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sam33

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Don't know if this is the right section to post on but I figured it would be here or the Health Info part (waiting on activation).

Anyways so I have a little problem, I can't seem to orgasm during sex (oral, intercourse etc.). I've been to 3 sessions with SPs so far (each at least an hour) and I haven't been able to orgasm at all.

I do have sex with my SO (not very often, which is why I thought about seeing SPs) and about 50% of the time I'll have an orgasm with her (we have sex bare back, sessions usually last about an hour), while she gets multiple orgasms from the prolonged sex.

I don't have much of a problem of keeping it hard for the most part... I don't know if I should go to my doc or not about this issue. If anyone has any information I would greatly appreciate it.
 
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Elmore Scruggs

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You're used to your own grip and motion. Wearing a condom also reduces the friction.

It's okay if you don't orgasm during a session, nothing wrong with saving it for later. I'm surprised when escorts apologize for not making me cum, it doesn't bother me at all.
 
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sam33

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Yeah I suppose so, I think I took the ejaculate 20 times a month to reduce prostate cancer thing too literally lol

But I would love to ejaculate when I'm in a session though, kind of feel like I didn't get what I wanted in the first place when I don't cum at the session.
 
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Hey sam33. Read this article as it may apply to you. That is, too much jerking off to porn. The article states that you may need to reboot your brain as its become accustomed to masturbation and virtual sex as opposed to real. http://yourbrainonporn.com/
 
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sam33

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Boss Nass said:
Are you on any medication? Specifically, anti-depressants?
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No I'm not on any medications at all.

itsallgood said:
Hey sam33. Read this article as it may apply to you. That is, too much jerking off to porn. The article states that you may need to reboot your brain as its become accustomed to masturbation and virtual sex as opposed to real. http://yourbrainonporn.com/
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I'll have a look when I have some time, thanks!
 
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ultistar

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Ask for a HJ to finish. Some SP's have extra strength, super tough, vulcanized rubber condoms which really reduce sensation. With one regular girl, I had a tough time finishing and found it was the extra thick condom; I started bringing my own Bareskyn condom and felt totally different and had no troubles.
Now if you can't finish with a condomless HJ, then you may have some mental block (like the guilt of cheating).
 
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Mrbluntx

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i have the same problem, i had fucked this one sp for nearly the whole hour and didn't get close to cumming the condomw as thick too, lucky for me her pussy was fucking tight so at least i got some feeling and could stay hard. i had to get a handjob finish that was kind of half-assed, she didn't seem to enjoy making me cum, those last few strokes after you cum are the best and she just kind of stopped after i popped my load which felt good, but did not feel as great as when i got sucked finished by another sp whom kept sucking after i came which felt amazing to say the least.
 
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Aardvark154

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There appears to be a bit of terminology confusion.

cuming/coming = ejaculation

Orgasm = (at least to my mind that Oh God I'm comminggggg sensation)

The two are interrelated but not synonymous, one can have the first without the second.
 
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Ridgeman08

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sam33 said:
Yeah I suppose so, I think I took the ejaculate 20 times a month to reduce prostate cancer thing too literally lol
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Just 20 times? :Eek:

sam33 said:
But I would love to ejaculate when I'm in a session though, kind of feel like I didn't get what I wanted in the first place when I don't cum at the session.
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Seriously dude, I hope you figure it out. Must be frustrating. :frusty:
 
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Fifi_ulla

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Agreed on condom thickness. Maybe you need more intimacy or extra sensory stilmulation like having her talk dirty to you, kissing or looking each other in the eyes. Lots of different things can come into play.

Aardvark154 you make a good point....my problem is I don't get the "OH GOD I"M COMMMMINNNGGG" sensation. And on that note does anyone know what supplements the men use in porn to get those monster loads? it's like buckets and in my mind I've associated it to the "OHHH god...." sensation. The more juice...the more sensation?
 
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Mrbluntx

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Fifi_ulla said:
Agreed on condom thickness. Maybe you need more intimacy or extra sensory stilmulation like having her talk dirty to you, kissing or looking each other in the eyes. Lots of different things can come into play.

Aardvark154 you make a good point....my problem is I don't get the "OH GOD I"M COMMMMINNNGGG" sensation. And on that note does anyone know what supplements the men use in porn to get those monster loads? it's like buckets and in my mind I've associated it to the "OHHH god...." sensation. The more juice...the more sensation?
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drink lots of water, don't masturbate for a week and learn to edge yourself while jerking it, if you can manage to keep it going for an hour you'll pop the fattest load in your life.
 
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Garrett

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Assuming you are not gay (yeah, bad joke) I would recommend you bypass the free advice and see your doctor.

I do think a combination of stress, lack of exercise, lack of sleep, and poor diet can get you to this point.
 
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sam33

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Thanks for the input everyone, I think I will pay a Urologist a visit but it seems like the link itsallgood posted aligns with many of the things I'm going through right now. It seems I'll have to put hobbying on hiatus, even though I just started lol But I'm sure it'll be worth it after I get this issue fixed.
 
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ultistar

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sam33 said:
When I masturbate and with my SO yeah
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Garrett said:
Assuming you are not gay (yeah, bad joke) I would recommend you bypass the free advice and see your doctor.

I do think a combination of stress, lack of exercise, lack of sleep, and poor diet can get you to this point.
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hmmm, what exactly is he going to tell his doctor?

OP: "hey doc, I can cum when I masturbate and with my SO, but can't with SP's; I've tried 3 times."

Should be an interesting diagnosis.
 
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I find that if a man can't cum in an hour and he extends the next hour majority of the time its successful. So maybe you need a 2 hour session instead of 1. So don't be hard on yourself,you will cum ;)
 
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