Gradually losing interest in this hobby?

[Abjectpatient]

Throughout my life, I’ve never struggled with women. I’ve had plenty of non-SP girlfriends, and I even dated two SPs outside of their work. I know I don't have a lot of reviews, but if you visit the Vancouver based board with my username, or caf, you'll find me, along with several Asia based boards.

I remember back when I first visited a SP in my early 20s; it was such a thrilling and daring experience. After that, I was addicted, even when I had girlfriends because I could have whatever kind of woman I wanted on the spot: young, busty, old, skinny, Asian, Black whatever, they all turned me on in their own ways; I'd even budget for my visits. I am in 30s now and this thrill is gone. Yet I often still find myself looking at providers' ads and seeking out agencies. I love Asian women and probably know the whole roster at any time of ASB and GG, and the locations of most Asian providers in my region, but over the last two years I’ve lived in Ontario, I haven’t visited them once. I’ll be excited by the ads but never want to pull the trigger. I've even messaged SPs and backed out, and the few times I have gone through with it I was drunk. Nonetheless, there are always doubts about untruthful pictures and unsatisfying sex, but also the just pure thrill of seeing an SP is just lost.

Has anyone else gone through this? I want the thrill of seeing an SP back, but I think my brain is numb to it with age and experience. Should I just retire from this outright?

 

[bazokajoe]

Feel the same way. Haven't seen any SP for months and really have no interest. Like you I look at the ads and think about it but never follow through.
Living in the Niagara Region there is no good selection of ladies unless you are desperate and extremely lonely.
I used to like going to Toronto to see a few ladies. Enjoyed making a day out of it. Now it seems more of a chore to go to Toronto.
For me I think it's about my age(61) and naturally lower sex drive.
Maybe I'll snap out of it, but right now I don't care if I do or don't.

P.S. That PERB is one stuffy and anal board. Ask a few questions and get banned. Ridiculous.

 

[Abjectpatient]

Feel the same way. Haven't seen any SP for months and really have no interest. Like you I look at the ads and think about it but never follow through.
Living in the Niagara Region there is no good selection of ladies unless you are desperate and extremely lonely.
I used to like going to Toronto to see a few ladies. Enjoyed making a day out of it. Now it seems more of a chore to go to Toronto.
For me I think it's about my age(61) and naturally lower sex drive.
Maybe I'll snap out of it, but right now I don't care if I do or don't.

P.S. That PERB is one stuffy and anal board. Ask a few questions and get banned. Ridiculous.

Funny, I am also in Niagara. I mean it is a desert here, but I've seeked out a few who've caught my interest and still didn't go for it. And in my 'civilian' sexual life I am still very active.

I just really miss the rush of visiting an SP, it has been gone for years.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Funny, I am also in Niagara. I mean it is a desert here, but I've seeked out a few who've caught my interest and still didn't go for it. And in my 'civilian' sexual life I am still very active.

I just really miss the rush of visiting an SP, it has been gone for years.

Couple of things. Agree with the main thread of the thread. If you have a "very active" civilian sex life why would you still crave sp's? Secondly why would you move from Vancouver to Niagara?
Anyway. I agree. I was over the hill when I first found Craigslist about 12 years ago. I used the Georgia Strait printed ad section at that time. Craigslist was a revelation to a friggin cornucopia candy store. Then I found perb and that opened up a whole new pandora's box of women with reviews. Some were deservedly legendary. I couldn't believe the wonderful experiences I found.
Now I am old. Still participate with a couple of regulars, but mostly bored with it all. Skim through the reviews in an offhand way but don't jump at anything mentioned.
It was a great run. And I am not done yet. I have been considering trying to get a date. But for me the pickings are slim. I read someone saying on Quora that sex is pleasant but not mind blowing and that they are really too old for most women to find attractive. Although I am not chopped liver I get it.
I got on the bus the other day to follow a sexy young black girl who was just what I like. She was aware I was checking her out but I didn't make any move. Reality is that I am just too old. Not to fuck her. Just for her to have any interest in me. So I got off the bus and went home.

