Escorts and Breach of Confidentiality...

[BigBlack]

Before I get flamed by every sp provider here, I just would like to recount my own experience with sp confidentiality. About 6 years ago( summer 1996) , I had gotten my own place and was single at the time. There was a particular sp I had heard about from 2 co-workers that I really wanted to try out. She was an independant ( I will call her Legs), and as a condition wanted me to call her from my residence landline ONLY. Now I understand about sp's and protections from bad dates, and put my privacy in her hands. I saw her probably 3 times in the next month and a half. Her attitude and service were great. I enjoy variety however and never saw her again.

Now lets fast forward to spring 1999. I have a live-in girlfriend. We have been dating for about 2 years. Ring-ring, the phone goes off while I am at work. My girlfriend picks up the phone, and has an interesting talk to a former Sp Provider (Legs). Apparently she has undergone a religious conversion and feels the need to both confess her sins and claim victim to all those clients (like me) who took advantage of her ( and led her towards the devil was her description). Well the ding bat mixed up the dates or something convincing my gf I was cheating on her the whole time, which I had not. The sp described my sexual style, likes and dislikes which make her sound very credible to my gf ( LEGS made great notes). Worse of all LEgs wanted my parents number, but my gf refused..

Needless to say I got a shock when I returned home. I denied the story claiming it was a bitter ex-girlfriend and all..but the damage was done. My gf found it hard to believe that an ex-gf from 3 or 4 years previous would call and make up stories. Things were never the same. Slowly over the next few months we became more distant until it was over. The trust wasn't where it should be. When we broke up she claimed the sp wasn't the factor and we had grown apart. Legs also contacted 1 of the 2 friends at the office that recommended me. The other luckily moved and changed numbers.

Now what if I had gone through a brutal divorce with kids to consider? This is the main reason I stick to MPA's now. Pure confidentiality. Some sp's allow cell phones and e-mail...but me, I prefer the quick, anonymous mp sessions now. Thanks Terb, for all your Mp recommendations, you have made the transition a sweet one.

 

[2sexxxy]

Read his post it says she messed up the dates and made it sound like he was having an affair.

 

[BigBlack]

Lyla Learn To Read..

Lyla said: Since you were single at the time, why didn't you just admit to your girlfriend that, yes, you'd used the services of an escort. After all, she has no right to tell you what you could or couldn't do BEFORE you were involved with one another!

Lyla, if you actually read my post and understood it ( I can't include pop up pictures sorry), it clearly explains that the sp lied and claimed I was seeing her all along years after I stopped seeing her. Secondly, I sure as hell would not brag to a girlfriend about seeing escorts (no offence intented).The girls I date tend wouldn't exactly look highly upon such activities.

Lyla said: My guess is that you were on the way to the break-up before this incident happened -- and/or that your girlfriend's sense that you were lying through her teeth to her didn't help any

The word guess pretty describes it since you know nothing about me, my ex gf, or the relationship I had. Pure inaccurate speculation on your part.

Lyla said -- but virtually no one will approve of me if I lie to them, and deny them the right to choose with whom they associate! The latter sounds like what you did to your girlfriend.

So Lyla, you tell your friends and family that you are a prostitute?? or do you LIE to them? Secondly the sp claimed I was with her during the years I wasn't. The sp was purposely lying. I tried to deny the whole thing. If I admitted to once seeing her my ex gf would probably think I was speaking half truths. I went with the percentages in a losing battle.

Lyla said The overwhelming majority of escorts do not do what you described. And so why do you feel that they have no right to legitimate security precautions just because one escort did?

I never said they have no security rights.I agreed that security is important, but in my case I have decided to go to Mpa's to avoid the hassle. If I were to see an escort again, I would see one that didn't require a land line.


All in all Layla I am convinced you really don't know how to read, and understand what you have read. Maybe if this site had a pop up picture feature messages could be easier for you to understand. Perhaps a cut of your next trick can be spent on hooked on phonics?

 

[torex]

I sure as hell would not brag to a girlfriend about seeing escorts (no offence intented).The girls I date tend wouldn't exactly look highly upon such activities.

Have to agree there!! most ladies I meet would look at me in disgust!
Not everyone is so liberal minded!

 

[2sexxxy]

Re: Lyla Learn To Read..

All in all Layla I am convinced you really don't know how to read, and understand what you have read. Maybe if this site had a pop up picture feature messages could be easier for you to understand. Perhaps a cut of your next trick can be spent on hooked on phonics?

I hate it when people respond to a post without reading it. I agree with you that is why i go to mp too. Who knows who can get there hands on this information and use it against you.

 

[BigBlack]

Lyla and Hooked on Phonics Continued...

Layla said: What will he tell his next girlfriend/wife when one of his crazy MPA's recognizes him at the mall or the grocery store?

I have meet an mpa at the grocery store with a gf Lyla. We said mhi and talked a little. You see, it is different when someone knows your number, calls you on the telephone, indentifies herself as an ex-escort who was with you for years and years..ect..and tries to destroy you.
If the mpa did go crazy (which I really doubt since she would be admiting in public to being a sex provider), I could deny it. I use fake names, I don't tell mpa's personal details.

