, So, after over ten years of marriage, I am now single. After ten years of being off the hobby, I am back. One thing my ex-wife told me was that I need to work on my kissing skills...does anyone have any suggestions of a good teacher (preferably incall).
kissing lessons
- Thread starter stockinglover
- Start date
, So, after over ten years of marriage, I am now single. After ten years of being off the hobby, I am back. One thing my ex-wife told me was that I need to work on my kissing skills...does anyone have any suggestions of a good teacher (preferably incall).
just maybe
Did you consider that she may needs the work ?stockinglover said:
fine-you might be a bad kisser-she's probably a bad cocksucker
good luck & welcome back to the hobby
good luck & welcome back to the hobby
stockinglover said:
Rent "Hitch" with Will Smith and Kevin James. There are some scenes with Will teaching Kevin how to kiss that are classics. There are some good things to remember when you do finally pucker back up (with a lady of course).
bad cocksucker
Ha!, you nailed it!, She hates and doesn't do BJ's. Her first try (16 years ago), was with me, and she actually thought you were supposed to blow....and then she decided maybe teeth would be more exciting. Needless to say, that part of the sexual menu is now gone.
But seriously, if I am going back to both the hobby scene and (maybe) the dating scene, I would like an objective opinion plus feedback. Oh, and a good time.
Ha!, you nailed it!, She hates and doesn't do BJ's. Her first try (16 years ago), was with me, and she actually thought you were supposed to blow....and then she decided maybe teeth would be more exciting. Needless to say, that part of the sexual menu is now gone.
But seriously, if I am going back to both the hobby scene and (maybe) the dating scene, I would like an objective opinion plus feedback. Oh, and a good time.
Than I am a potential student...PM me when you get a chance.Tina_Ballerina said:I'm a good time
The sad thing is, I actually got this reference.Eli said:
But back to the original question, I agree with the others. It takes two people to kiss, and if your wife really thought you were so terrible, why didn't she express herself sooner? She's probably a lousy kisser too. I think people learn how to kiss by kissing others, so my advice would be to find a few sp's, find one you like kissing, and imitate what she does.
Ending a ten year marriage -- a sixteen year relationship and THAT's her parting shot? You got off easy. You're answer should have been, "Oh I'm not bad at kissing, I'm just not into it with you".
I don't think anyone believes they are a bad kisser. People kiss the way they like to kiss. When 2 kissing styles don't match, the other is considered a bad kisser.
I agree with most of what was said here, and even more, I suspect that she just wanted to find something to pin the blame on you for the breakdown of the relationship. People do that.
That said, I will note that sometimes people really are bad kissers. The thing that makes them bad kissers is that they're "one-sided" kissers -- they kiss without taking any feedback from the kissee into consideration! I know a few people who kiss me (squeeze me, finger me, grope me) like they're doing it to a brick. I'm not a brick! I'm a human being. And if someone kisses me really hard, bending my neck back, bruising my lips, and it hurts, I'm going to react that way (although I will probably try to do so as kindly as possible).
Most people, when they kiss or make love, approach it progressively -- they do a bit and see what reaction they get, then do a bit more. But others just slam it on, the harder the better, as though that somehow makes it more intense and therefore more pleasurable. I've even known guys who, when I'm catching my breath and grunting due to the discomfort say, "yeah, baby, you love it, doncha!" ??? Can they really be so out of sync??
If you want to be a good kisser, be attuned to your partner's response. If she's stiffening up, backing away, exerting muscle pressure to hold you at bay, or wiping off her face a lot, then maybe you need to change gears. But if she's relaxing, leaning into you, kissing you back and pressing every part of her body against you, then she's liking it!
Good luck and practice, Practice, PRACTICE!!
..c..
That said, I will note that sometimes people really are bad kissers. The thing that makes them bad kissers is that they're "one-sided" kissers -- they kiss without taking any feedback from the kissee into consideration! I know a few people who kiss me (squeeze me, finger me, grope me) like they're doing it to a brick. I'm not a brick! I'm a human being. And if someone kisses me really hard, bending my neck back, bruising my lips, and it hurts, I'm going to react that way (although I will probably try to do so as kindly as possible).
Most people, when they kiss or make love, approach it progressively -- they do a bit and see what reaction they get, then do a bit more. But others just slam it on, the harder the better, as though that somehow makes it more intense and therefore more pleasurable. I've even known guys who, when I'm catching my breath and grunting due to the discomfort say, "yeah, baby, you love it, doncha!" ??? Can they really be so out of sync??
If you want to be a good kisser, be attuned to your partner's response. If she's stiffening up, backing away, exerting muscle pressure to hold you at bay, or wiping off her face a lot, then maybe you need to change gears. But if she's relaxing, leaning into you, kissing you back and pressing every part of her body against you, then she's liking it!
Good luck and practice, Practice, PRACTICE!!
..c..
The good news is that you will probably find a nice girl that loves to suck dick. If they suck cock good they may kiss good too. Enjoy your freedom, hobby away!!! A few sessions with some of the talent on TERB and the ex will be a distant memory.
http://www.virtualkiss.com/kissingschool/
http://www.love-sessions.com/kissing.htm
( Kissing Lessons for the Beginner (01))
http://www.astronomytower.org/authors/ajackson/KLFB01.html
http://www.love-sessions.com/kissing.htm
( Kissing Lessons for the Beginner (01))
http://www.astronomytower.org/authors/ajackson/KLFB01.html
So, your ex thought the above re BJ's, but you're taking her seriously when she says you're a bad kisser?stockinglover said:
Didja ever think:
a) In light of her BJ technique, maybe just maybe she doesn't know everything there is to know?
OR
b) Her remark about your poor kissing skills is a parting shot since you indicate your marriage is over anyway?
If more women than your disgruntled ex make this comment, then worry about "kissing lessons". If not, I wouldn't take the ex's comment seriously.