 

[bazokajoe]

Couple of things. Agree with the main thread of the thread. If you have a "very active" civilian sex life why would you still crave sp's? Secondly why would you move from Vancouver to Niagara?
Anyway. I agree. I was over the hill when I first found Craigslist about 12 years ago. I used the Georgia Strait printed ad section at that time. Craigslist was a revelation to a friggin cornucopia candy store. Then I found perb and that opened up a whole new pandora's box of women with reviews. Some were deservedly legendary. I couldn't believe the wonderful experiences I found.
Now I am old. Still participate with a couple of regulars, but mostly bored with it all. Skim through the reviews in an offhand way but don't jump at anything mentioned.
It was a great run. And I am not done yet. I have been considering trying to get a date. But for me the pickings are slim. I read someone saying on Quora that sex is pleasant but not mind blowing and that they are really too old for most women to find attractive. Although I am not chopped liver I get it.
I got on the bus the other day to follow a sexy young black girl who was just what I like. She was aware I was checking her out but I didn't make any move. Reality is that I am just too old. Not to fuck her. Just for her to have any interest in me. So I got off the bus and went home.

Not answering for the OP. but to answer your question about moving from Vancouver to Niagara.
1 less tax off your paycheck
2 lower housing costs
3 a lot less crowded
4 cheaper gas
5 much less crime, especially violent crime
6 Doug Ford is a prince compared to their Premier.

 

[Abjectpatient]

If you have a "very active" civilian sex life why would you still crave sp's?

It has always been impulsive and a thrill. Yes, you can always visit any woman you're fucking at the time, but it is still at least a little formal. A SP is any type of woman you want, right on demand, especially back in the day when the ads were more honest.

Secondly why would you move from Vancouver to Niagara?

I attended UBC Vancouver after graduating high school in Calgary and spent a few years there, and in Asia, before took up my career here for personal reasons. I'd love to live in Vancouver again, but at this point its a fucking waste land with rent and mortgage prices, and I hate Toronto with a passion. Tbh, I'll be back in Asian before I am back in either of those cities. My dream is to retire in the beaches of Thailand, or the mountains of Korea.

I got on the bus the other day to follow a sexy young black girl who was just what I like. She was aware I was checking her out but I didn't make any move. Reality is that I am just too old. Not to fuck her. Just for her to have any interest in me. So I got off the bus and went home.

This is always hard, I am not that old, I am in my 30s, but I just know a lot of young women would see me as ancient at this point. I've caught a few of them up, but it is always like an old man thing, and I am not even that old. The rest of the women my age are married or in serious relationships.

 

[Patron]

Have you ever thought about seeing more providers who offer fetish and alt activities?

Personally, I was always a fetish guy and I would fantasize during vanilla sessions, but when the full-service scene got more open-minded, those are the ladies I started to see.

It opens up a world that is hard to get as bored with, at least for me.

 

[LTO_3]

This hobby is addictive but at the same time too much of a good thing DOES get boring after a while. In other words, take a break from seeing the ladies or the sites they're on. It's difficult but just do that. And after a small "hobbying vacation" start up again but go at it slowly.
Just like we all enjoy taking vacations from our jobs to travel, relax and recharge our batteries the same is true about seeing SPs...or any attractive ladies wearing skimpy clothes as they're walking anywhere.

LTO_3

 

[xix]

This is always hard, I am not that old, I am in my 30s, but I just know a lot of young women would see me as ancient at this point. I've caught a few of them up, but it is always like an old man thing, and I am not even that old. The rest of the women my age are married or in serious relationships.

Women in your age group 35 married /relationship?
Those relationships are FWB.

You will find the 30's singles / divorce in the right bar in any city depending on the night.

AS for your post 1. It could be a phase, you need to take time off. Or to much action, now some down time. Some chick did something to you hence why you down or bored. Or something happen between you and SP it didn't bother you then but now it is .

I used to go to SC alot. Then my local SC got shut down. Other places are charging like 25 entry fee plus buy drinks !!!! So I stop going. It is a matter of time when I go back. And also the girls are young and I am not. But I tell them I am young.

