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20 Definitive Moments When People Realized They Had To End A Relationship
Larry Fitzmaurice
Sat, April 26, 2025 at 8:16 a.m. EDT·5 min read
Redditor u/Holy-hamster16 recently asked the people of Reddit, "What made you realize, 'This person isn't for me?'" The answers might just make you update your own list of red flags to watch out for:
1."We were engaged and I got introduced at a party of work people as 'her friend.'"
—u/sisigenjoyerz
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2."When he hit his head against a brick wall because he was angry at me."
—u/No-Armadillo-8615
3."When he kept getting mad about stupid things. I didn’t want to be with someone who got angry so easily."
—u/Independent-Day-6458
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4."She admitted she used to talk softly so I couldn't hear her, while she knew I have hearing issues with really bad tinnitus."
—u/tmkn09021945
5."He slept with my sister."
—u/OddLeeEnough
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6."With my first wife, I don't remember what exactly happened, but there was a moment when I looked at her and thought, 'There is no way I'm having kids with this person.' Granted, she was an emotional mess, and she'd been getting worse over time. Things had piled up, and it was like a switch had flipped. Just one day, I said 'NOPE.'"
—u/sniksniksnek
7."He showed up to pick me up in a motorcycle. He had a helmet for himself, but not for me. He at no point mentioned he owned a motorcycle before the date."
—u/Madea_onFire
8."I was going to my friends’ punk show at the local record store/bookstore. He was driving and complained the whole way about how he didn’t understand why I was 'wasting money on a temporary experience.' I tried to explain to him that I was happy to support my friends, plus I’d get a night of fun doing something I’d never done before since I never go anywhere or do anything because he didn’t want to. He just went on and on about how he didn’t get why I’d want to do something like that when it’d just be over in a few hours. He just kept repeating that it was 'temporary.' I finally turned to him and said, 'Life is a temporary experience, so I’m going to enjoy mine while I have it.' When he told me that was stupid, I told him, 'We have very different views on life. I think we’re just fundamentally incompatible people.'"
—u/Jupiter_Matthews
9."I asked her a direct question, and she lied."
—u/Wisebutt98
10."My feelings turned off like a light switch when he rejected my hug because it was at his place of work and his 'work crush' was there. I broke up with him there. I didn't have no qualms. Just done. Over. Not a chance at fixing anything."
—u/ProfessionalLow7555
11."He was mean to my 4-year-old nephew."
—u/dicisbshk
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12."He lost his erection during sex and flipped out to the point where I felt unsafe. It had 'never happened before,' and that’s why he freaked out, according to him. He literally got up and got angry enough that he started kicking the door, and at that point, I was like, 'WHOA, do I even like this person?' It was like a veil was lifted, and suddenly, I realized I couldn’t stand all of his victim bullshit he was on all the time."
—u/naturesbookie
13."When I had to always either be with her, or on a phone call with her, just about every minute of my day."
—u/Adnauseamdeath
14."Maybe this is petty, but she thought the old lady from Titanic and the Joan of Arc movie were the same person. After just a couple weeks of dating, I found out she was filled with too much misinformation for me to work with."
—u/fafofkwk
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15."When I realized he was a momma's boy. She’s for real the reason why we broke up. He would justify every single rude comment she would make toward me by saying, 'Oh, she doesn’t mean it.' I couldn’t take it with her disrespecting me every single time there was a family dinner. Never again."
—u/yhlqmdlgpapi
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16."She licked kitchen knives seductively. I was like, 'Okay.' Weird, but maybe not a huge red flag, since everything else was going well. Boy, was I wrong. A few weeks later, she sent me pictures of her with handguns. For a week and a half, I was struggling to figure out how to break up without getting hurt. She broke up with me that week because she felt I wasn’t responding to her intimacy the way she needed. I was very saddened and distraught but assured her that she deserved better than me, someone who could definitely relate to her. I changed phone numbers that week and never looked back."
—u/lions2lambs
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17."He wanted me to spoon-feed him with airplane noises and pouted if I didn’t. He’s 25."
—u/FarPolicy970
18."His breath smelled like milk all the time. He'd always text me about his poops."
—u/Sea_Accident_6138
19."He refused to get a job and stayed at home pissing into bottles for some reason. His mother also called me a gold digger. Mind you, I was the only one working and paying for his car note, his insurance, the rent, the food, the utilities — but sure, I'm a gold digger."
—u/Steambunny
And finally...
20."The way he kissed. I've never had someone stick their tongue so far back in my mouth. It was a BIG turnoff."
—u/Hoozits_Whatzit
Got your own relationship horror stories? See you in the comments!
These entries were edited for length and clarity.
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20 Definitive Moments When People Realized They Had To End A Relationship
Larry Fitzmaurice
Sat, April 26, 2025 at 8:16 a.m. EDT·5 min read
Redditor u/Holy-hamster16 recently asked the people of Reddit, "What made you realize, 'This person isn't for me?'" The answers might just make you update your own list of red flags to watch out for:
1."We were engaged and I got introduced at a party of work people as 'her friend.'"
