There have been a few occasions in my life when married women have clearly indicated their interest in having an affair with me. I always rebuffed their efforts - too messy, too complicated. I can't go back and undo my decision so I will never know if I was right or wrong. Does anybody have experience in these matters. Regrets? or fond memories?
Affairs with married women - too complicated?
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Dude!
Oh, you may not be married. Same policy however, if she tells you her husband is a prick and is going to leave him >>> RUN FOR THE HILLS<<<.
Lots out there are comfortable with their arrangement at home but just need some love.
A married man should ONLY romp with married women that have no intention of leaving thier husband. If you share the same risk ugly situations are less likely.havingfun said:
Oh, you may not be married. Same policy however, if she tells you her husband is a prick and is going to leave him >>> RUN FOR THE HILLS<<<.
Lots out there are comfortable with their arrangement at home but just need some love.
Been there, done that, still recovering. Obviously every situation is different, but my advice is its too complicated, too messy, too much possibility for too much to go wrong.havingfun said:
You have no way of knowing of the husband is ok with the idea. In my situation she claimed her husband said it was ok. Only problem is later on he says to her that he wasn't serious and how could she possibly think he's serious about such a thing. Then the shit hits the fan because she can't handle what she's done, the secret was too much for her. The husband senses something happened, senses it was with me but has no proof. He threatens to make my life hell if he gets proof it was me with his wife. The girl goes nuts fearing she's ruinned her husband's life, my life, and her own. I began to fear that she'd hurt herself or worse (and me feeling responsible), began to fear her breaking down telling her husband and him coming after me, etc.
In the end they divorced for many various reasons unrelated to the suspected affair but brought to the surface because of it and the husband now thinks he was just paranoid for accusing me.
Everything is kinda ok now, but the whole "affair" took its toll on everyone and I'll live forever with knowing I was part of this whole messed up situation.
So in the end, my advice is its not worth the potential fall out.
Been there done that as well. Don't do it. It wears on you. And if one or both of you fall for each other. Well...let's just say divorce ISN'T the path to financial freedom. I know.
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It really comes down to how good a judge of character you are and how much control you have over yourself.
If a married woman is looking to have an affair with a view to leaving her husband and getting attached to someone else, then take a wide berth. If she accepts that ending her marriage is not an option, but just needs to enjoy her life more in order to get through the tough times, it may be an option. You're probably safer if she has kids, as she's less likely to want to disrupt their lives.
As to your control, don't do it if you couldn't walk away at any time and behave sensibly. One day you will have to do this, and you should only go into it realizing this from the start.
Life's too complicated, short, and uncertain to live by absolutes. This sort of relationship could give you a reason to live, or could ruin your life. You have to exercise a lot of judgement.
Of course, if we were all capable of this, we wouldn't marry the wrong person in the first place!
If a married woman is looking to have an affair with a view to leaving her husband and getting attached to someone else, then take a wide berth. If she accepts that ending her marriage is not an option, but just needs to enjoy her life more in order to get through the tough times, it may be an option. You're probably safer if she has kids, as she's less likely to want to disrupt their lives.
As to your control, don't do it if you couldn't walk away at any time and behave sensibly. One day you will have to do this, and you should only go into it realizing this from the start.
Life's too complicated, short, and uncertain to live by absolutes. This sort of relationship could give you a reason to live, or could ruin your life. You have to exercise a lot of judgement.
Of course, if we were all capable of this, we wouldn't marry the wrong person in the first place!
And then there's always the possiblity of getting shot.
You need to work that into the equation too.
You need to work that into the equation too.
