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ladies- question for you, how many sugar daddies did you have and do you think those arrangements are more rewarding than seeing random clients every day or week?

do we have some experienced sugar daddies in the house to share their experiences?
I never had a sugar daddy. Not one. I had gorgeous gift from very generous clients. To me sugar daddies are way too much emotional labor and maintenance and I feel like being a sugar baby is exploitative. I rather have a fixed rates for my time. It makes me feel more at ease. Finding a good/generous sugar daddies is hard as well. As most, like some sugar daddies threads are showing, are looking for a discount (500$ for an evening ect.). Most sugar babies are inexperienced, but also in denial of their sex worker position so they will accept stuff like that but me? uhuh....
 
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I never had a sugar daddy. Not one. I had gorgeous gift from very generous clients. To me sugar daddies are way too much emotional labor and maintenance and I feel like being a sugar baby is exploitative. I rather have a fixed rates for my time. It makes me feel more at ease. Finding a good/generous sugar daddies is hard as well. As most, like some sugar daddies threads are showing, are looking for a discount (500$ for an evening ect.). Most sugar babies are inexperienced, but also in denial of their sex worker position so they will accept stuff like that but me? uhuh....

First, I don't think its denial in the majority of cases. Some escort, some dance, some porn make, s some mp some do casting sofa. There just different strokes for different folks. Personally I wish more escorts did the striper experience, that is music, and a nice lap dance leading into the main course. Hybrids are rare for whatever reason.
 

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First, I don't think its denial in the majority of cases. Some escort, some dance, some porn make, s some mp some do casting sofa. There just different strokes for different folks. Personally I wish more escorts did the striper experience, that is music, and a nice lap dance leading into the main course. Hybrids are rare for whatever reason.
It's denial in the sense that a lot of them think that they aren't sex working because they are sugar babies, not escort. But in reality, it is sex work. Any type of sexual gratifications in exchange for gift or money is sex work. Even if they don't sleep with them.
 

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That's the big issue you nailed Joe. There's much more manipulation, either SD on SB or vice versa. Thus persuasion and more interpersonal efforts and it bleeds into other aspects of life potentially creating messy situations, etc etc. Josephine also nails the solution (as seen in her reviews, she's simply one of the best at nailing things lol) which is the escort structure where, for the most part, things are clear, she offers her terms, he accepts or not, and then into festivities...
 

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I never had a sugar daddy. Not one. I had gorgeous gift from very generous clients. To me sugar daddies are way too much emotional labor and maintenance and I feel like being a sugar baby is exploitative. I rather have a fixed rates for my time. It makes me feel more at ease. Finding a good/generous sugar daddies is hard as well. As most, like some sugar daddies threads are showing, are looking for a discount (500$ for an evening ect.). Most sugar babies are inexperienced, but also in denial of their sex worker position so they will accept stuff like that but me? uhuh....
Your business model is tried and true, practically and sustainable.
 
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Experienced Sugar Daddy here.

From my perspective I find the SD/SB dynamic more rewarding than seeing SP’s, but it’s a very different thing. There are several threads here on TERB about it so I won’t repeat myself with all the differences.

I also realise that I’ve been very lucky, and that guys like bazokajoe above have a more jaded view of sugaring, and see it as getting played. I can see why he could have that view, and I’ve had some misses along the way. But as I said I’ve been really lucky to have met some very interesting girls who I’ve enjoyed spending time with in a longer term arrangement.

Most of the SB’s I’ve seen aren’t in denial that it's a form of sex work, although some are. Like everything each person is different. The girls that accept that it is sex work are simply using it as a VERY part time gig. Escorting lite if you will. One client at a time if she wants to perhaps, lower time commitment for some extra cash, and the safety issue of having a meet and greet before agreeing to hit the sheets. Most of the girls I've talked to about it cite this as the main difference for them. We both get to screen each other, and are free to walk away if we get a bad vibe or feel uneasy. It’s one of the upsides for me as well compared to booking an SP. I’ve met girls that didn’t feel right so I’ve walked away, and every girl I’ve talked to about the subject has met guys who creep them out and they’ve walked too.

Yes, there is some emotional risk on both sides for those of us who seek a long term sugar arrangement. But maturity and honest communication on the part of the SD and SB are necessary, and it can work out very well in my experience. We each get to know each others likes and dislikes in and out of bed, and get comfortable with each other. She gets a regular guy to see and can get more comfortable financially as well as personally with a guy she knows.

