Having a Partner Can Be Harmful If You’re Over 65 – 7 Reasons Why Staying Single Might Be Better

[SchlongConery]

Although not in that age bracket quite yet, I figured this out in my early fifties.

While i may really enjoy a good woman's company, I enjoy my own better when it comes to much more than dating on a regular basis, at most.

While I am generous to a fault with my time, emotions, compassion, support and resources, I find on balance that there is too much that compromises the basics of my life. I have had great relationships with fantastic women that I look back fondly upon, and do not regret. But there are a few things that I love to do that most women have no interest in/. For example, I love to kiteboarding and hydrofoil. Southern Ontario is rich in great kiteboarding sites but depending on the wind, I could be at Cherry Beach one day, Wasaga Beach the next, Long Point on Lake Erie or Lake Simcoe. All are pretty much all day outings. Usually followed up by a few beers on the beach, a bonfire and picnic/bbq or some of us heading out for dinner somewhere. And I have lots of other similar activities like weekday sailing races at the National Yacht Club or being invited to another club. Socializing is a big part of it and I love the people I meet in both activities. Same with flying recreationally.

Yet, the past 3 girlfriends I've had have all thought it was so cool...but began to give me guilt trips over the time I spent doing my own thing. Things that brought me joy and hopefull will continue to as I age with an active lifestyle.

Funy thta while I really do enjoy their company, I find that I change who I am to be considerate and compromising to my own detriment and inner dissatisfaction. I really do enjoy bringing joy to someone's life and enjoy lots of the new things, ideas and experiences the woman brings to the relationship but most times it's just not my thing.

Overall, I'm happy being single and doing a bit of casual dating when the opportunity arises. I'm far from feeling lonely so that's not a factor.

So what do you guys think about the thoughts in this video?

Having a Partner Can Be Harmful If You’re Over 65 – 7 Reasons Why Staying Single Might Be Better

 

[bazokajoe]

I'm 61,never married, no kids and it's going to stay that way.
Travelling alone is great.
Nothing better than doing what you want when you want.

 

[xix]

As people get older, I notice most people turn to be a covert malignant narcissist.
Mainly those who made money or stole/ gotten from their partners. I seen to many.

Some people who haven't made money are also like this but fewer than the others.

It's harmful even before you're 65.

Any gender giving anyone guilt trips later on is generally deep down lonely and doesn't know how to be happy with themself. If you both make time for one another watching certain shows/movies and cuddling together then what's wrong with her or him going for bike rides alone at times?

I been to many weekend workshops and 12 steps programs. People don't see the above quote as common sense. So you have to know how to let go quickly and move on.

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A covert malignant narcissist is a person who exhibits the traits of a malignant narcissist but does so in a more subtle and hidden way. They may present themselves as humble or victimized, while still engaging in manipulative and harmful behaviors. This can make them harder to identify and understand, as their narcissistic tendencies are disguised.

Here's a more detailed look at the key characteristics:
Covert Narcissism:

• Hidden Narcissism:
  Covert narcissists often mask their need for admiration and sense of entitlement behind a facade of humility, self-doubt, or victimhood.
• Subtle Manipulation:
  They may use indirect tactics like passive-aggression, gaslighting, or guilt-tripping to achieve their goals.
• • Envy and Resentment:
    They often harbor deep-seated envy of others' successes and may try to undermine them covertly.
  • Lack of Empathy:
    While they may express sadness or vulnerability, they lack true empathy and understanding for others' feelings.
  • Sensitivity to Criticism:
    They are hypersensitive to any perceived criticism, often reacting with anger or defensiveness.

Malignant Narcissism:

• • Grandiosity and Entitlement: They have an exaggerated sense of self-importance and believe they deserve special treatment.
  • Lack of Empathy: They are unable to understand or share the feelings of others.
  • Exploitation and Manipulation: They readily exploit and manipulate others for their own gain.
  • Aggression and Rage: They are prone to anger, aggression, and rage when their needs are not met.
  • No Sense of Guilt or Remorse: They show no remorse or guilt for the harm they cause others.

Combining the Traits:
A covert malignant narcissist combines the subtle manipulation and hidden nature of a covert narcissist with the aggression, lack of empathy, and entitlement of a malignant narcissist. This makes them particularly dangerous and difficult to deal with, as their manipulative behaviors are often masked by a facade of humility or victimhood.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Dealing with one now. She is older than me. I worked with her twenty years ago and she lives up the street. Her husband died a few years ago. I knew him casually, socially through her.No involvement with her at all, although she makes it clear she wants romance. No fucking chance. She has had a family. Kids and grand kids. So she isn't alone.
Anyway. It has come to the point where she expects me to keep her company on both my days off. she can always find ways to turn a day into a meandering marathon of time wasting. When I try to drop her off, she gets aggrieved that I am trying to make a break for it.
At first, I was sympathetic and was sort of grateful for the friendship, but I am now seeing her as being controlling and manipulative. It's what women are.
Time to pull the fucking plug. Time is finite and having to explain why I want time to myself just annoying.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Although not in that age bracket quite yet, I figured this out in my early fifties.

While i may really enjoy a good woman's company, I enjoy my own better when it comes to much more than dating on a regular basis, at most.

While I am generous to a fault with my time, emotions, compassion, support and resources, I find on balance that there is too much that compromises the basics of my life. I have had great relationships with fantastic women that I look back fondly upon, and do not regret. But there are a few things that I love to do that most women have no interest in/. For example, I love to kiteboarding and hydrofoil. Southern Ontario is rich in great kiteboarding sites but depending on the wind, I could be at Cherry Beach one day, Wasaga Beach the next, Long Point on Lake Erie or Lake Simcoe. All are pretty much all day outings. Usually followed up by a few beers on the beach, a bonfire and picnic/bbq or some of us heading out for dinner somewhere. And I have lots of other similar activities like weekday sailing races at the National Yacht Club or being invited to another club. Socializing is a big part of it and I love the people I meet in both activities. Same with flying recreationally.