Ya, I know
I had a fling 23 years ago. This girl was drop dead beautiful, I couldn’t resist. We both made it clear it could never interfere with our marriages. She’s downstairs right now getting ready for workclearwaterjim said:
Glad to hear all is well but can you elaborate on any troulbles you may have experianced in the early stages of your fling?Tragically_Glib said:I had a fling 23 years ago. This girl was drop dead beautiful, I couldn’t resist. We both made it clear it could never interfere with our marriages. She’s downstairs right now getting ready for work
It was hell
A lot of people got hurt, it was hard. But we were and are still so very in love. You can't control love. I was stuned, It happened in a twinkling of the eye and caught me unaware. Would I do it again. Man, with a great deal of hesitation I have to say yes. She is the most beautiful thing I have ever seen.clearwaterjim said:
Why did you have to stir that up
It still stirs thing deap within me. It really was a nightmare.clearwaterjim said:
Sorry bud din't mean to , but wittnessed many similar situations in my own family and I know that everything comes with a price. Yes things worked out for you but I bet there are many people who have suffered as a result.Tragically_Glib said:
Yes,
Would you take on that burden for a life time of love with a woman that makes your heart skip every time you look at her?clearwaterjim said:
Absolutely ............................................................NOT.Tragically_Glib said:
Good choice!
Things women never say, but, dammit, should...
1. I'll swallow it all . . . I love the taste.
2. Are you sure you've had enough to drink?
3. I'm bored. Let's shave my pussy!
4. Shouldn't you be down at the bar with your buddies?
5. That was a great fart! Crank out another one for me!
6. I've decided to stop wearing clothes around the house.
7. You're so sexy when you have a hang-over, I hope you have another one tomorrow.
8. I'd rather watch football and drink beer with you than go shopping.
9. Let's subscribe to Hustler.
10. Would you like to watch me go down on my girlfriend?
11. Say, let's go down to the mall so you can check out women's asses.
12. I'll be out painting the house.
13. I love it when you play golf on Sunday's, I just wish you had time to play on Saturday too.
14. Honey, our new neighbour’s daughter is sunbathing again, quick, come see!
15. I know it's a lot tighter back there, just force it in!
16. No, No, I'll take the car to have the oil changed.
17. Your mother is way better than mine.
18. Do me a favour, forget the stupid Valentine's Day thing and buy yourself some pot.
19. I understand fully...our anniversary comes every year for Christ' sake, you go hunting with the guys, it's a wonderful stress reliever.
20. Oh come on, what do ya say we get a good porno movie, a rack of beer, a few joints, and have my friend Tammy over for a threesome!
21. Christ, not the fucking mall again, come on let's go to that new strip joint!
22. Listen, I make enough money for the both of us, why don't you retire and get that nagging handicap down to 7 or 8.
23. You need your sleep ya big silly, now stop getting up for the night feedings.
24. Damn, ...if I don't get to blow you soon, I swear I'm gonna bust!
25. I signed up for yoga so that I can get my ankles behind my head for you.
I just couldn't live without her. It was selfish, I know that. The price was high and I paid it. The following will break the tension, I hope.clearwaterjim said:
Things women never say, but, dammit, should...
1. I'll swallow it all . . . I love the taste.
2. Are you sure you've had enough to drink?
3. I'm bored. Let's shave my pussy!
4. Shouldn't you be down at the bar with your buddies?
5. That was a great fart! Crank out another one for me!
6. I've decided to stop wearing clothes around the house.
7. You're so sexy when you have a hang-over, I hope you have another one tomorrow.
8. I'd rather watch football and drink beer with you than go shopping.
9. Let's subscribe to Hustler.
10. Would you like to watch me go down on my girlfriend?
11. Say, let's go down to the mall so you can check out women's asses.
12. I'll be out painting the house.
13. I love it when you play golf on Sunday's, I just wish you had time to play on Saturday too.
14. Honey, our new neighbour’s daughter is sunbathing again, quick, come see!
15. I know it's a lot tighter back there, just force it in!
16. No, No, I'll take the car to have the oil changed.
17. Your mother is way better than mine.
18. Do me a favour, forget the stupid Valentine's Day thing and buy yourself some pot.
19. I understand fully...our anniversary comes every year for Christ' sake, you go hunting with the guys, it's a wonderful stress reliever.
20. Oh come on, what do ya say we get a good porno movie, a rack of beer, a few joints, and have my friend Tammy over for a threesome!
21. Christ, not the fucking mall again, come on let's go to that new strip joint!
22. Listen, I make enough money for the both of us, why don't you retire and get that nagging handicap down to 7 or 8.
23. You need your sleep ya big silly, now stop getting up for the night feedings.
24. Damn, ...if I don't get to blow you soon, I swear I'm gonna bust!
25. I signed up for yoga so that I can get my ankles behind my head for you.
