Abortion question, please help!

[Back Burner]

Before I ask, please no pro-choice or pro-life preaching.

My best female friend is pregnant to a real jerk. She is deciding whether or not she should have an abortion. I told her I would stand beside her whatever her decision.

I told her to see her family doctor but she seems to be very hesitant for some reason.

She has never been through this before and wants me to help her with two questions.

1) What could be the long term, if any, effects of having an abortion?

2) Where would be the best place(s) to take her to have one, if she decides?

If anyone could give me a serious answer please help me out.

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Thanks

Back Burner

 

[Cardinal Fang]

Before I ask, please no pro-choice or pro-life preaching.

1) What could be the long term, if any, effects of having an abortion?

2) Where would be the best place(s) to take her to have one, if she decides?

If this a serious post it is the wrong forum. No offense, but the only person who can answer these questions and more is a physician after examining your friend. Find a doctor. If she is not happy with what she's hearing find another until you are satisfied she has all the information she needs. Then and only then she can make an INFORMED decision.

No one here knows her physical and/or mental situation. To give advice on such a matter is dangerous. If you are truly her friend.........get her to a doctor.

Good Luck!

 

[queenie]

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Your friend is lucky to have a supportive friend like you around. You should get in touch with the Hassle Free Clinic ASAP (www.hasslefreeclinic.org). They provide services like counselling, pregnancy tests and abortion referrals in a completely non-judgemental atmosphere. They can answer all your friend's questions and allay any concerns she might have, all without bias.
Warm regards and good luck,
Queenie.

 

[Teddybear]

have to agr

the folks at hassle free are excellent...you can also check out the counselling services at women's college hospital...

 

[Thunderballs]

The only thing that I might add here is that time can be of the essence. Some women procrastinate about the decision until one day it is too late to do it legally and then they must resort to more dangerous measures if they ultimately decide to abort. Don't rush her but she should be aware that there is a legal deadline. Talking to a doctor asap will make her aware of this.

 

[Cruise]

hi.

i have seen alot of abortions.. here are the steps for ur friend:
1) see your doctor, they will provide info u need and they will do it for your friend.

2) lets break the terror in her heart, abortion is not that terrible as you thought, i seen a person who got her 1 month baby out when she was taking a piss. she couldn't even feel it. and second, abortion is a very simple thing, doctor give you an needle and after a while the baby would come out.

you can walk and talk a few mints after the abortion!

 

[Mrs_Stiffler]

Sorry Cruise, but it is not that simple at all. For many women it does mean a day in the hospital, general anaesthetic, and days of cramping and bleeding after. That is the reality and to tell her it is nothing more than a needle is very misleading. I'm sure that was your friend's experience and that is probably based on her going to the doctor in the first month. The closer you get to the 3month mark, the more recovery time will be needed.

The lady in question definitely needs to be seen by a doctor ASAP, as in today. Ultrasound will be ordered to confirm the gestation of the pregnancy before any other treatment can be offered. Each additional step adds more time. She should get her butt into the clinic today.

Secondly, although the physical consequences may not be terrible, as Cruise states, the emotional can last a lifetime. I don't believe that any woman gives up her pregnancy easily. Those who haven't been through it may see a 1 month pregnancy as nothing more than a cluster of cells, but it is definitely a lot more to the woman carrying it. Don't underestimate the power of supportive and compassionate friendship as she goes through this. The first few days after will be uncomfortable emotionally and physically and she will need a warm shoulder to lean on.

 

[syn]

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if she is before 10 weeks, it is possible to terminate the pregnancy with a needle to the thigh area.

after 10 weeks, she needs to decide if she wants to go to a clinic or "go under" at a hospital.

the hassle free clinic is the best option. also, she can get info from the "bay centre for birth control".

syn