Facebook Parenting: For the troubled teen
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Good job dad. 
HOWEVER it would have been (although less traumatic) had he gone to the teacher in a class and asked if there was an kid that was working hard, doing well in his or her studies without the blissful technology of a laptop and whatnot. Give the brat's laptop to this kid, someone who deserves it and let her find out what it's like for someone to EARN rewards vs work hard without expected luxuries. Parents work hard to give their children a comfortable life, and sometimes we forget how important it is to instill and follow through with these valuable lessons.
HOWEVER it would have been (although less traumatic) had he gone to the teacher in a class and asked if there was an kid that was working hard, doing well in his or her studies without the blissful technology of a laptop and whatnot. Give the brat's laptop to this kid, someone who deserves it and let her find out what it's like for someone to EARN rewards vs work hard without expected luxuries. Parents work hard to give their children a comfortable life, and sometimes we forget how important it is to instill and follow through with these valuable lessons.
Well I agree with that The elaborate display was unnecessary maybe but hey... is there a 100% right way to fool proof parent a 15 year old girl throwing a tantrum? Youd be a gajillionaire! =)
If it works for them, then all the best. Consistency is what will keep the family together until she grows up and learns they were good intentions, if not perfect. ya?
The elaborate display was unnecessary maybe but hey... is there a 100% right way to fool proof parent a 15 year old girl throwing a tantrum? Youd be a gajillionaire! =) If it works for them, then all the best. Consistency is what will keep the family together until she grows up and learns they were good intentions, if not perfect. ya?
From the dad's facebook page - - thought i'd share :
"For those that wondered, commented, criticized, and just in general wanted to know:
My daughter came through it fine.
Yes, she's in trouble, and yes she's grounded, but that doesn't mean every moment of her life has to be miserable. She's going to come to terms with the changes that will be present for a while; no TV privileges, no Internet, etc.
In the meantime, once the initial anger passed, she sat with me reviewing some of the comments that have come in via Facebook and YouTube. One person even suggested collecting the shell casings and auctioning them on eBay. I said I’d do it if it would help contribute to her college fund! When I told her about it, she thought a minute, got a funny calculating expression on her face and said, “in that case you should shoot my phone too. We can use more bullets and I’ll go half-sies with ya on it! It’s not like I’m going to need it any time soon. And I can use the money we get to buy a new one.”
While the whole point of this story isn’t funny, what is funny to me is how weak some people out there think kids are. Our kids are as strong as we help them to be. My daughter took a horrible day in her life, had her crying fit, then got over it, accepted her punishment, and hasn’t let it (or people’s comments) destroy her strength. I don’t get any credit for that. She’s strong and able to overcome almost anything life throws at her.
Since this unsuspectingly threw her into the limelight much more strongly than either of us intended, I asked her if she wanted to make her own response video, and told her I’d let her do it if she wanted to. She doesn’t like being in front of the camera, so she declined, but I’ve told her if she wants to write a response or post a video response, I’d be OK with it. It’s only fair considering the viral nature of the whole thing. So far she’s not really interested. Quite frankly it seems she’s gotten bored of it much faster than the general public has. If that changes I’ll post it here."
- thought i'd share : "For those that wondered, commented, criticized, and just in general wanted to know:
My daughter came through it fine.
Yes, she's in trouble, and yes she's grounded, but that doesn't mean every moment of her life has to be miserable. She's going to come to terms with the changes that will be present for a while; no TV privileges, no Internet, etc.
In the meantime, once the initial anger passed, she sat with me reviewing some of the comments that have come in via Facebook and YouTube. One person even suggested collecting the shell casings and auctioning them on eBay. I said I’d do it if it would help contribute to her college fund! When I told her about it, she thought a minute, got a funny calculating expression on her face and said, “in that case you should shoot my phone too. We can use more bullets and I’ll go half-sies with ya on it! It’s not like I’m going to need it any time soon. And I can use the money we get to buy a new one.”
While the whole point of this story isn’t funny, what is funny to me is how weak some people out there think kids are. Our kids are as strong as we help them to be. My daughter took a horrible day in her life, had her crying fit, then got over it, accepted her punishment, and hasn’t let it (or people’s comments) destroy her strength. I don’t get any credit for that. She’s strong and able to overcome almost anything life throws at her.
Since this unsuspectingly threw her into the limelight much more strongly than either of us intended, I asked her if she wanted to make her own response video, and told her I’d let her do it if she wanted to. She doesn’t like being in front of the camera, so she declined, but I’ve told her if she wants to write a response or post a video response, I’d be OK with it. It’s only fair considering the viral nature of the whole thing. So far she’s not really interested. Quite frankly it seems she’s gotten bored of it much faster than the general public has. If that changes I’ll post it here."
That's a really good alternative.Good job dad.
HOWEVER it would have been (although less traumatic) had he gone to the teacher in a class and asked if there was an kid that was working hard, doing well in his or her studies without the blissful technology of a laptop and whatnot. Give the brat's laptop to this kid, someone who deserves it and let her find out what it's like for someone to EARN rewards vs work hard without expected luxuries. Parents work hard to give their children a comfortable life, and sometimes we forget how important it is to instill and follow through with these valuable lessons.
At the end of the day this guy did SOMETHING, while the majority of parents just let their teenage girls run over them. I don't have a daughter, but I'd have to believe that not letting your kid just get away with crap is ultimately a good thing for them.
Not looking forward to the teen years - KK
Not looking forward to the teen years - KK
From the news article seemingly one lesson being taught is how to be a spendthrift.
What about taking the laptop away (i.e. you're grounded) rather than destroying it?
What about taking the laptop away (i.e. you're grounded) rather than destroying it?
From a news article about this, seemingly one leason "dear old dad" is teaching is how to be a spendthrift. What ever happened to taking it away for awhile (i.e. you're grounded) rather than destroying it.
What makes you think his family is dysfunctional? The image of the family I got when listening to the dad is one that is hard-working, hygenic, orderly, and responsible.
The theatrics weren't necessary (complete waste of a perfectly good laptop), but I don't see how it would lead to estrangement, violent relataliation or anything along those lines.
