breakups

[torex]

I have been in a 2.5yr relationship that recently ended. I knew it was comming,I knew it would'nt last from the beginning,she was'nt someone I would typically date but something about her grabbed my heart,something made me love her.

I'm ok with it ,but its still hard...we left each other on good terms but to me ,it's to hard to be friends right now...I'm still thinking of her with my heart...worse thing is I adore her daughter ,we got pretty close over the 2.5yrs....I mentioned to her daughter one night when we wheredoing her homework a few weeks ago ....I asked her "would you miss me if I moved away and you never saw me again?"...she told me she would miss me more then anything and started to cry saying "don't move" "why are you moving?" "who's making you move"...it was horrible ...I just about died....I should have never said anything ,but I knew the relationship was ending and I wanted her to know that I would miss her and always remember her...

it's been 12 days since I saw or talked to them ...at my age I should'nt be going through this kind of drama....damn genX

this whole romance whirlwind reminded me why I tended to steer clear of relationships and see SP's...no heartache,no drama,no sadness...only goodtimes.

anyways sorry just felt like putting my heart on my sleeve... I don't really have any other outlets at the moment except for Ben Harper ...he's been getting me through this tough road.

as hard as it is ...sometimes you just have to walk away and never look back....

http://www.imeem.com/people/EGJr33f/music/cIMmcnQR/ben_harper_walk_away/

peace

 

[bangcamaro]

11 tips to get over your ex

 

[a 1 player]

It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.

I feel for you bro. Take your time, get your shit in order, and have fond memories of the past. Time heals all wounds.

 

[jerbear]

Fall for a stripper and be fucked up for the rest of your life. Not!
Worse case Scenario.
JMHO.

 

[Berlin]

I knew it would'nt last from the beginning,she was'nt someone I would typically date but something about her grabbed my heart,something made me love her.

I hear you man. Sometimes life would throw a curve ball like that at ya. It is never an easy feeling to walk away from the comfort zone, especially when whatever you had with her was something special.

Just go with the flow torex. It'll be alright.

 

[MuffinMuncher]

1. Alot of alcohol administered on a regular basis for at least 2 weeks, or until memory of the ex becomes hazy and faded.
2. A steady stream of disposable or anonymous sexual relationships, preferably with women who dont look like the ex.
3. Find a new hobby or anything else that will take up any shred of free sulking time. Go to the casino alot.

Drinking, fucking and gambling. The root cause of, and cure for, all your evils.

 

[jerbear]

Yeah, tell me about it, lol. But you won't be fucked up for the rest of your life. You live and learn. Life is too short to be fucked up by a stripper or any woman that doesn't care for you. So many other strippers or fish in the sea

Absolutely

 

[Mikehorn]

this whole romance whirlwind reminded me why I tended to steer clear of relationships and see SP's...no heartache,no drama,no sadness...only goodtimes.

I'm feeling you brother. Went through something similar a couple of years ago.

 

[alexmst]

Best wishes in getting over the pain. I've had a lot of heartache as well in the past, so I feel your pain.

SPs and MPA's are great comfort I find - it forces one to put on a happy face for an hour, and the pleasure and variety of sex with beautiful hot younger women made me not sulk so much about my ex g/f after a big painful breakup I had years ago. Sure, sex is not the same as a relationship - but it is better than sulking in an armchair thinking about one's ex. Having sex with 3 or 4 hot women will make the "plenty of fish in the sea" metaphor seem more real.

 

[a 1 player]

Especially when you thought you had found THE ONE!

Been there, done that....twice.

and it wasn't any easier the second time.

 

[ROGER O. THORNHILL]

Look ahead

Ask yourself: Do you regret having been in love? Do you regret any of the good times? Do you wish it never would have happened? It's tough to think of this right now but keep asking yourself this. Also, think of the previous times this also happened. This will confirm the fact for you that at one point you'll deal with it instead of it dealing you. You can be sure of that!

