Affairs with married women - too complicated?
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What are we talking about
A) Having an affair with a married woman
B) Hurting people to be with your lover
it ain't worthenduser1 said:
A) Having an affair with a married woman
B) Hurting people to be with your lover
B
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no way
Its all fun and games when you are the one fucking around trust me it ain't so much fun when you are the one fucked around on.
If you must screw around get a escort, if you want a relationship get a divorce and go back to dating
Its all fun and games when you are the one fucking around trust me it ain't so much fun when you are the one fucked around on.
If you must screw around get a escort, if you want a relationship get a divorce and go back to dating
A few years ago, I was the one getting fucked around on.
Funny thing was that the relationship wasn't that great (though it did have its moments).
She was totally insecure, selfish to the max, a dictator, etc. She was always trying to control everything and everyone. (She had been fired from 3 jobs in 3 years.)
Anyway, at one point she told me that I was not to have anything to do with a long time friend (a threat to her), that I was not to see my sister anymore (a threat to her), and "limit my involvmet with my parents". I.e. not see them anymore either.
Needless to say, I ignored her.
Result, she started having an affair with this guy that was in her aerobics classes. It was an affair of the heart, not of the pussy either.
One day, she announced that she wanted "to be single again". After 5 years. I found that completely odd cause the times I was threatening to walk, she would physically lock her arms around me, my leg, etc to prevent me from leaving. One time I was dragging her across the floor while she was locked around my leg. It was unreal.
Anyway, when she announced that she wanted to be single again, I asked her if she was seeing anyone else. She said no. But it didn't fit with her past behaviour. This is a woman who had not been single for ONE MINUTE since she had her first boyfriend at 16. She always went from one guy immediately to the next. (Yes, I was an overlap too, however, when I met her, she was lving in Toronto, her BF was living in Calgary and couldn't decide whether he was married or separated. Along came single me and she made her decision fairly easily.)
Anyway, I bugged the telephone at home and hit pay dirt within a day as to who she was seeing (not my prime suspect, but one of them.)
Long story short, that guy who she was seeing ended up marrying her.
At first I was pissed off, but then I realized that he did me the BIGGEST favour in the world. As much as I still think he is a flake, I would have probably committed suicide by now if I was still with her.
Strangely enough, I owe him one for taking her off my hands and making her his problem.
(I have heard through the grape vine that he is now at HIS witt's end trying to cope with her.)
Funny thing was that the relationship wasn't that great (though it did have its moments).
She was totally insecure, selfish to the max, a dictator, etc. She was always trying to control everything and everyone. (She had been fired from 3 jobs in 3 years.)
Anyway, at one point she told me that I was not to have anything to do with a long time friend (a threat to her), that I was not to see my sister anymore (a threat to her), and "limit my involvmet with my parents". I.e. not see them anymore either.
Needless to say, I ignored her.
Result, she started having an affair with this guy that was in her aerobics classes. It was an affair of the heart, not of the pussy either.
One day, she announced that she wanted "to be single again". After 5 years. I found that completely odd cause the times I was threatening to walk, she would physically lock her arms around me, my leg, etc to prevent me from leaving. One time I was dragging her across the floor while she was locked around my leg. It was unreal.
Anyway, when she announced that she wanted to be single again, I asked her if she was seeing anyone else. She said no. But it didn't fit with her past behaviour. This is a woman who had not been single for ONE MINUTE since she had her first boyfriend at 16. She always went from one guy immediately to the next. (Yes, I was an overlap too, however, when I met her, she was lving in Toronto, her BF was living in Calgary and couldn't decide whether he was married or separated. Along came single me and she made her decision fairly easily.)
Anyway, I bugged the telephone at home and hit pay dirt within a day as to who she was seeing (not my prime suspect, but one of them.)
Long story short, that guy who she was seeing ended up marrying her.
At first I was pissed off, but then I realized that he did me the BIGGEST favour in the world. As much as I still think he is a flake, I would have probably committed suicide by now if I was still with her.
Strangely enough, I owe him one for taking her off my hands and making her his problem.
(I have heard through the grape vine that he is now at HIS witt's end trying to cope with her.)
Hey Kirk, were we married to the same woman???? Damn, the only difference is that my x-wife went to some hobbit who lived in a cabin in the middle of frikkin' nowhere.
Scary isn't it.a 1 player said:
(Except, I was just living with this one, mind you, we had bought a house together, joint account, car, RRSP's etc. so there was a lot of grief. No kids though, thank dog.)
My ex was a complete right wing Thatcherite, who hooked up with a guy who is almost a communist he's so bleeding heart. He works (sometimes) doing aid / charity work to help save the "Oogoni People" of Nigeria and any other oppressed people around the world.
My ex was the most career driven person I had ever met in my life.
Opposites do attract sometimes.
As I said though, I owe him one. I truly do.
Call me a dumb shit but I had 2 affairs with married women, both backfired badly. The first one told her husband about me to get back at me for dumping her. I was looking over my shoulder for several months on that one. The second told her husband about me when she was divorcing him, just to piss him off. It worked.
Payback is a bitch, but my ex was fooling around on me with a tennis partner, she is married to him now and I am grateful that he took her. I didn't really like her personality even before we were married, but she was hot and good in the sack.