—u/sisigenjoyerz
Woman on stage playfully interacts with couple at a small club. Audience and dim setting visible
©TriStar Pictures/Courtesy Everett Collection
2."When he hit his head against a brick wall because he was angry at me."
—u/No-Armadillo-8615
3."When he kept getting mad about stupid things. I didn’t want to be with someone who got angry so easily."
—u/Independent-Day-6458
A man with an intense expression is speaking emphatically in a busy indoor setting. Another person is visible in the background
Warner Bros.
4."She admitted she used to talk softly so I couldn't hear her, while she knew I have hearing issues with really bad tinnitus."
—u/tmkn09021945
5."He slept with my sister."
—u/OddLeeEnough
Two people stand by a car outside a house. They are wearing formal coats, engaged in conversation, with holiday decor visible in the background
©20thCentFox/Courtesy Everett Collection
6."With my first wife, I don't remember what exactly happened, but there was a moment when I looked at her and thought, 'There is no way I'm having kids with this person.' Granted, she was an emotional mess, and she'd been getting worse over time. Things had piled up, and it was like a switch had flipped. Just one day, I said 'NOPE.'"
—u/sniksniksnek
7."He showed up to pick me up in a motorcycle. He had a helmet for himself, but not for me. He at no point mentioned he owned a motorcycle before the date."
—u/Madea_onFire
8."I was going to my friends’ punk show at the local record store/bookstore. He was driving and complained the whole way about how he didn’t understand why I was 'wasting money on a temporary experience.' I tried to explain to him that I was happy to support my friends, plus I’d get a night of fun doing something I’d never done before since I never go anywhere or do anything because he didn’t want to. He just went on and on about how he didn’t get why I’d want to do something like that when it’d just be over in a few hours. He just kept repeating that it was 'temporary.' I finally turned to him and said, 'Life is a temporary experience, so I’m going to enjoy mine while I have it.' When he told me that was stupid, I told him, 'We have very different views on life. I think we’re just fundamentally incompatible people.'"
—u/Jupiter_Matthews
9."I asked her a direct question, and she lied."
—u/Wisebutt98
10."My feelings turned off like a light switch when he rejected my hug because it was at his place of work and his 'work crush' was there. I broke up with him there. I didn't have no qualms. Just done. Over. Not a chance at fixing anything."
—u/ProfessionalLow7555
11."He was mean to my 4-year-old nephew."
—u/dicisbshk
Man in a plaid shirt talks to a young boy on a sofa. The boy holds an action figure, looking attentive. Indoor setting, casual interaction
©Columbia Pictures/Courtesy Everett Collection
12."He lost his erection during sex and flipped out to the point where I felt unsafe. It had 'never happened before,' and that’s why he freaked out, according to him. He literally got up and got angry enough that he started kicking the door, and at that point, I was like, 'WHOA, do I even like this person?' It was like a veil was lifted, and suddenly, I realized I couldn’t stand all of his victim bullshit he was on all the time."
—u/naturesbookie
13."When I had to always either be with her, or on a phone call with her, just about every minute of my day."
—u/Adnauseamdeath
14."Maybe this is petty, but she thought the old lady from Titanic and the Joan of Arc movie were the same person. After just a couple weeks of dating, I found out she was filled with too much misinformation for me to work with."
—u/fafofkwk
An elderly person with short, white hair holds an object, wearing a patterned shawl and layered necklaces
©20thCentFox/Courtesy Everett Collection
15."When I realized he was a momma's boy. She’s for real the reason why we broke up. He would justify every single rude comment she would make toward me by saying, 'Oh, she doesn’t mean it.' I couldn’t take it with her disrespecting me every single time there was a family dinner. Never again."
—u/yhlqmdlgpapi
Older woman playfully hugging a younger man, both smiling. Woman wears a patterned jacket; man in casual attire. Playful, lighthearted interaction
©20thCentFox/Courtesy Everett Collection
16."She licked kitchen knives seductively. I was like, 'Okay.' Weird, but maybe not a huge red flag, since everything else was going well. Boy, was I wrong. A few weeks later, she sent me pictures of her with handguns. For a week and a half, I was struggling to figure out how to break up without getting hurt. She broke up with me that week because she felt I wasn’t responding to her intimacy the way she needed. I was very saddened and distraught but assured her that she deserved better than me, someone who could definitely relate to her. I changed phone numbers that week and never looked back."
—u/lions2lambs
A person holds a lighter near their tongue while talking on the phone, creating a dramatic scene
20th Century Fox
17."He wanted me to spoon-feed him with airplane noises and pouted if I didn’t. He’s 25."
—u/FarPolicy970
18."His breath smelled like milk all the time. He'd always text me about his poops."
—u/Sea_Accident_6138
19."He refused to get a job and stayed at home pissing into bottles for some reason. His mother also called me a gold digger. Mind you, I was the only one working and paying for his car note, his insurance, the rent, the food, the utilities — but sure, I'm a gold digger."
—u/Steambunny
And finally...
20."The way he kissed. I've never had someone stick their tongue so far back in my mouth. It was a BIG turnoff."
—u/Hoozits_Whatzit
Got your own relationship horror stories? See you in the comments!
These entries were edited for length and clarity.
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