How are you today?
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I hate this heat.
Im Canadian and will complain when it is hot and when it is cold complain it’s too cold.
Im Canadian and will complain when it is hot and when it is cold complain it’s too cold.
Doin great
Spent the day with the grandkids in the backyard
Cooked steaks on the bbq for the adults hotdogs for the kids
Now havin afew beers on, the deck enjoyin the cricket sounds
Yup
Today was a good day:encouragement:
Spent the day with the grandkids in the backyard
Cooked steaks on the bbq for the adults hotdogs for the kids
Now havin afew beers on, the deck enjoyin the cricket sounds
Yup
Today was a good day:encouragement:
Today I'm feeling down. Over the last few years been going through a lot. My father passed away a couple of years back and left my mother and I nothing. He never planned for the future and due to that had to incur debts etc that were not foreseen. Since then I've had to take care of my mother emotionally and financially. That at times is a heavy burden but I do it because I love my mother and my sister is crap so I have to step up.
I'd like to have my own family but I feel that time is running out for me, it also doesn't help that I take care of my mother and women here at least the ones with a Canadian mentality don't value that. Plus even if you find a woman most are just materialistic opportunists who want to get with a you to gain material benefit and the first sign of trouble they run away. I've seen this with friends. It's very sad to see.
On top of that over the last couple of years since I've been getting body blows I've not taken care of myself. So recently I've been diagnosed prediabetic and I now have been working hard to try and turn that around hopefully with clean eating and exercise.
For the last couple of years I've been trying to land a job outside of Canada because I don't like the life here. It's very selfish here. Or at least Toronto feels that way. I've even applied to jobs where I'd get paid less just to get out of this country and no luck.
This all makes me feel frustrated to the point that this summer I had a panic attack and I never suffered this. That was scary and I didn't want to die (didn't know it was a heart attack at the time) because I didn't want to leave my mother alone.
Now onto the topic of friends. I have few friends and that circle is shrinking as you get rid of bad friends and some friends get families and since they have no use for you they forget about you. Some good friends are also abroad. They got fed up with life in Canada and left. Lucky them they could leave.
So I get down regularly because I don't see a light at the end of this tunnel. Other people get what they want with no effort or minimal effort and that's frustrating when I'm trying hard and no results.
The way I see my life here is when my mother passed away I'll end up alone and that's fine when you can take care of yourself but when you're sick and old who will take care of me? Even if you have the money to pay for care paid help can still treat you like shit.
It's hard to have a smile and be happy when life has become such an uphill battle.
Sorry for the rant. But I wanted to get that off my chest.
Have any of you been deep in a tough time ? Is it true it will get better or people say that just to be nice?
I'd like to have my own family but I feel that time is running out for me, it also doesn't help that I take care of my mother and women here at least the ones with a Canadian mentality don't value that. Plus even if you find a woman most are just materialistic opportunists who want to get with a you to gain material benefit and the first sign of trouble they run away. I've seen this with friends. It's very sad to see.
On top of that over the last couple of years since I've been getting body blows I've not taken care of myself. So recently I've been diagnosed prediabetic and I now have been working hard to try and turn that around hopefully with clean eating and exercise.
For the last couple of years I've been trying to land a job outside of Canada because I don't like the life here. It's very selfish here. Or at least Toronto feels that way. I've even applied to jobs where I'd get paid less just to get out of this country and no luck.
This all makes me feel frustrated to the point that this summer I had a panic attack and I never suffered this. That was scary and I didn't want to die (didn't know it was a heart attack at the time) because I didn't want to leave my mother alone.
Now onto the topic of friends. I have few friends and that circle is shrinking as you get rid of bad friends and some friends get families and since they have no use for you they forget about you. Some good friends are also abroad. They got fed up with life in Canada and left. Lucky them they could leave.
So I get down regularly because I don't see a light at the end of this tunnel. Other people get what they want with no effort or minimal effort and that's frustrating when I'm trying hard and no results.
The way I see my life here is when my mother passed away I'll end up alone and that's fine when you can take care of yourself but when you're sick and old who will take care of me? Even if you have the money to pay for care paid help can still treat you like shit.
It's hard to have a smile and be happy when life has become such an uphill battle.
Sorry for the rant. But I wanted to get that off my chest.
Have any of you been deep in a tough time ? Is it true it will get better or people say that just to be nice?
Sorry that you are going through this.
Be aware that based on your perspective it could only keep getting worse.
Based on someone else’s perspective they may consider you to be a very fortunate person who has a mother that is still alive and has many other things we normally take for granted that many people don’t have. Like abusive situations, mental illness, homeless, loses sight, cancer etc. So its all a matter of perspective.
Also maybe you are being tested and refined.
Best way out of this is to self actualize, figure out your self, and your limitations, biases etc. Find out what this life really means, and how much you played a role into getting here vs. the things that were out of your control.