Payback is a bitch, but my ex was fooling around on me with a tennis partner, she is married to him now and I am grateful that he took her. I didn't really like her personality even before we were married, but she was hot and good in the sack.
Its almost text book Borderline Personality Disorder. If that's what she had, then that guy did indeed do you the biggest favor in the world...james t kirk said:
I don't even know how it gets to that point.
I think about all the married people I know, and I just do see how an affair can arise....
between work and family responsibilities; who has the time to go and meet someone, woo them, spend (some) time with them and then fuck them?
I think about all the married people I know, and I just do see how an affair can arise....
between work and family responsibilities; who has the time to go and meet someone, woo them, spend (some) time with them and then fuck them?
It is this very feeling that takes an affair from the physical to the emotional level. It is easy to walk away from the physical part of the relationship but as I have found out you can't walk away from the emotional part. I hate myself for the hurt and pain this could cause to some very close to me but the emotional feeling related to the lady I am involved with is so intense that it overrides my other judgement. You live in a world of deception, not because you enjoy it but it is the only way to juggle the predicament you put yourself into. We never planned on developing such a strong emotional tie but in hindsight it is inevitable otherwise the affair would fizzle out. Now I have some really big decisions to make, I am the one married. The easy way out is to end the relationship/affair and only 2 people are hurt, one of them being me. My heart now won't let me do this so I am treading water. It is a good thing I can manage stress effectively otherwise I would be a nut-case. I would never recommend this to anyone but I have me a wonderful person who I connect with better than anyone else in every way so I don't regret it, I just regret the circumstances, but oh well, we only live once!Tragically_Glib said:
In the 90's I was living in Ottawa and had started to see SP's so perhaps I was already more open to have an affair. I was still fucking my ex regularly but it was the variety that I was searchng for each day.
While at an out of town conference I said something to one of my 3 employees who was there with me doing booth duty. Her reply spurred me to meet her later for a drink in her room. I went from putting ice cubes in her drink to rubbing ice cubes on her nipples. As someone said above she made me feel 19 again and we fucked all night long and each night for the next 3 nights.
Returning to Ottawa we used to work long hours and fuck in my office or our cars or in the park. She was already living in another room at home so in fact she was separated. I was still fucking my ex who, if she suspected anything, said nothing.
Our affair went on for almost 18 months by which tiem she had moved out into her own place and I was mentally ready to finally leave my ex. At that time she moved out of town, took up a new job and I am pretty sure was fucking her new boss who was also an ex colleague of both of us.
I was devasted as by that time I was truly emotionaly madly in love with her. What it was in hindsight, was her using me as her boss (yes I let myself be used for pay raises, annual reviews, etc) until the day came that I was promoted to another job and was no longer her boss. I was truly blinded by lust and then love and it was the only time in my life that I was in trouble mentally.
A year later I was back on my feet and I decided to move on and I split with my ex (amicably). The only downside was the hurt that my grown kids had and as I moved away they drifted apart from me for a few years.
Do not have an affair of the heart. Either leave your wife or else stick to SP's for the variety or become a swinger with your wife's involvement.
While at an out of town conference I said something to one of my 3 employees who was there with me doing booth duty. Her reply spurred me to meet her later for a drink in her room. I went from putting ice cubes in her drink to rubbing ice cubes on her nipples. As someone said above she made me feel 19 again and we fucked all night long and each night for the next 3 nights.
Returning to Ottawa we used to work long hours and fuck in my office or our cars or in the park. She was already living in another room at home so in fact she was separated. I was still fucking my ex who, if she suspected anything, said nothing.
Our affair went on for almost 18 months by which tiem she had moved out into her own place and I was mentally ready to finally leave my ex. At that time she moved out of town, took up a new job and I am pretty sure was fucking her new boss who was also an ex colleague of both of us.
I was devasted as by that time I was truly emotionaly madly in love with her. What it was in hindsight, was her using me as her boss (yes I let myself be used for pay raises, annual reviews, etc) until the day came that I was promoted to another job and was no longer her boss. I was truly blinded by lust and then love and it was the only time in my life that I was in trouble mentally.
A year later I was back on my feet and I decided to move on and I split with my ex (amicably). The only downside was the hurt that my grown kids had and as I moved away they drifted apart from me for a few years.
Do not have an affair of the heart. Either leave your wife or else stick to SP's for the variety or become a swinger with your wife's involvement.
We were at a group dinner and our boss' bill was over $1800 for about 16 of us. I whispered to her that with $1800 I could buy a lot of premium liquors. She replied "make sure that you don't drink alone tonight". I remember using the service elevators so I would not bump into any colleagues as I went to her room.Mongrel4u said:
If you are looking at married women, I suggest you do an about face, hop on a plane to Bangkok and get 2 girls for massive single safe sex at the nearest Soapie. That will end the problem.
Gyaos Baltar.
Gyaos Baltar.
Gyaos said:
Perhaps it may do that if you are only looking for sex.
Sometimes it is just pleasant to do everyday stuff with someone who does make your heart skip when you see her. Spooning in the middle of the night, laughing together at a funny movie, reading in front of a fireplace on Sunday morning, drawing her a bubblebath...it is hard to buy that.
