Did you take drugs when you were younger, do you think it is a good thing for your kids to try drugs.
If you smoked up when you were younger, would you encourage your kids to experiment
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Most likely they are going to try it either way. I'd rather be with someone you know vs. some kid who got something off another kid and so on.
Telling them to say no to drugs will not work on majority of kids. So ya when the time is right, I would sit my kid down and tell them everything, and have them experience themselves, with me, in a safe environment.
Kudos to the few that actually never tries any drugs.
Telling them to say no to drugs will not work on majority of kids. So ya when the time is right, I would sit my kid down and tell them everything, and have them experience themselves, with me, in a safe environment.
Kudos to the few that actually never tries any drugs.
If we're talking about weed exclusively, I would approach it the same way I would for alcohol: depends on how old the kids are, on much they are consumming, when they are consumming, and whether or not it has an effect on the rest of their life. Basically, I don't think there's any reason to freak out about a responsible 16 years old smoking a join or having a few beer now and then on the week-ends. I would however see it as a problem if the kid was to come home shit faced or completely baked, if her/his perfomance at school started to drop, or if there were any other signs that their consumption was negatively affecting their life.
Does it matter what I think? Did it matter what your parents thought when you decided to try drugs?
What I would hope we've learned—even if the law hasn't—is that it's better if your kids confide in you than hide from you about their drug use. By the time you find out what they've been hiding, you're likely way, way too late.
What I would hope we've learned—even if the law hasn't—is that it's better if your kids confide in you than hide from you about their drug use. By the time you find out what they've been hiding, you're likely way, way too late.
My son is 16, and yes we've had this conversation with him, along with a number of others... (e.g. the safe sex, alcohol and being respectful conversations amongst others). He literally has no interest at all in smoking or experimenting with 420. (He's kind of a health nut like his dad...), but that is not to say he won't feel pressure to give it a try at some point. Fortunately we have established fairly open lines of communication with our kids... and all we can do is teach them to be discrete and responsible.
Are you asking as a parent or as a kid?
If I had kids, I wouldn't actively advocate that they should do all the same stupid things I did. At the same time, I'd have to accept that they'd probably wind up doing a lot of the same things for the same reasons.
I learned a new cliché last week: "helicopter parenting". It describes parents who get too involved in their kids' lives. Personally, I'd just make sure they developed good values and good judgement, then trust them to make good decisions.
For those who don't believe that mutual trust and respect is healthy, here are a couple of old stories about in-home drug testing.
http://www.canada.com/cityguides/halifax/info/story.html?id=c3382411-55c3-41b5-8437-42f6ae73510c
http://www.thestar.com/article/555360
I smoked a lot of weed in university, took a commerce dgree and ended up being a CEO with 1,000 employees. I went to University when I was 16 and had been drinking beer since I was 13 - but hey I grew up in Montreal where you got a student discount in the tavern. Would I encourage him/her? No. Would I freak out ? No. My kid is probably brighter than I was so I think she/he can handle it. I stopped smoking weed regularly soon after graduation and getting my first job at a chartered accounting firm. I also realized that sex really wasn't better when I was stoned , only different.
30 years later I think my worst habit , and the one I had the most problems quitting, was cigarrettes. I did get a bit bossy about that when they tried it but I know how hard it is to quit.
30 years later I think my worst habit , and the one I had the most problems quitting, was cigarrettes. I did get a bit bossy about that when they tried it but I know how hard it is to quit.