Next once you become conscious, woke and aware is just to accept it. Accept that this is your life and circumstances. Accept that it could all get worse and your pain and suffering could increase 100 fold and you could lose everything and everyone. Then go beyond this, imagine that this is all a simulation and accept this potential. Then accept that it is possible that all this is just randomness and when people die that they just cease to exist and there is nothing more like god or simulation. Finally accept the possibility that we are all connected, that we are all God and part of the One.
Once you are in peace with all these possibilities come back to your life. Just do your best to live in the NOW and be PRESENT and what makes you happy. Keep giving more then you take from people and this earth and don’t expect anything in return. Start getting into hobbies and learning new activities and sports. Maybe volunteer in places that need it like habitat for humanity and help build houses. Keep working at it, just keep getting up no matter how hard it gets and how much people take advantage.
Don’t give up brother. There is a lot of beauty in this world, maybe you just didn’t see it yet and could be all around you. Try to self actualize and spend time on what makes you happy and gives you meaning. Stay strong Bro! This is what worked for me. Maybe some of it helps you too. If not or too much then don’t mind me just trying to help in my way.
You are not alone.
<3
Be aware that based on your perspective it could only keep getting worse.
Based on someone else’s perspective they may consider you to be a very fortunate person who has a mother that is still alive and has many other things we normally take for granted that many people don’t have. Like abusive situations, mental illness, homeless, loses sight, cancer etc. So its all a matter of perspective.
Also maybe you are being tested and refined.
Best way out of this is to self actualize, figure out your self, and your limitations, biases etc. Find out what this life really means, and how much you played a role into getting here vs. the things that were out of your control.
Next once you become conscious, woke and aware is just to accept it. Accept that this is your life and circumstances. Accept that it could all get worse and your pain and suffering could increase 100 fold and you could lose everything and everyone. Then go beyond this, imagine that this is all a simulation and accept this potential. Then accept that it is possible that all this is just randomness and when people die that they just cease to exist and there is nothing more like god or simulation. Finally accept the possibility that we are all connected, that we are all God and part of the One.
Once you are in peace with all these possibilities come back to your life. Just do your best to live in the NOW and be PRESENT and what makes you happy. Keep giving more then you take from people and this earth and don’t expect anything in return. Start getting into hobbies and learning new activities and sports. Maybe volunteer in places that need it like habitat for humanity and help build houses. Keep working at it, just keep getting up no matter how hard it gets and how much people take advantage.
Don’t give up brother. There is a lot of beauty in this world, maybe you just didn’t see it yet and could be all around you. Try to self actualize and spend time on what makes you happy and gives you meaning. Stay strong Bro! This is what worked for me. Maybe some of it helps you too. If not or too much then don’t mind me just trying to help in my way.
You are not alone.
<3
Life throws shit at you, whether in or out of your control.
But you always have the choice to choose which lens to view the world.
Gordon Marino is an interesting fellow that teaches existentialism.
His book is quite interesting - so thought I'd share:
https://www.amazon.ca/Existentialists-Survival-Guide-Authentically-Inauthentic/dp/0062435981
I’ve lived alone and been alone since my marriage dissolved several years ago. At first I thought it would be a relief and nice change of pace because our last four years together were miserable. But it sucks being alone, eating alone, watching TV alone, sleeping alone, spending birthdays and holidays alone. I get envious when I see happy couples because that was once me and now all the pleasant memories of the good times, which were suppressed during the bad times, have surfaced and I long for those experiences and feel my window is closing at age 55.
Then I read some posts like Jackal2006’s and realize I don’t have it so bad. I am healthy, in great shape from exercising regularly, have a decent-paying job, a big house in a nice neighborhood, I’m financially secure and most importantly, my children are healthy, safe and thriving.
It’s difficult being alone, but whenever I get depressed, I remind myself that I really have a lot to be grateful for.
Then I read some posts like Jackal2006’s and realize I don’t have it so bad. I am healthy, in great shape from exercising regularly, have a decent-paying job, a big house in a nice neighborhood, I’m financially secure and most importantly, my children are healthy, safe and thriving.
It’s difficult being alone, but whenever I get depressed, I remind myself that I really have a lot to be grateful for.
Life is always a test
Every second of every minute of every hour
Its a way of measuring you fortitude
I've been diagnosed and beat Cancer 3 times
walked a tight rope of financial distress to almost bankruptcy
had a son diagnosed with Cancer and beat it
I've had/have heart issues
another son with substance abuse issues...clean now
I've been POA for my parents for several years as they dealt with Alzheimers and Dimentia...father is gone now and my mother doesnt even know my name anymore
You got 2 choices
Curl up in a ball and wait to die
or
Fight with every fibre of your being for a better life
To answer you question
It will get better if you make it get better
