything that we know of to DO with your chest, but just along the same lines of human interaction)
I am certainly not suggesting that you should make any effort toward making contact with him, but if he attempts further to spend paid time with you, it is possible it would set-up a unique scenario where you could woo his mind toward a mutually satisfying interaction that you might have with any client.
Maybe he learns from the experience, and takes from it a useful routine for the transactional relationships that he may have with future women.
I can only sense that the broad spectrum of what is out there (in the way of clients) is so vast that there are flaws in my thinking which I can't yet identify... but the end appeal might be either a more mutual appreciation or a more focused awareness of just how much of a concern the guy could be.
(I'm not sure the would-be awkward guy who lingers for too long staring at your chest is that far removed from the more common male appreciation for your figure) (and again, this has nothing really to DO with your chest, {at least not yet} )
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