Can someone please give me some real advice here and how to handle this situation?
I’m probably going to get flamed for this being a newbie and all but I couldn’t bring myself to ask others what I should do! As it stands, I have known a certain person for about 6 years and throughout this period of time, he hasn’t really held down a full time job and when he did, it would be temporary and then he would collect UI. However, over the past few years that trend has continued and it got so bad that he has collected welfare for the past few years. I have always treated him to dinner, even purchased groceries for him, and basically have paid for EVERYTHING even on vacation where he said he has had no money! Well, something happened the past month that really upset me and talk about trust not being there any longer! I made some money with an offshore sportsbook and collect money via western union. I had this same person collect the money for me in Toronto because I live outside Toronto and it’s easier that way. It turns out that this same person I’ve been so kind to who I thought was my friend who admittedly says he has taken advantage of my kindness, decided to take the money I had coming from Western Union and paid the rent he owed his landlord. He apologized to me thinking I wouldn’t mind since I had money and that he was looking out for #1. He said he was trying to get odd jobs, and his welfare had run out. He gave me a check that his mother sent him via mail that I could have and he would pay me and didn’t think I would be upset over this. I was very upset to say the least and I continue to pay for this guy when we go out to sports bars or what have you. He even felt so guilty that he gave me his banking information and said check it out and clean out whatever you want! I decided not to because I felt sorry for him but something happened the past few days. Rent was coming due for him the beginning of the month (his rent is $600) and he said welfare is what he is getting again and they actually gave him a little bit more and said he had about a few hundred left over and if I wanted $100 out of the $260 he still owed me I could have that. I figured he had nothing left if he gave me that so I declined. This is the problem and obviously he’s unaware but I decided to go into his bank account from the information he gave me and not only did his welfare increase from $600 a month but it said he received $1296 from welfare and still had $700 left over after he paid his rent due which is $600! He lied about what welfare gave him and either his landlord lied to Welfare saying he was paying a lot more so that he has money left over the month or Welfare is being very generous this time! He moved from one location to a downtown location to live so I don’t know if that makes a difference in Toronto or not. What makes me more upset is the fact in his account details he apparently has money to spend at local establishments for drinks, even the wine rack and to buy groceries and smokes and NEVER has offered even to cover the tip when I take him out feeling sorry for him! What should I do, say that I went into the account and that he lied about the money he is getting now and even when he had little to spend, he still managed to buy himself booze or smokes but not offer to pay even for a coffee with me! The bottom line is he lied about what Welfare gave him this time and just last night he went out gave me the sob story that he can’t afford to go out but his account shows he spent $30 last night at a bar! Should I confront him about what is going on now and ask why he has NEVER offered to pay for anything? I really confused and is this really a friendship or anyone else ever go through this?
I’m probably going to get flamed for this being a newbie and all but I couldn’t bring myself to ask others what I should do! As it stands, I have known a certain person for about 6 years and throughout this period of time, he hasn’t really held down a full time job and when he did, it would be temporary and then he would collect UI. However, over the past few years that trend has continued and it got so bad that he has collected welfare for the past few years. I have always treated him to dinner, even purchased groceries for him, and basically have paid for EVERYTHING even on vacation where he said he has had no money! Well, something happened the past month that really upset me and talk about trust not being there any longer! I made some money with an offshore sportsbook and collect money via western union. I had this same person collect the money for me in Toronto because I live outside Toronto and it’s easier that way. It turns out that this same person I’ve been so kind to who I thought was my friend who admittedly says he has taken advantage of my kindness, decided to take the money I had coming from Western Union and paid the rent he owed his landlord. He apologized to me thinking I wouldn’t mind since I had money and that he was looking out for #1. He said he was trying to get odd jobs, and his welfare had run out. He gave me a check that his mother sent him via mail that I could have and he would pay me and didn’t think I would be upset over this. I was very upset to say the least and I continue to pay for this guy when we go out to sports bars or what have you. He even felt so guilty that he gave me his banking information and said check it out and clean out whatever you want! I decided not to because I felt sorry for him but something happened the past few days. Rent was coming due for him the beginning of the month (his rent is $600) and he said welfare is what he is getting again and they actually gave him a little bit more and said he had about a few hundred left over and if I wanted $100 out of the $260 he still owed me I could have that. I figured he had nothing left if he gave me that so I declined. This is the problem and obviously he’s unaware but I decided to go into his bank account from the information he gave me and not only did his welfare increase from $600 a month but it said he received $1296 from welfare and still had $700 left over after he paid his rent due which is $600! He lied about what welfare gave him and either his landlord lied to Welfare saying he was paying a lot more so that he has money left over the month or Welfare is being very generous this time! He moved from one location to a downtown location to live so I don’t know if that makes a difference in Toronto or not. What makes me more upset is the fact in his account details he apparently has money to spend at local establishments for drinks, even the wine rack and to buy groceries and smokes and NEVER has offered even to cover the tip when I take him out feeling sorry for him! What should I do, say that I went into the account and that he lied about the money he is getting now and even when he had little to spend, he still managed to buy himself booze or smokes but not offer to pay even for a coffee with me! The bottom line is he lied about what Welfare gave him this time and just last night he went out gave me the sob story that he can’t afford to go out but his account shows he spent $30 last night at a bar! Should I confront him about what is going on now and ask why he has NEVER offered to pay for anything? I really confused and is this really a friendship or anyone else ever go through this?
