A Few Questions From A Guy Lacking Intimate Experience...

[CitizenV]

Before I ask my questions, a little about this first-time poster. I'm a 24 year old male and, yes, I suffer from total lack of intimate experience. For most of my teenage years, I was a fat, lonely hermit with few friends and no contact with the female of the species. In recent years, I've come out of my shell and, over the last year, I've lost a great deal (50 lbs) of that horrible weight. So now I'm 6'0" and weight in at around 195 lbs. (I'm still a little flabby, though, but there's nothing I can do about that...)

I've been told I'm not a bad looking guy. People lately have even been telling me that I look like either John Cusack, that guy from Dawson's Creek or Edward Norton (especially the latter) and they're not bad looking guys, right? (RIGHT???) But I have no confidence in myself because of my lack of experience with women. Pretty girls simple scare the crap out of me. And, as we all know, women can smell fear on a guy. There have been times girls have been interested in me but I always manage to screw it up by always second-guessing myself.

Anyways, with my 25th B-day coming up in a matters of weeks, I'm starting to get more desperate. I'm not going to be a 25 year old "you-know-what" (Starts with a "V" and ends with an "irgin"...) So I've considered renting out a hotel room during my birthday weekend and purchasing a hour or two of female campanionship before going out with my friends to the clubs. But I have a little bit of a fantasy for my first time. My friends and I go to a particular club every Friday night. And every week that I go, I end up leaving all by myself. On the Friday before my birthday, I want that to be different.

Would it be unreasonable to ask a potential SP to meet me at this club (after e-mailing a photo of myself to her, of coarse, so she knows what I look like) so that I could "pick her up" right in front of my friends and we could leave together? I figure I'd have to pay for two hours of her services (one hour for the time at the club and another hour of some "alone time" together at a nearby hotal. Does anyone see any potential problem with me asking about that? Or does it break some unwritten rule or something...?

Also, I was wondering if I should tell a potential SP about my lack of intimate experience. I think it could lead to a better experience but I don't want to embarass myself by telling her how pathetic I am. Otherwise, what should I say instead? That I'd prefer it if she took control and did most of the work, seducing me instead?

Any answers and/or comments (aside from "you're a f-ing *****, guy") would be appreciated...

 

[the rusty tromb]

Citizen V,

Do you know anybody that could set you up with a friend of theirs?

 

[zoickss]

I don't see sa problem with it and be as honest and open as you feel comfortable with any lady you choose to see - Angie from www.avery-and-associates.com might be a good choice for you - Angie is a sweetheart, has a knockout body, and is good at making a person feel comfortable with themself. Email them and ask them if you are interested and be honest off the start. I don't think its that girls can smell fear - but I think that alot like to see some confidence (but not over confidence) Just be yourself and be honest - it will help when you meet the right girl - I don't know if an SP is the right thing for a first time - but so long as you are comfortable with the idea I say go for it but definitely let her know its your first time.

 

[midLifeCrisis]

Any answers and/or comments (aside from "you're a f-ing *****, guy") would be appreciated...

Don't lie to your friends.

Don't lie to anybody.

 

[LateComer]

It seems to me that, while this may be a good fantasy, it could be very stressful for you. Have you thought of going to an MP to get your feet wet (so to speak). That way you can get used to the idea of being naked with, and being pleasured by, a woman.

 

[Mrs_Stiffler]

I've got to agree with hdog. How much fun are you going to have at the bar anyway, if all you are thinking about is your nervousness and excitement at the event to happen later? Your first time should be special. And when you set eyes on your lady you will be fairly near to exploding with anticipation.

I would suggest that you need an unrushed encounter, with multiple shots on goal (your first one might happen very quickly, but don't worry about it - call it a fast warm up). Be sure to tell your chosen lady that it is your first time. She will feel honored to share the experience with you and will be happy to help you feel more comfortable.

As for the suggestion of an MP, I don't agree that it is necessary. I'm sure you have played to a certain extent with other females, but just haven't gone all the way yet - and if that is what you are wanting for your birthday, then go ahead and give yourself a present. Just do your research first and ask lots of questions. I'm sure the guys here would be happy to help you with your selection.

