Etiquette Question

[Sophia Sinclair]

I threw this up on Twitter as well.

question for the guys and gals:

I often get a thank you text/email the evening of or day after an app't. While it brings a smile to my face I usually don't respond for privacy reasons, etc.

I've recently received further correspondence from two individuals thinking I either didn't receive it or that they'd done something wrong by sending it, requiring an explanation and assurance from me. I also don't share these or gifts online as I feel they're for my eyes only.

Ladies, do you make it a policy to always respond to such communication and gents, does it unsettle you when a lady doesn't respond?

 

[Medman52]

When I respond via text and want to keep it short but still acknowledge that I received the text I just send a
I think today in our society that’s a socially acceptable reply.

 

[MissCroft]

With an e-mail, I would respond because I assume that the gentleman's e-mail is private. With text however it can get iffy. If I see the text right away I will respond but I don't like to reply if any time has gone by. Unless I know that he is single and it's okay. It has happened to me twice where the man wasn't careful and left his phone out in clear vision and I got a response from the wife.

 

[danmand]

It has happened to me twice where the man wasn't careful and left his phone out in clear vision and I got a response from the wife.

Interesting, pray tell us more about said response from the wife.

 

[|2 /-\ | /|/]

Tell them to suck it up and stop acting like little snowflakes...

 

[Sophia Sinclair]

When I respond via text and want to keep it short but still acknowledge that I received the text I just send a
I think today in our society that’s a socially acceptable reply.

Makes sense.

With an e-mail, I would respond because I assume that the gentleman's e-mail is private. With text however it can get iffy. If I see the text right away I will respond but I don't like to reply if any time has gone by. Unless I know that he is single and it's okay. It has happened to me twice where the man wasn't careful and left his phone out in clear vision and I got a response from the wife.

I too have had someone forget to delete our texts and gotten a call from the SO. Luckily I played it right both times this happened.

I think a smiley face can be easily explained away and would hopefully avoid any unnecessary anxiety on the clients part due to an otherwise lack of response.

 

[kherg007]

I will always let the lady know that the email or phone are safe thus feel free to write or say anything. If for some reason it was not like that, I'd for sure communicate that early on and likely tell them upon departure how normally I'd send a thank you, but all I have is a work phone thus I can't, etc. But on the initial contact I always let the lady or agency know the 'privacy status' of the communication medium.

 

[Sophia Sinclair]

I will always let the lady know that the email or phone are safe thus feel free to write or say anything. If for some reason it was not like that, I'd for sure communicate that early on and likely tell them upon departure how normally I'd send a thank you, but all I have is a work phone thus I can't, etc. But on the initial contact I always let the lady or agency know the 'privacy status' of the communication medium.

Bless you as this certainly clarifies and simplifies things!

In the recent case I noticed a ring and didn't respond to their text but did respond to their follow up email.

 

[Jasmine Raine]

With an e-mail, I would respond because I assume that the gentleman's e-mail is private. With text however it can get iffy. If I see the text right away I will respond but I don't like to reply if any time has gone by. Unless I know that he is single and it's okay. (

This is how I am as well.

 

[danmand]

If I may put in my 2 cents, I would discourage SP's from communicating on a "private" level with clients (and vise versa) ,unless they are looking for a serious "private" relationship.

There is not any upside to it, and much potential downside, including stalking and hurting related persons.

If a client feel that he should thank an SP for providing service, the obvious avenue for showing appreciation is monetary.

 

[IAmDave]

When I send a text that doesn't explicitly require a response I never expect a response, but I'm also less likely to send one. As far as privacy is concerned, my view is that that would be on me, my responsibility for initiating an exchange in the first place. Don't send the message if you'd be worried about the response.

 

[|2 /-\ | /|/]

Its funny that people apply to the same feelings as in real life civie dating scene.

If you are a client just leave it to the SPs discretion how she wants to be communicated with you.

If you care about your privacy then don’t open it up to exposure. i.e get a burned phone

Solution is quite simple although some of these snowflake clients keep messing it up for everyone becuase their feelings are hurt due to inappropriate etiquette...like seriously I can’t believe that this is actually a thing...ffs guys there is a reason why we pay for a session.

 

[Sophia Sinclair]

If I may put in my 2 cents, I would discourage SP's from communicating on a "private" level with clients (and vise versa) ,unless they are looking for a serious "private" relationship.

There is not any upside to it, and much potential downside, including stalking and hurting related persons.

Admittedly, this is the other reason I don't usually respond. I worry that they may be trying to take the situation in another direction. If I reply, does it lead to even more in between meeting texts, etc.?

