Depressed? Stay off social media.

[D-Fens]

Does this happen to anyone else? You go on facebook, and you see your one friend getting married, another one posting pics, from their latest vacation, Another friend bragging about how their kid just got accepted into Harvard, You can't help but compare your life to theirs. and you feel like crap afterwards. When people ask me how I spent my christmas, I respond "in the hospital with pneumonia" and they don't know how to respond. Do you often find yourself comparing yourself to other people on facebook? What do you think of all these people who brag on facebook about how great their lives are? I actually deleted my facebook account today because it seems like everyone else's life is better then mine. I've had enough. I should have done it sooner.

As anyone else experienced this before? It seems like everyone on facebook has a better life then you.

 

[GPIDEAL]

Never felt that way, even though some people seem to have a "better life", but I just don't post everything in my life for public display.

Don't take it personally. People usually only post when good things happen in their life, or funny things, not the bad things.

Sometimes, I post obits of the dearly departed who meant something in my life. Other people talk candidly about their depression or that they are down in the pits, and in some rare cases, people are forced to seek financial assistance.

So I've seen others share in their bad days too, not just the good days, as a way to garner support from their FB friends.

 

[Euro Male]

Stay Strong Brother,

Gobs of us never bother with the Cyber circle-jerk. Peeps hustling, trying to make shit happen are too busy to give a shit about the fake, fabulous world . . . . . facebook, instragram, twitter etc.

Cool way of meeting up with R-E-A-L people with similar sensibilities . . . . . business, politics, sports, recreation, activism, road-trips, exotic-trips, nightlife etc.

SNEAK A PEEK . . . . . .

https://www.meetup.com/topics/toronto/ca/on/toronto/

http://www.meetmarketadventures.com/view_article.php/toronto-events/245.html

https://torontoadventures.ca/

https://outofthecold.org/volunteer/

https://www.torontohumanesociety.com/get-involved/volunteer

https://seashepherd.org/get-involved/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIxciK7qTc5gIVUP_jBx1rTwAXEAAYAyAAEgKZY_D_BwE

 

[HEYHEY]

Facebook is nonsense. People put on a show and make their lives appear amazing meanwhile in reality they have their own share of problems

 

[Celticman]

Facebook is nonsense. People put on a show and make their lives appear amazing meanwhile in reality they have their own share of problems

Agree. Somewhat like some of the folk on here that post in a manner that does not reflect their actual life

 

[|2 /-\ | /|/]

I think the problem lies within you and your deep routed principles that make you want to compare your life to others and seek this validation. Realize its’s not your fault because society labels and programs us from birth and conditions us to this type of mindset. However the consequences can be severe such as depression, lack of self and unknown purpose which will only get worse if you don’t fix the issue at its root. The natural reaction to this is a defensive one because of our Ego’s. however the less ego you have the better your life will become and you will depend less and less on others for validation. Try self actualizing to understand why you are here and what is your true potential and what prevented you from achieving that. Here is a good source http://actualized.org/ although this guys teaching can be so deep he presents a good forum to teach us about the right questions to ask to figure out our own truth.

 

[malata]

Does this happen to anyone else? You go on facebook, and you see your one friend getting married, another one posting pics, from their latest vacation, Another friend bragging about how their kid just got accepted into Harvard, You can't help but compare your life to theirs. and you feel like crap afterwards. When people ask me how I spent my christmas, I respond "in the hospital with pneumonia" and they don't know how to respond. Do you often find yourself comparing yourself to other people on facebook? What do you think of all these people who brag on facebook about how great their lives are? I actually deleted my facebook account today because it seems like everyone else's life is better then mine. I've had enough. I should have done it sooner.

As anyone else experienced this before? It seems like everyone on facebook has a better life then you.

things are not always what they seem

 

[james t kirk]

Social media is bullshit.

From top to bottom.

I had a FB profile briefly several years ago and deleted after maybe 6 months. Never looked back. I didn't have either the time or the inclination to participate to be honest. I noticed that some people I knew were posting like mad and others, like me, had a profile, but seldom posted. Eventually I just said to myself, "this dumb" and deleted it. I think I was the first of my group of friends who deleted their profile. Subsequently most of my close friends have followed suit. Interestingly it is almost always males who can't be bothered with FB or the like. Females for whatever reason seem to be more hooked in.

When I was on FB the one thing I found absurd was people I knew (vaguely or otherwise) who had 500 friends. I'm sorry but that's not possible. If at my age you have 10 genuine friends, you're doing pretty good. Also, I didn't like the idea of putting out information about myself
and my family online. (I always shred junk mail that comes to my home with my name on it.). The notion of posting photos and events is just counter intuitive to me.

As to the point put forth by the OP that FB can be a drag emotionally because everyone else seems to have the perfect life, I can see how one might think that. It's like looking at glossy magazines where everyone profiled has the perfect life complete with curly blonde haired kids with cherub faces and everyone is smiling in the latest fashions and living in the perfect house with the perfect partner, but instead of it being some dumb ass in a magazine, it's someone you know. Whether it's reality or not, who knows. We as a species are bombarded by media. Whether it's the news, commercials, TV, movies, advertising, or now social media, it's almost impossible to escape it. Sometimes you just need to turn it all off for the good of your sanity.