 

[LateComer]

As for the suggestion of an MP, I don't agree that it is necessary. I'm sure you have played to a certain extent with other females, but just haven't gone all the way yet

I suggested an MP because I got the impression that he had not had any sort of sexual experience with women.

 

[hobbes713]

CitizenV,


Congratulations on finally coming out of your shell and losing all that weight. What's scary about your life story/experience is that it sounds almost exactly the same as my life story/experience (except I'm a couple of years older than you, are we long lost brothers? LOL). It's nice to have a little more confidence in yourself after losing all that excess luggage huh ?

My only suggestion to you is not bother meeting a SP at a club and spend an hour of service fee and not receive any action!!! Why not put that money to better use by seeing the SP for an extra hour of "alone time" or use it to see another SP. After all, the whole idea of this is to gain more intimate experience. Save your money for "action time" because this hobby can become quite addictive, trust me. But then again, this is a fantasy of your, so it's your call, this is just my two cents.

Also, I would tell the SP that you lack experience BUT ONLY tell them that "This is the first time you've been with a SP". They will find that cute and feel honoured that you chose them for your first SP experience. T his way they will ask what you like and they will be in more control of the session.

Anyway, have a happy birthday (I'm sure you will, LOL) and hope things turn out the way you want and congratulations again.

 

[MuffinMuncher]

My temptation is to tell you not to see an SP for your first time. Although for a guy the "first time" is not nearly as traumatic and memorable as it is for a girl, it is still not something to be taken lightly.

However, you seem to have thought it out, so if you ARE going to go this route, I would advise you to find someone who might be understanding of your situation. Although most women in this business are wonderful people, not all of them have the patience and empathy required for this mission.

First, think very hard about what you want out of this, and if you have any requirements on age, look, personality, etc. Just as their are all sorts of women in the real world, the same wide variety exists in the SP world.

Second, depending on your budget, dont go for a bargain. Buy quality. Communicate with your intended partner in advance via e-mail if at all possible to make sure she's in the loop and up for the challenge.

Finally, good luck. Do alot of searching on here to get your list of prospects, then start to narrow the field.

 

[twisted troll]

I'm strongly against the idea of having her meet you and your friends at the club because it could potentially backfire on you. What if it doesn't look credible? Your friends might get suspicious and you could be in for a horrible experience. I think it would be best to just have a private, intimate encounter at a hotel.

 

[La Contessa]

CitizenV

You may look like Edward Norton or John Cusack, but unless you are gifted and can 'act' like them, I think you could potentially embarass yourself with your plan to have the SP meet you at the bar. I agree with the above advice...Meet the SP before going to the bar. After you have 'dabbled' a little, you will feel more confident around women and it will show.

 

[FLT]

Just do it. The only way to get past your situation is to always stretch comfort zone. You are not unique when it comes to lacking self confidence. It's kind of a circle - the more comfortable you are with yourself, the more comfortable women are with you. The more women are drawn to you the more confidence you will have leaving you more comfortable with yourself. My guess is your lack of confidence extends to more than women. Just work on accepting yourself - that's the real solution.

Don't worry about trying to impress your friends with the bar thing. Impress yourself.

 

[The Baroness]

or meet her before and take her to the bar with you..............that way you have at least met her and you still get to woo ur friends.


BTW,I think you are a real doll.

 

[wrong hole]

Just be yourself.....rent a young hot SP for a couple hrs ...at least 2 hrs...that way no rush and msog is gurantee...but do it after the bar...too complicated to hook up unless you know the SP previously...take a look at the SP section for a young hottie that provides good service and great attitude....there's quite a few...


btw...I think you should practice with a sheep first to help build confidence....

 

[oldjones]

hobbes is right!

