Is it cheating

[The Baron]

Ok gentlemen heres the situation.

Your S.O. tells you she has cheeted on you but she dosnt think she has done anything wrong because it was with another woman.

My opinion is that cheeting is just that, it doesnt matter what gender the other person is. But after saying that Id have to admit that Im not as angry as I would have been had she slept with a man. So Id like to know what the other members of this board think

1) Is it more acceptable for your S.O. to sleep with someone of the same gender.

2) how would you react in this same situation .

3) Should it be ok to for you to sleep with other woman just in the interest of fare play.

Baron

 

[shack]

Strictly speaking, I say it is cheating.

However, having said that, it does open up some possibilities, one of which you have alluded to. Discovering that your S.O. is bisexual is definitely a very sexy revelation and it probably would make it much easier for you to take liberties as well as enhance your sexual relationship with eachother. I agree that it wouldn't bother me as much as if it were with a guy for the above reasons as well as the fact that I wouldn't feel that my manhood was as much in question. After all, she didn't pick another man.

In your 3rd question, you said "sleep with other woman". Did you mean sleep with other womEn or sleep with THE other woman?

 

[spartan5782]

1) Is it more acceptable for your S.O. to sleep with someone of the same gender.

Assuming you are speaking strictly about heterosexual relationships, I'd be more inclined to accept my woman sleeping with another woman. In fact, I wouldn't think of it as cheating at all. I swear, looking at the best looking man and the ugliest woman, I don't understand why they don't dump us all?? lol.. We guys get beat out badly in the looks department..IMO, lol

2) how would you react in this same situation .

Since I'm a fan of "girl/girl" action, I'd encourage it. It would make for an interesting, albeit destructive, relationship that might give me 2 or 3 years of excitement. As I've stated above, I'd accept the fact that I just got beat out...enjoy the ride while it lasts and call it a day!

3) Should it be ok to for you to sleep with other woman just in the interest of fare play.

Hell yes, but I would suspect it would be a shared situation as mentioned above. If I were trying to simply preserve ego and dignity by sleeping with another woman, I've gotta consider the relationship with my SO over and walk.

IMHO....probably not many would subscribe to my views?

 

[Chivas Regal]

In the interest of stirring the pot a bit....

1) I find it rather humourous when guys ask relationship questions on a Escort Review Board, Pot callling the Kettle Black?

2) I had a conversation with my sister yesterday regarding her seeing/sleeping with 2 guys at once, without either knowing. My advice, you go girl, its only sex and perfectly natural, as long as your aloof no one gets hurt.

Shack asked the burning question: Is it a relationship or just sex?

Your S.O. had sex, I personally don't think it matters the gender of the person involved, sobeit. A relationship takes a very long time to develope, years in fact. Your S.O. slept with this woman and you found out. Do you really think this was her first time?? And more to the point, isn't this really just about how YOU feel??

Chivas

 

[spartan5782]

Shack asked the burning question: BUT, is it a relationship or just sex between the women? (LOL).

Good point!

All of my bad ass advice above was predicated on merely a sexual relationship. If the relationship is something deeper between the women, and for that matter, between the both of you, it makes for a very complicated situation. Trying to discover what's lacking, communication..etc. Only good communication will shed light.

After 3 divorces...I'm outta my area...sorry for the insensitivity b4.

 

[The Baron]

Just to clarify I ment to say was " Is it ok to sleep with THE other woman."

And shack it was just sex not a relationship which she says wont repeated.


Baron

 

[MuffinMuncher]

definition

IMHO, cheating is any sort of physical activity outside of the primary relationship. We wont even get into the subject of emotional or cyber cheating (is it any better that she WANTS to be with someone else, or that she has cybersex)?

The sex of the partner does not define "cheating", it only makes the act more palatable to you (i.e. the whole girl/girl, bi-sexual, maybe you'll get a threesome fantasy).

And yes, if you're seeing an SP or MPA in the midst of a committed relationship, that's cheating, regardless of how you rationalize it. This is not an attempt to be the morality police, just pointing out the obvious as many of us (myself included) try to explain our hobby activities as innocent fun.

 

[Big Daddy]

Gender does not make any difference

To me gender does not make any difference. It is cheating. It highlights problems in the relationships which are beyond resolution.

 

[The Baron]

of the person involved, sobeit. A relationship takes a very long time to develope, years in fact. . Do you really think this was her first time?? And more to the point, isn't this really just about how YOU feel??

Chivas [/B][/QUOTE]

No I know its wasnt her first time, that was understood from the start shes not bisexual but more bi curios.
And hell yes it is realy all about how I feel other Iwouldnt have asked the question

Baron

 

[Paul Waters]

I would say that you are fully justified in having a no holes barred fuck and suck session with any guy you want.

 

[shack]

Just to clarify I ment to say was " Is it ok to sleep with THE other woman."

And shack it was just sex not a relationship which she says wont be repeated.


Baron

A few comments.

1)Too bad about the 2nd line because it would have made the 1st line easier to accomplish.

2)I don't recall asking that "burning" question, but if everyone wants to give me credit for it, I'll graciously accept.

3)Sorry Baron, cause you're a good guy, but I gotta ask, which bothered you more, the showerhead or the other woman?

 

[The Baron]

A few commen

3)Sorry Baron, cause you're a good guy, but I gotta ask, which bothered you more, the showerhead or the other woman?

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Hehehe thats funny. Jesus I hate people with a good memory.
Ok I tried the shower head so now I understand what thats all about and it dosnt bother me anymore, so I guess Ill have to try the other woman so I can see what that was all about.Or maybe I can get the two ladies in the shower with me an check out the shower massage, boy the possibilities are endless.
I told the lady(who reads this board to) I would start this post and that most people would think it was cheeting, she disagread, now she owes me big time. Cant wait to see how shes going to make it up to me.


Baron

 

[TJ in the 'Peg]

Threesome anyone....

YOu really have to check out the opportunity now that the door has been opened. Is she bi-curious or fully bi?

TJ

 

[The Baroness]

I would say that you are fully justified in having a no holes barred fuck and suck session with any guy you want.

I agree

 

[The Baron]

I would say that you are fully justified in having a no holes barred fuck and suck session with any guy you want.

Ya thanks alot Paul

Baron

 

[CyberGoth]

1 yes
2 it was fun
3 yes.

 

[Thunderballs]

My God man! Stop whining and get a hold of yourself! *slap*
You are missing the big picture. You can now play the most powerful card in the deck, the guilt card! Playing this card allows you to ask for a menage a trois, see another woman, or a year's supply of on-demand blowjobs. You finally have hand! Don't let the male species down. Play the card!

 

[The Baron]

[ *slap*]

Thanks I needed that

For all men everywhere Im playen the card!


Baron