 

[jalimon]

Have you ever thought about seeing more providers who offer fetish and alt activities?

Personally, I was always a fetish guy and I would fantasize during vanilla sessions, but when the full-service scene got more open-minded, those are the ladies I started to see.

It opens up a world that is hard to get as bored with, at least for me.

Patron here touch an important point. As we age we do get bored. A vanilla session quickly bores me.

I once went to meet a girl in Missisauga. I very quickly ask if she done that before. A few times she said. I sensed a big waste of time. I did not kiss her, i simply said hey let me touch your body and we will go from there. Fine she said.

She had a satin black thong… fuck fuck! We went all the way but as soon as i entered her she started go cry. I stopped. She said i can’t fuck it hurts. i said fine ok don’t worry let me leave ill pay you anyway. She’s still in her thong and beautiful as fuck. I ask questions. if a penetration really hurts she must consult. She cried for 10 minutes but then as i was about to leave said hey let me just play a bit with you, don’t do anything.

She ended up making me come with just a hand job. She had her black satin thong in my mouth.

What should have turned into a disaster session turned into a memorable one.

All because i was a pervert indeed. But a reasonable one

If more girl would learn about our fantasies we wouldn’t retire or get bored…

 

[Krakatoa]

I just turned 50 this year and the thrill is definitely not what it used to be. That said, my sex drive is still going pretty strong and I still love seeing beautiful young ladies. One week I'll go see my favorite stripper and get a long lap dance and the next week I'll go to a massage spa and have a beautiful lady body slide all over me. Both are heaven. But it's not as mind blowing as it was back when I was younger. Today it's just something fun to do.

 

[jakepint1]

I used to go to SC alot. Then my local SC got shut down. Other place are charging like 25 entry fee plus buy drinks !!!! So I stop going. It is a matter of time when I go back. And also the girls are young and I am not. But I tell them I am young.

I just turned 50 this year and the thrill is definitely not what it used to be. That said, my sex drive is still going pretty strong and I still love seeing beautiful young ladies. One week I'll go see my favorite stripper and get a long lap dance and the next week I'll go to a massage spa and have a beautiful lady body slide all over me. Both are heaven. But it's not as mind blowing as it was back when I was younger. Today it's just something fun to do.

I only was truly hobbying for just over a year. Averaging 2-3 times a week and yes I did loss that initial thrill. At the moment Strip clubs are fairly new and exciting to watch fairly good looking women dance. I have been spending more time at different SC as it is cheaper in my city due to cheap cover fee or even free entry with no pressure to even buy a drink. So I sometimes go for the food as the one in my city is restaurant prices and quality with additionally watching naked girls on the side

 

[Spunky1]

I’m gradually losing interest in Everything.

 

[Mr.Gr33k]

Without a genuine human connection, every session becomes very transactional and repetitive. Also, it is somewhat unnatural to have access to free pussy, porn, readily available information etc. Men don't have to work for it. Our brains and minds are overstimulated by internet. Nowadays you simply need to click a button or too to get that much needed dopamine. After a while it gets boring. There's no thrill, no rush, because it's just too easy.

 

[IM469]

I just turned 50 this year and the thrill is definitely not what it used to be. That said, my sex drive is still going pretty strong and I still love seeing beautiful young ladies. One week I'll go see my favorite stripper and get a long lap dance and the next week I'll go to a massage spa and have a beautiful lady body slide all over me. Both are heaven. But it's not as mind blowing as it was back when I was younger. Today it's just something fun to do.

I was going to agree with everything you posted but I still have the same thrill as I had in my youth. The stamina may have diminished but not the enjoyment.

 

[HotDogger]

Have you ever thought about seeing more providers who offer fetish and alt activities?

Personally, I was always a fetish guy and I would fantasize during vanilla sessions, but when the full-service scene got more open-minded, those are the ladies I started to see.

It opens up a world that is hard to get as bored with, at least for me.