 

[ogibowt]

well said James

 

[Insidious Von]

Social media, I don't need no stinkin social media.

Yaeh I would create quite a stink, I'd probably use it to catalogue my farts.

 

[Insidious Von]

And I would use it to help people with back problems.

 

[koreanjames]

so much of it is fake - unhappy marriages/relationships where they have to showcase the opposite of that publicly, just for show.

but with that said, this is the sadly one of the highest times of year for depression for those who are alone/unhappy, as they are reminded of it constantly on social media.

 

[|2 /-\ | /|/]

so much of it is fake - unhappy marriages/relationships where they have to showcase the opposite of that publicly, just for show.

but with that said, this is the sadly one of the highest times of year for depression for those who are alone/unhappy, as they are reminded of it constantly on social media.

Very true and many of the same people will play victim and try to blame other people and other tools and resources for their problems without realizing the problem lies within. All they do is project and have this heard mentality to deflect and project the blame when all that does is make the problem more severe and extreme in the long run. Majority of the time the root of the problem is ignored and lies from within.

 

[mellowjello]

Social media is bullshit.

From top to bottom.

I had a FB profile briefly several years ago and deleted after maybe 6 months. Never looked back. I didn't have either the time or the inclination to participate to be honest. I noticed that some people I knew were posting like mad and others, like me, had a profile, but seldom posted. Eventually I just said to myself, "this dumb" and deleted it. I think I was the first of my group of friends who deleted their profile. Subsequently most of my close friends have followed suit. Interestingly it is almost always males who can't be bothered with FB or the like. Females for whatever reason seem to be more hooked in.

When I was on FB the one thing I found absurd was people I knew (vaguely or otherwise) who had 500 friends. I'm sorry but that's not possible. If at my age you have 10 genuine friends, you're doing pretty good. Also, I didn't like the idea of putting out information about myself
and my family online. (I always shred junk mail that comes to my home with my name on it.). The notion of posting photos and events is just counter intuitive to me.

As to the point put forth by the OP that FB can be a drag emotionally because everyone else seems to have the perfect life, I can see how one might think that. It's like looking at glossy magazines where everyone profiled has the perfect life complete with curly blonde haired kids with cherub faces and everyone is smiling in the latest fashions and living in the perfect house with the perfect partner, but instead of it being some dumb ass in a magazine, it's someone you know. Whether it's reality or not, who knows. We as a species are bombarded by media. Whether it's the news, commercials, TV, movies, advertising, or now social media, it's almost impossible to escape it. Sometimes you just need to turn it all off for the good of your sanity.

If you have ten genuine friends, you're doing unbelievable.

 

[Bigdaug]

People are depressed because they waste to much time inside playing with there cell phone.

Get outside go to the gym do anything productive.

 

[D-Fens]

People are depressed because they waste to much time inside playing with there cell phone.

Get outside go to the gym do anything productive.

Best adivse I've ever gotton on here. I waste too much time on my phone.

 

[rhuarc29]

I don't think social media is healthy regardless of whether or not you are depressed.
That said, if you told them you were "in the hospital with pneumonia" and they didn't know the proper response (commiseration or ribbing depending on your closeness with them), you didn't deliver that line the proper way. People often don't know how to respond to outright negativity. If you had instead wryly stated your situation, they may have responded in the way you were after.

Anyway, get healthy man. And remember that what people post online is almost always a facade.

 

[jackal2006]

It's been proven in psychology research that we cannot handle more than five true friendships at a time. Those social butterflies they have shallow acquaintances but not true friendships. The time that if you're ever in real trouble you can call them and get their help those are real friends not drinking and clubbing buddies.

Social media was made for women. They like to gossip and show off so it fits their mentality perfectly. I have one female family member I've told her countless times get off Facebook it's the toilet of humanity like Instagram but it's like crack cocaine for her. She can't let go of seeing what everyone else is up to.

I tell her get off that crap and go read a book, a newspaper etc. Social media has made people dumb especially a lot of women. Karl Marx said religion is the opiate of the masses. I think it is really social media. Keep them dumb so they're docile and can be controlled.

The only social media I maintain is LinkedIn in to help me land future jobs. But even that is becoming a joke too. Too many white collar feminists spewing their crap and their beta "allies" clapping everything they say. I try to keep quiet on there because living in Canada if you disagree the left will squash you. There is no freedom of speech anymore.

 

[luvyeah]

It's been proven in psychology research that we cannot handle more than five true friendships at a time.

Given this isn't hoseshit, I'm going to need a reference to the research.

I do agree with you on LinkedIn it's the same shit, I refuse to use it along with any social media.

For those feeling depressed, check out the book:

The Happiness Advantage

https://www.amazon.ca/Happiness-Advantage-Principles-Psychology-Performance/dp/0307591549

 

[Buick Mackane]

I would consider Terb a social media site as well.