Yet, the past 3 girlfriends I've had have all thought it was so cool...but began to give me guilt trips over the time I spent doing my own thing. Things that brought me joy and hopefull will continue to as I age with an active lifestyle.

Funy thta while I really do enjoy their company, I find that I change who I am to be considerate and compromising to my own detriment and inner dissatisfaction. I really do enjoy bringing joy to someone's life and enjoy lots of the new things, ideas and experiences the woman brings to the relationship but most times it's just not my thing.

Overall, I'm happy being single and doing a bit of casual dating when the opportunity arises. I'm far from feeling lonely so that's not a factor.

So what do you guys think about the thoughts in this video?

Having a Partner Can Be Harmful If You’re Over 65 – 7 Reasons Why Staying Single Might Be Better

Great video. Needs to be heard by many.

 

[Adamxx]

A similar message by Denzel, that covers more than mate.

 

[Fred Flinstone]

I myself will be 68 next month. Last year, after being 100% completely frustrated with women and their unrealistic expectations, I decided to focus on building stronger bonds with my male friends. What I discovered was peace.. No complaining, no nagging, no fucking emotional games, etc. Another huge step I took was to stop being other women's emotional dumping ground. I DO NOT let them dump their shit on me about relationship, family trbl, etc.. It's amazing how those types quickly disappeared from my life. The trauma dumping was endless, and it was affecting me negatively. Seriously, go take that shit to your girlfriends please.. I know I sound like a selfish prick, but my peace of mind was at stake, and what was in it for me? Nothing but aggravation.. with zero payoff...
I'll admit to being a bit lonely at times, as it would be nice to have a confidante.. I do miss that..

In the end, when I get lonely or simply horny, I find a nice provider who I've spent time building somewhat of a connection with. I get the release I need. I always make sure there's time for just holding each other, cuddling, hugging, chatting about simple things, etc. A heartfelt hug, even if it's fake, but done well, always makes me feel good. Until the next visit...

Stop chasing women, maybe some day they'll get the message that they aren't any more special than we are..

 

[ShootNScoot]

I think long term relationships work for some… if you you’re willing to accept things you don’t enjoy and give up on things you do or want to enjoy.

Look at breaking in wild horses. They work them until the horse gives in and concedes… yeah it gets to run, but only while under the control of another.

The OP is dead on… enjoying his freedom with risk, and danger sprinkled in… after living a domesticated life… do it up!!

 

[Mr Deeds]

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[rgkv]

I tell people I have the perfect life... Retired, Financialy secure, SINGLE....and 65 is quite away behind me

 

[Fred Flinstone]

I tell people I have the perfect life... Retired, Financialy secure, SINGLE....and 65 is quite away behind me

Over the last few years, in speaking with men that are in their 60's, like me, I hear that if they ever lost their partner, they'd def remain single for the rest of their lives. Most likely, women of the same age would say the same.. (if they can afford to remain single)

 

[rgkv]

Over the last few years, in speaking with men that are in their 60's, like me, I hear that if they ever lost their partner, they'd def remain single for the rest of their lives. Most likely, women of the same age would say the same.. (if they can afford to remain single)

I hear it too. I have heard men say it in front of their wives..

 

[Fred Flinstone]

I hear it too. I have heard men say it in front of their wives..

That's never good, but I guess they've reached a point of no return..

 

[oscarmayer]

 

[Patron]

A surprising number of kids come to the same conclusion as grandpa and grandma.

Teen Boys and Girls Agree on What Is Most Important in Life

Teens and adults see enjoyable work as far more important than marriage for a fulfilling adult life.

www.psychologytoday.com

They didn’t ask the kids if $5,000 is enough to change their minds.

Trump administration mulls $5,000 baby bonus to boost population, report says

Despite rising slightly last year, birth rates in the United States have been falling for years.

www.wsaz.com

 

[jeff2]

Living solo - Statistics Canada

Living alone: by choice or circumstance? Whatever the answer, more and more Canadians live alone, reflecting a long-term pattern of growth over the years. In 2021, 4.4 million people lived alone, up from 1.7 million in 1981.

www.statcan.gc.ca

 

[rgkv]

That's never good, but I guess they've reached a point of no return..

or else they think it turns their wifes on.. knowing he will never be interested in another woman

 

[Fred Flinstone]

or else they think it turns their wifes on.. knowing he will never be interested in another woman

Umm, highly doubt it, lol...

 

[steelcitysid]

I hear it too. I have heard men say it in front of their wives..

Alot of women are choosing to remain single. I am single, never getting married again. But I heard a woman say that men need to be with a woman and not always vise versa. She made a point that a lot of men will stay in a shitty marriage just to be with a woman rather than leave. That's why they say most women initiate divorces--its because they're unhappy and want better.

Now more women are priotizing a career and independence over marriage and children. I see the trend continuing for sure.

 

[jeff2]

Alot of women are choosing to remain single. I am single, never getting married again. But I heard a woman say that men need to be with a woman and not always vise versa. She made a point that a lot of men will stay in a shitty marriage just to be with a woman rather than leave. That's why they say most women initiate divorces--its because they're unhappy and want better.

Now more women are priotizing a career and independence over marriage and children. I see the trend continuing for sure.

Absolutely this is what is happening. I wonder if those studies that say married men are better off need to be updated.
Perhaps they are surveying the old couples that are now dying out. They were married under completely different conditions.
Men should become less emotional and treat marriage as the experiment it is.