 

[The Oracle]

My personal feeling on this (and I know I'm going to get slaughtered by the women on this) is that women fall in love faster than men do but fall out of love faster. And when they dust you well they go on about there business like nothing ever happened. Men take longer to fall in love but once in we are in. I've known some guys that are still longing for their ex's years later. It's a hard road that's for sure and some time we have no choice but to travel it.

 

[elmufdvr]

move on..what are you a p@ssy? if it done then it is done...if you know she is the one then quit your b#llsh!t and go get her back. desperation is the biggest turn off to women so the more desperate you are the less chance she and you will ever get back together.. remember it is spring time in the city... there are sooooooo many beautyfull ladies in world. go fined another . you just might get lucky and find your true mate. if not at least you have tried. get your ass out there and say hello to the next sexy lady you see. if she smiles back then there is still hope...

 

[jerbear]

LOL, I don't know what it's like to fall for a stripper, but nonetheless jerbear I have you beat on that one!

It appears that many of us are going through the breakup phase right now. I can assure you fellas, it is not one iota easier for us women. Especially when you thought you had found THE ONE!

Diana
xoxo

It's the spring Fever.

 

[skypilot]

I mentioned to her daughter one night when we wheredoing her homework a few weeks ago ....I asked her "would you miss me if I moved away and you never saw me again?"...she told me she would miss me more then anything and started to cry saying "don't move" "why are you moving?" "who's making you move"...it was horrible ...I just about died....I should have never said anything ,but I knew the relationship was ending and I wanted her to know that I would miss her and always remember her...

You self centered asshole. For that you deserve what you get.

 

[sp free]

the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.

 

[Terminator2000]

Um....my 2 cents. Just because a relationship didn't work out between the two ppl doesn't mean you dont have to stop talking to her daughter.

Okay, it would get complicated but, after a while...you can start all keeping close as friends.

and thats probably the worst advice I ever gave, in my entire life.

 

[Terminator2000]

You've got to be kidding. Continue a friendship with a child after you and the mother have broken up. A really quick way to mess up a child.

If you see the kid at the mall with others you might wave or say hi, that's it.

doesn't that mess up the child even more, when someone she adores/loves doesn't speak to her ever again?

 

[alexmst]

doesn't that mess up the child even more, when someone she adores/loves doesn't speak to her ever again?

Interesting point. Not having been married and not having kids myself (also not having been in a relationship with a gal who had a kid) I cannot say what would be harder on the kid - having the b/f move out and the kid never seeing him again, or having him move out and call around to say hi every now and then.

I think breakups, divorces and the like are all about the individual and his/her dealing with life provided no kids are in the picture. When kids are present, I don't think divorce is an option unless one wants to mess up the kids, granted this wasn't his biological kid - I'm talking here more about marriages that produce a kid). So, I guess if I made a bad marriage choice and had a kid with her I'd go with the "I made my bed now I'll lie in it" and put up/shut up for the sake of the kids rather than divorce. Perhaps some married Terbites are of similar mind and, faced with a broken marriage, hobby to preserve their marriages for the kids' sake...a nuclear family (even if slightly dysfunctional) being better for the kids than a divorced one.

 

[torex]

thanks for the comments people ...good and bad

what I guess failed to explain is that this was a friendly and ammicable split on both parts ...yes I love her,but she's not the one for me ...I knew that in the beginning,I know that now,I accept it...mind you I did say I was ok with it...it's not like I've never been through this before ...

all I'm really trying to say is thst I'm just sad it's over (you always think of the good times had together and wonder where it went wrong)...the ride was fun but we both knew it had to end eventually...might as well be now...why prolong the reality of it.

You self centered asshole. For that you deserve what you get.

honestly ..I can somewhat see why you said that ,but you don't know the relationship I have/had with her...if I just dissapeared she would be worse off...whether you believe or understand that does'nt matter.

to clarify ...she was not a stripper nor an SP