I always tell first timers when they're leaving that should they like to see me again, as I don't presume they will, all they have to do is text me, assuring them that I only make them go through the rigmarole initially. If they then proceed to later show me their appreciation via a text or email, I smile and await their next booking.

Like I said, a smiley face or as has been suggested elsewhere a simple "thank you" or "I'm glad" to let them know I received it should suffice until our next get together.

 

[massman]

I’ll often email an SP after having a nice time together. I usually get a response, but not always and I understand that. They are (rightfully) concerned that with some guys back and forth emails not related to getting together, may encourage a guy who has developed a bit of a crush, and give him train to believe feelings might be mutual. So it’s nice when I write “hey x, it was really great to see you again, hope our schedules can align when I’m back in town” and she writes “it was great to see you again too. Please let me know when you get back to town, I’d be happy to see you again when you are available “. But if there’s no response, I don’t take offence. If I send a thank you message, the purpose is to thank that person for the nice time. It’s not to solicit thank yous too and compliments back, and it’s not to start online (unpaid) flirtation. My experiences here as well as talking to girls over the time I’ve engaged in this have taught me that encouraging ongoing communication by text/ email can be a big problem for the girls if it encourages a guy who is interested in more than a business type relationship. So i understand if some “social” messages are not met with a response, and I don’t take it personally. But it is nice when I get a reply like above, which does encourage me to repeat in the future.

 

[|2 /-\ | /|/]

I’ll often email an SP after having a nice time together. I usually get a response, but not always and I understand that. They are (rightfully) concerned that with some guys back and forth emails not related to getting together, may encourage a guy who has developed a bit of a crush, and give him train to believe feelings might be mutual. So it’s nice when I write “hey x, it was really great to see you again, hope our schedules can align when I’m back in town” and she writes “it was great to see you again too. Please let me know when you get back to town, I’d be happy to see you again when you are available “. But if there’s no response, I don’t take offence. If I send a thank you message, the purpose is to thank that person for the nice time. It’s not to solicit thank yous too and compliments back, and it’s not to start online (unpaid) flirtation. My experiences here as well as talking to girls over the time I’ve engaged in this have taught me that encouraging ongoing communication by text/ email can be a big problem for the girls if it encourages a guy who is interested in more than a business type relationship. So i understand if some “social” messages are not met with a response, and I don’t take it personally. But it is nice when I get a reply like above, which does encourage me to repeat in the future.

^^^ great response and should be sticky to this thread

 

[The "Bone" Ranger]

In this instance I would expect an acknowledgement. Now if you don't see the text for a few hours then it is understandable that you don't reply but the receiver won't know that and that is why life is complicated. If you see him again in the future then you can let him know (very well knowing that it will be difficult for anyone to remember).

I threw this up on Twitter as well.

question for the guys and gals:

I often get a thank you text/email the evening of or day after an app't. While it brings a smile to my face I usually don't respond for privacy reasons, etc.

I've recently received further correspondence from two individuals thinking I either didn't receive it or that they'd done something wrong by sending it, requiring an explanation and assurance from me. I also don't share these or gifts online as I feel they're for my eyes only.

Ladies, do you make it a policy to always respond to such communication and gents, does it unsettle you when a lady doesn't respond?

 

[Aardvark154]

Any client who sends a thank you should be sending it on a private account and not leaving unlocked devices lying around. Hence I agree with Chloe, further if you are unsure if they are unmarried/not in a relationship, a neutral nice to have seen you message shouldn't cause problems --- although I agree that e-mails are far less problematic

 

[Worf]

Any client who sends a thank you should be sending it on a private account and not leaving unlocked devices lying around. Hence I agree with Chloe, further if you are unsure if they are unmarried/not in a relationship, a neutral nice to have seen you message shouldn't cause problems --- although I agree that e-mails are far less problematic

Dont't hobby with an unlocked phone. Also make sure there are no messages sent to the lock screen. Also keep your home computer user account password protected. Anything else is asking for trouble.
My wife doesn't know the password and doesn't snoop (as far as I know) and I also don't snoop on her or read any of her texts or emails. None of my business.

 

[Beachguy]

I often send a thank you text, I usually get a reply. I do it in the hopes of bringing a smile to the lady's face and to show appreciation.
I drive a fair distance to see my favourite lady and she often asks me to let her know I got home safe.
Even though I have no SO to read my texts I do keep my phone locked and set so text content does not show on the lock screen.
Normal etiquette would require a reply to a thank you, but I apreciate that in this business that may not always be apropriate.

 

[malata]

smiles n kisses at the door is all that's needed for me with no other expectations for a smiley icon