Layla said:Regardless of what she did, does that mean, because one escort was a screwed up nut, that the rest of us don't have a right to security?

Once again, hooked on phonics would help sinceI NEVER said that. I understand the need for security for escorts especially ones with your offensive personality.

Layla said :Also, why didn't he just come clean about the fact that he was seeing an escort? When he lied and she mixed up the dates, that probably only made it seem more suspicious to the girlfriend.

Ya, I was with the escort..but not in the last few years...the moment I say I was with it (the escort) it gives some legitimation to her accusations which were false. I would have to admit she was telling the truth about me seeing her, but say .."not since we have been going out" (to my gf)..yeah guys always use those lines and girls never believe them.

 

[bootycall28]

Zoe You Give Escorts A Bad Name...

(Zoe) And we are not prostitutes.

Zoe get real. You have sex for money, as a service. Its reality accept it. Why deny that you are a prostitute?

(Zoe) We, as escorts sell our time and companionship

Yeah, people pay $250 an hour because they want that special quality companionship, not for sex or anything like that.

(Zoe)There was absolutely no provocation for your nastiness.

It seems Layla made several fictiocious accusations at him. Much like she has with Fred Zed and just about every other poster on the board.

(Zoe) I don't understand why you guys see MP's and SP's and then have such low opinions of us.

Low opinions of you? Sounds more like having a problem with a stupid post. Why would I be on this board if I had a problem with sex-workers. If anyone has low self esteem here, it is you Zoe. You can't even admit you are a prostitute. You can't accept it! We can ( I feel I speak for most).

(ZOE)And just to avoid problems, that was MHO.

Yes I realize it was your opinion, that is why your name is beside the post. It doesn't give you immunity from anyone else's opinion or change the fact that you said it.

 

[BigBlack]

It Was My Fault..?

Layla said:You have no one to blame but yourself.

Listen Layla, a sp I saw years previous, rings up MY apartment, and tells lies about us having this 4 year affair to my girlfriend...helps ruin that relationship and you say it is my fault. No wonder people aren't happy about girls exchanging personal information about clients on demimonde. You are heartless, and your non caring attitude about your clients welfare is disgusting.

Worst of all your are a HYPOCRITE. You see clients who are married I am sure or have gfs, or don't disclose their activities. If you had integrity , you would screen out these clients...but no that would really hurt your customer base would it not? When it affect you things change don't they?

Your arguement on this thread has basically alienated most of the sp customers on this board. Those with wives or girlfriends should be honest and tell them about the escorts they are seeing?? Uh ok...a significant percentage. If you get a call from an escort even 20 years from now, and your wife or girlfriend (20 years down the road) is lied to about an affair, ect..it is the clients' fault...uh huh. What you are basically saying is "fuck the clients...their privacy, and confidentiality isn't worth SHIT!

By your defination we should just all head right for the MPA's where we are safe. Thank God many escorts have brains, integrity.

 

[2sexxxy]

Originally posted by Zoe4U [/i]


And I think Lyla understood your post.

As much as we understand your post.

She was giving her opinion, which is her right to do. There was absolutely no provocation for your nastiness. I don't understand why you guys see MP's and SP's and then have such low opinions of us. You guys never seem to have a problem when you are getting CBJ or HJ, or anything else an SP or MP provides.]

I thought we were just paying for your company

 

[shack]

Once again, Lyla's confrontational style is causing more ill-will on the board. It seems 98% of the nastiness is instigated by 2% of the posters. When are we going to learn to stop trying to get into rational discussions with people like her and A1 Provider. It's not a reasonable expectation. Read what they say if you want, but don't bother responding.

 

[BigBlack]

My, My, My, What a Tangled Web We....

Layla, I just checked out your website where you actually state on SEVERAL OCCASIONS that cheating is ok, lying to the wife is ok as long as you keep it discrete!!! You hypocritical *********.

From Layla's site, ask Layla

Q. I am married and I love my wife, but for the past few years, our sex life hasn't been as satisfying as it once was. I am thinking of calling an escort, but I feel guilty. Isn't it cheating?

Layla's answer:

A. Your wife will probably think so, if she finds out! Still, using the services of an escort may be your best option, and in that case, it will be up to you to conduct yourself discreetly, so as not to hurt your wife.

Layla says:

All things considered, escorts are a good choice for married men. A good escort will never threaten or compromise your home situation, and you always know what you're going to get and what it's going to cost you, up front.

Yeah it was ALL MY fault eh Layla?? For Lying?? Yet you promote lying to wives and girlfriends. You are truly a ******** Layla. The fact that others may think like you and many may be sharing client personal information on Demimonde is a horrible thought for us clients. You obviously don't give a damn about our welfare, the sp is always right and justified no matter what eh Layla? You have proven yourself a total fraud, and ethically a piece of old ****