Comes a time

[torex]

on a sad note it has come the time that my beloved best friends days are numbered
Sorry to post this as I'm sure many of you know the pain I'm going through at this sad time.
I thought I would share this with the rest of you in honour of my best friend!

There is a bridge connecting Heaven and Earth, It is called the Rainbow Bridge because of its many colors. Just this side of the Rainbow Bridge there is a land of meadows, hills and valleys with lush green grass. When a cherished pet passes away, they go to this place. There is always food, water, and sunshine and everyone is warm and comfortable. All the animals who have been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in days gone by. They play all day with each other.

There is only one small thing missing. They are not with their special person who loved them on Earth and had to be left behind. So they run and play until the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks off into the distance. Their bright eyes are staring! The nose twitches! The ears are up! Their eager body begins to quiver! Suddenly they begin to run from the group, flying over the green grass, their legs carrying them faster and faster...

You have been spotted! And when you and your special friend meet, you cling together in joyous reunion. Your face is kissed again and again and again, your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the adoring eyes of your trusting pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross the Rainbow Bridge together, never again to be separated...

P.S not looking for any sympathy although it does help. just trying to help myself by letting it out a little.

 

[LLL]

torex,

Been there several times and I know your thoughts and feelings all too well. Doing the right thing is never easy in this situation. Remember the good times spent together.

 

[Speedo]

Torex:

A very dear friend sent me "the Rainbow Bridge" when I lost my best friend, and I found it very comforting. LLL is correct -- doing the right thing in this situation is extremely difficult, but the lifetime of trust we've received from our pets is based on us doing the right thing for their entire lives. I think you'd agree that we would do almost anything to shift their pain to our shoulders. Well, in a sense, that's what we do -- absorb the grief so that their pain disappears forever.

Please seek out friends, Torex -- mine helped me tremendously.

 

[torex]

thanks guys
R.I.P
05/04/03
she was my best friend.
her suffering is over
i'm dealing with it day by day as hard as it is. the worst is comming home from work at the end of the day and not have her greet me at the door.
it's just to quiet here now.

 

[Goober Mcfly]

At risk of being labelled an insensitive clod, I gotta agree with WIYD. It was your dog, wasn't it?

Still, I know losing a cherished pet is sometimes harder than losing a close human friend. So, best wishes and my sympathies.

*no sig in tribute*

 

[champ]

Been There Pal

Torex,

My heart goes out to you .

I have personally gone through what you are going through twice. It tore me up both times.

The first time , Duke was a dog I received when I was just a baby really. I was 14 when we put him down . He had cancer and was suffering. I was really just a kid then. I insisted on being the one to hold him when the vet. gave him the needle. He looked up at me with real pain in his eyes. The crazy part was that he almost looked like he felt sorry for me ... terrible.

The second dog , Duchess ( O.K. , I'm not the most creative of people ) was my Mom's dog. She was a great dog. My dad died of cancer and 6 months later my mom fell in and passed away shortly after. She asked me when she was very ill to take care of Duchess. I said I would. Well, two years later Duchess became sick and it got worse pretty fast. I agonized over the decision to the point where the vet. ( god bless him ) made the decision for me. He gently told me " it's time". I was absolutely devestated that day. I will never forgive myself. I let her be walked into the back room by herself and I left. She died alone without me. I failed her in her time of need. She never failed me. The toughest part was that she was my last link to my mom whom I was very close to. It haunts me to this day.

Now, I have an eight year old yellow lab who quite possibly has the biggest heart of any animal I've seen. She retrieves like mad and runs like a puppy. At night she struggles with early arthritis. I know that her time is not too far away. I just don't want that day to come. It will though. When it does , I will do for her what I did for Duke many years ago. I'll hold her in my arms and see her through to the other side. I'll never forget her ... ever. It will erase my failing Duchess. In a crazy way she'll help me be whole again.

 

[Speedo]

Torex: I know what you mean about coming home to a quiet house each day. It may not be "time" yet -- everyone grieves at their own pace -- but you should at least think about another pet. Sounds as if you have a lot of love to give, and a new "best friend" would be lucky to be on the receiving end.

Champ: I can relate to what you went through with Duchess. I was very distraught and did the same thing you did at the vet. And in retrospect, I did so because I was a coward. I just didn't want to see or feel her die. I know I left her in wonderful hands -- the vet is a friend and a great guy -- but I left her -- and would never make that mistake again. I'll have another chance with my current pal -- but hopefully, not for a number of years !

 

[Remo]

Damn you! That was sad. Remo excuses himself to go find his cat and hug it.

 

[CyberGoth]

In Perfect Love and Perfect Trust.

You will be reunited by fate one day.

If you need someone to talk to, we're here.

burying friends is the hardest thing I ever had to do and I feel for your loss.

Blessed Be.

 

[Berlin]

Hope you are well, Torex.

Losing someone ( a person, a pet ) closed to you is never easy to bear. I too had a similar experience like longfirmlegs'.

Years ago, my younger sister got a golden brown Cocker Spaniel pup as a present. He was a lovely one, very special, goofy but very adoring. Like any pups, he was doing all sorts of crazy stuff in the house, going through garbage, chewing on her high heels.... but my sister and everyone loved him.

Into his 7 or 8 months, sudden weight loss set in. We didn't think much of it at first, but the weight loss progressed quite rapidly, to the point that it the semi long hair couldn't hide his boniness anymore. So my sister took him to the vet, and the vet gave us the bad news... the pup wasn't going to make it for long due to kidney failure. Then a few days later, we took him to the clinic for the final needle. ...

....like longfirmlegs mentioned, it's the worst feeling, seeing someone gone in front of you. My sister was crynig like hell right there and then. Being the eldest , I had to act strong and provide a shoulder to lean on. After driving back to the house, settling my sobbing sister in her room. I locked myself into the bathroom, turned on the shower , and cried like shit for who knows how long.

My sister recovered quite well and fast, and a few days later, I remember her telling me, " you know what, I am not going to be sad anymore, because I know, wherever Tubby ( her pet's name ) is, he wouldn't want to see me sad."

And of course , we still love him and miss him dearly. And once in a while, I will still get wuzzy and teary eyes, remembering that little thing going through the kitchen's garbage, chewing on my sister's heels...

 

[Speedo]

longfirmleggss -- thanks

Agreed, it was a human failing, but I've often felt cowardly about that day. It's sure not something I'm proud of. I'm so sorry you had to go through that pain -- I hope in time, the memories will all be of good times with Dutchess.

Berlin -- My God -- 7 or 8 months. My former neighbour lost her puppy at less than a year (leukemia). Hard enough when they've lived a long and happy life. My sympathies.

Torex: Hope you are doing OK. Time's the best healer, bud...