Greener Pastures and being a Jerk

[FearlessFreep]

Thought I would ask for some input as I'm tired of over thinking the issue.

I have been seeing this provider on a weekly basis since January, and still enjoy every session we have. But for the last two weeks I have also been seeing another lady who is every bit as fun as #1.

Even though I am extending the hobby budget at the moment to see them both, I will have to come back to budget limits soon. So, what I need to do is set up a week about system where I see each every other week, and also add a few bucks from time to time for R&D. Sounds simple enough..... except I'll have to cut back my weekly visits to #1 to every second week. How do you go about telling her that? Emotionally will she feel betrayed? I'm thinking yes. Financially, it amounts to an employee pay cut, will this amount to strained relations? Again, yes me thinks. Greener pastures?

Some of you must have been in this situation before.

 

[Terminator2000]

Thought I would ask for some input as I'm tired of over thinking the issue.

I have been seeing this provider on a weekly basis since January, and still enjoy every session we have. But for the last two weeks I have also been seeing another lady who is every bit as fun as #1.

Even though I am extending the hobby budget at the moment to see them both, I will have to come back to budget limits soon. So, what I need to do is set up a week about system where I see each every other week, and also add a few bucks from time to time for R&D. Sounds simple enough..... except I'll have to cut back my weekly visits to #1 to every second week. How do you go about telling her that? Emotionally will she feel betrayed? I'm thinking yes. Financially, it amounts to an employee pay cut, will this amount to strained relations? Again, yes me thinks. Greener pastures?

Some of you must have been in this situation before.

just say you cant afford it. just say you got demoted at work or lost your position or there was downsizing at your company or some shit. wtf. you're not obligated to see a working lady that wouldn't see you if you didnt pay her. wtf.

 

[SkyRider]

working lady that wouldn't see you if you didnt pay her. wtf.

This sounds like harsh reality. The lady might offer him a deep discount to reflect his new financial situation?

 

[Terminator2000]

This sounds like harsh reality. The lady might offer him a deep discount to reflect his new financial situation?

highly doubt it. they run a business. not a charity.
pretty soon she'll be the one coming up with excuses not to see him. sorry hun. i can't see you this weekend. got to go up north to the cottage. maybe next week hun.

 

[TeasePlease]

1. This is a business relationship. Not a personal relationship.

2. Pay cut? What makes you think you're irreplaceable?

Go ahead. Tell her you've been downsized at work and can't afford to play anymore. If she says "fuck it, come on and see me anyways...on the house" You'll know it's true love.

 

[Buick Mackane]

She knows you might cheat with other providers, I suspect she sees other guys as well without telling you.

 

[igotaboner]

I know it seems like you're emotionally involved but it's a fantasy. Just tell her you have to cut back to every other week, no need to lie. As someone else has said if there is an emotional tie on her end she'll tell you to come "on the house," and how good would that be?

 

[Nickelodeon]

You don't have to say anything...you're a small fish in her pond unless you're a sugar daddy. Plus I hope you've been reading the debates about TFSA vs RRSP's in the paper recently; I don't think they gave the "hobbying budget" as an option re: the $1K/ $10-$12K you're investing here.

 

[FearlessFreep]

You don't have to say anything...you're a small fish in her pond

I'm surprised I even posted this thread.

I suppose it was the combination of more booze and guilt that had me believe you guys would offer a remedy I hadn't yet puzzled out. Sorry to waste both our time.

I like green pastures, so I will move on to #2 until I come across #3. The perfect arrangement as it meets the budget and allows more for scouting newer prospects. I'm not under the impression there is a relationship here, I have a good understanding of reality, she just has become a bit more than a pay for play stranger. Maybe not a real friend, but a nice person who treats me well. Hense the guilt.

Anyway... I will move on. I will tell her I have started a new civilian relationship and feel the need to give it an honest try. I should choke on that bull, but it's all I have short of "sayonara, thanks for the great time." I'll include a lovely parting gift as well.

And, I know I'm just one of many, still, once a jerk....