"Picking up" the SP in the club is a nice fantasy right out of the movies—where it takes a Director, hundreds of support personnel, month's of prep, talented actors and a decent script to make it look real. And you really think your improv with a stranger might convince your buds? Maybe just; if "the situation" is an SP in a bar picking up a newbie. But why all the effort to convince people, who already like you for yourself, that you're someone you're not? Sounds halfway to a sitcom already, doesn't it. Pretending is for pros†; the rest of us do better with some form of honesty, no matter how limited.
And the $$ thing: how do you know when the hour starts if you don't meet her as she arrives at the club? And an hour's mighty short; you'd be on the meter for the time other guys might waste hitting on her at the club, your friends might not be so willing to let you get away on your birthday—tick, tick—she'll charge for the travel-time from club to trysting spot—tick,tick—and if it's a hotel and you have yet to check in—tick, tick.
Relax, concentrate on setting up a good time that you and she will enjoy (you'll enjoy her pleasure more than you might think, and she'll care more about yours in return). The other posters have good suggestions, especially the pre-session e-mail/telephone 'interview'. Planning your pleasure deserves your full attention—and all your funds.
My own tiny contribution: Consider a preview half-hour nude reverse/bodyslide session at one of the better massage spots (IT, HFH, Allure, B&S, SRM) first. You'll have the first-time jitters in a relaxed setting with no performance issues, get over the "Omigod she's nekkid!!"shock, and maybe get some caress coaching if you ask. And you'll have change from the Hour-in-the-Bar budget.
Good luck and happy days. Enjoy

†Who was it who said, "The secret of great acting is sincerity. Once you learn to fake that, you'll be a star"?

 

[HowardHughes]

CitizenV,

I've got a better idea...

First, spend some "qaulity time" alone with the SP at your hotel/place of choice. Fully enjoy your time, as you are only there for yourself - not for your friends.

Not to sound harsh CitizenV, but if you're friends were really your friends, you shouldn't have to go through elaborate lengths to try to impress them!!! Trust me on this one - if you first spend your time with a great SP - then go to the bar afterwards where your friends are - you won't give a rat's a$$ what they think - you'll have a smile on your face, and they'll be standing around talking about how great they are...now, I know what I would rather be doing!!!!!

 

[drlove]

I'd recommend either Angie from Avery and Associates, or Alyse from Allison's Angels; both are very pretty with similar personalities and they offer a GFE which I'm guessing is what you are looking for during your first encounter.

Good luck, and let us know how everything went.

 

[Snake Pliskin]

Have any of your friends availed themselves of an SP? Would this be considered acceptable in your circle of friends, or would you feel obliged to keep it a secret for the rest of your life?

If these are good friends, there will be a lot of good times, a few sad times, and likely more than a couple drunk/medicated times. If you let it out later that you intentionally lied to them, you may regret it.

On the other hand, if you can screw up the courage to spend some time with an SP without volunteering the information to your friends, you will have never lied to them. Tell them whenever you are comfortable with it.

 

[minnie_me]

Go for it!

How many guys here would just love to walk into a club and leave with a honey? Not many are able to just like not many have been in a threesomes or sex in the back alley. This is a fantasy and if you have the resources to fulfill it then why not.

My advice to you would be to book a minimum of three hours or even an overnight. This would allow you to play out the fantasy to the max rather than meet at a club and rush off to a hotel. This way, you can chat, have some drinks and make out on the dance floor, etc.

Having said, going with an SP is not the route for building your confidence and abilities with the ladies. Try and keep hobbying in perspective.

Minnie Me.

 

[drlove]

Snake,

Are you referring to him spending time with the SP in private, or at the bar with his friends??

While I wouldn't recommend the bar scenerio either, whether seeing an escort is acceptable is irrelevent. CitizenV shouldn't be worried about this, or about keeping anything a secret. After all, it's his business - no one else's. If he chooses to see the escort privately, no one need know, unless he wants to tell someone.

On the other hand, if he decides to go through with his bar fantasy, there are a few options for dealing with his friends.

1) If his friends become suspicious, he may choose to shrug it off and say "just lucky I guess" to keep things intentionally vague. Of course, this could backfire and lead to incessant questions and harrassment.

2) An easy way to leave them speechless is to offer the truth. If his friends start asking questions about his "pick up", say "She's an escort. Does anyone have a problem with that??" Again, this method requires that he is confident enough around his friends not to care what they think. Btw.. if they are really his friends, the only thing they should care about is his personal happiness, and back off. (IMHO of course! =) )

3) If he pulls it off so well that no one becomes suspicious, good for him!