Be very careful with going down the fetish path. It is not unlike trying opioids; for once you do your brain is irreversibly changed. You may end up being one of those guys that can’t get hard unless it is a fetish provider. And there are less of them out there.

Better to do the hobby less often and with higher quality [well reviewed] ladies. If you hobby less you will have more money to spend on better quality ladies. @LTO_3 nailed when he said, “too much of a good thing DOES get boring after a while”. My recommendation is to hobby less often but when you do, hobby well.

 

[Patron]

Be very careful with going down the fetish path. It is not unlike trying opioids; for once you do your brain is irreversibly changed. You may end up being one of those guys that can’t get hard unless it is a fetish provider. And there are less of them out there.

Better to do the hobby less often and with higher quality [well reviewed] ladies. If you hobby less you will have more money to spend on better quality ladies. @LTO_3 nailed when he said, “too much of a good thing DOES get boring after a while”. My recommendation is to hobby less often but when you do, hobby well.

Your concerns are valid, but I am not sure it isn’t a chicken or egg thing. If you have a lot of kink fantasies, you are probably thinking of those during a vanilla session anyway.

I don’t have any problem doing a vanilla session, but I simply enjoy sessions with some kink a lot more.

And I find there too actually be a lot more open-minded full-service escorts than there used to be, either advertising it directly, or being open to it. I brought a toy during a session with a Hush Companions lady and she was like cool, that sounds fun. A long time ago, there was more of a wall, at least in the U.S., between the BDSM scene and the escort scene. BDSM girls simply didn’t do full service - it was a hand release at best, and escorts rarely did fetish. In the last ten years, the wall crumbled.

Personally, I think the rationale for not exploring kink is more applicable in married life. There is a classic cartoon where the husband is spanking his wife and the young daughter has snuck in the bedroom and says Daddy, Can‘t You Just Give Her a Time-Out, much to the embarrassment of both of them. I am not saying that kinky folks can’t be good parents, but the scene has endless discussions of how to keep it hidden from kids and in-laws.

Not sure why the hooker needs to be a “good girl” in the traditional John / Sex Worker relationship, as long as she consents to being a “bad girl”.

 

[HotDogger]

Your concerns are valid, but I am not sure it isn’t a chicken or egg thing. If you have a lot of kink fantasies, you are probably thinking of those during a vanilla session anyway.

I don’t have any problem doing a vanilla session, but I simply enjoy sessions with some kink a lot more.

And I find there too actually be a lot more open-minded full-service escorts than there used to be, either advertising it directly, or being open to it. I brought a toy during a session with a Hush Companions lady and she was like cool, that sounds fun. A long time ago, there was more of a wall, at least in the U.S., between the BDSM scene and the escort scene. BDSM girls simply didn’t do full service - it was a hand release at best, and escorts rarely did fetish. In the last ten years, the wall crumbled.

Personally, I think the rationale for not exploring kink is more applicable in married life. There is a classic cartoon where the husband is spanking his wife and the young daughter has snuck in the bedroom and says Daddy, Can‘t You Just Give Her a Time-Out, much to the embarrassment of both of them. I am not saying that kinky folks can’t be good parents, but the scene has endless discussions of how to keep it hidden from kids and in-laws.

Not sure why the hooker needs to be a “good girl” in the traditional John / Sex Worker relationship, as long as she consents to being a “bad girl”.

Good points sir. I think caution is warranted when exploring fetish/kink, for the reasons I outlined. It is a very slippery slope. (Pun intended )

 

[xix]

I only was truly hobbying for just over a year. Averaging 2-3 times a week and yes I did loss that initial thrill. At the moment Strip clubs are fairly new and exciting to watch fairly good looking women dance. I have been spending more time at different SC as it is cheaper in my city due to cheap cover fee or even free entry with no pressure to even buy a drink. So I sometimes go for the food as the one in my city is restaurant prices and quality with additionally watching naked girls on the side

That is Obsessive, you should try different cultures and 1-2 times a month.

In which city are you describing this about SC?

 

[Abjectpatient]

I’m gradually losing interest in Everything.

Way she goes, play some golf like me, it is my current interest at 36.