Having said all that I totally get that it’s not for everyone, on both sides of the transaction.
 

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Experienced Sugar Daddy here.

From my perspective I find the SD/SB dynamic more rewarding than seeing SP’s, but it’s a very different thing. There are several threads here on TERB about it so I won’t repeat myself with all the differences.

I also realise that I’ve been very lucky, and that guys like bazokajoe above have a more jaded view of sugaring, and see it as getting played. I can see why he could have that view, and I’ve had some misses along the way. But as I said I’ve been really lucky to have met some very interesting girls who I’ve enjoyed spending time with in a longer term arrangement.

Most of the SB’s I’ve seen aren’t in denial that it's a form of sex work, although some are. Like everything each person is different. The girls that accept that it is sex work are simply using it as a VERY part time gig. Escorting lite if you will. One client at a time if she wants to perhaps, lower time commitment for some extra cash, and the safety issue of having a meet and greet before agreeing to hit the sheets. Most of the girls I've talked to about it cite this as the main difference for them. We both get to screen each other, and are free to walk away if we get a bad vibe or feel uneasy. It’s one of the upsides for me as well compared to booking an SP. I’ve met girls that didn’t feel right so I’ve walked away, and every girl I’ve talked to about the subject has met guys who creep them out and they’ve walked too.

Yes, there is some emotional risk on both sides for those of us who seek a long term sugar arrangement. But maturity and honest communication on the part of the SD and SB are necessary, and it can work out very well in my experience. We each get to know each others likes and dislikes in and out of bed, and get comfortable with each other. She gets a regular guy to see and can get more comfortable financially as well as personally with a guy she knows.

Having said all that I totally get that it’s not for everyone, on both sides of the transaction.
- It is NOT safety for anyone to meet and greet before. It changes nothing to the fact that sex work is dangerous.
- the girl in the video has 30 sugar daddy. Part time gig? sure.... lol. Bottom line that's what they tell you and you have no way to verify this information.


I respect your opinion but just my 2 cents.
 
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It's denial in the sense that a lot of them think that they aren't sex working because they are sugar babies, not escort. But in reality, it is sex work. Any type of sexual gratifications in exchange for gift or money is sex work. Even if they don't sleep with them.
Yes like marriage. That actually was why sex work was no banned in Canada, since any exchange of gifts that end up in sex is considered sex work, including most dating.
 
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It's denial in the sense that a lot of them think that they aren't sex working because they are sugar babies, not escort. But in reality, it is sex work. Any type of sexual gratifications in exchange for gift or money is sex work. Even if they don't sleep with them.
This is the truest answer. The most truest.
 
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It's denial in the sense that a lot of them think that they aren't sex working because they are sugar babies, not escort. But in reality, it is sex work.
I imagine that's also true on the other side of the equation. Lots guys telling themselves that they aren't paying for sex for reasons of ego or shame.

The whole thing just seems very messy.
 

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Yes like marriage. That actually was why sex work was no banned in Canada, since any exchange of gifts that end up in sex is considered sex work, including most dating.
I do not think this is the reason but I do think some relationship ressemble pimpery. You are also touching a point cover by féminism where mariage would be consider unpaid sexual labor. But let's not go there.
 
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- It is NOT safety for anyone to meet and greet before. It changes nothing to the fact that sex work is dangerous.
- the girl in the video has 30 sugar daddy. Part time gig? sure.... lol. Bottom line that's what they tell you and you have no way to verify this information.


I respect your opinion but just my 2 cents.
I should clarify, I was speaking about my own experience not the video. My point about the issue of M&G safety is from my perspective, and the opinion of women I’ve discussed it with. It’s just how they feel, as opposed to the reality experienced by experienced escorts like Josephine.
 

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It's denial in the sense that a lot of them think that they aren't sex working because they are sugar babies, not escort. But in reality, it is sex work. Any type of sexual gratifications in exchange for gift or money is sex work. Even if they don't sleep with them.
A lot of guys also may be in denial that they are purchasing sexual services because they are paying a sugar baby instead of an escort.
Sex has been bartered for various forms of gain including financial since the beginning of time with many euphemisms and or terms of derision.
I know of a married graduate student who is servicing her married program supervisor so that she could skip the masters requirements and go straight to Ph.D program, saving time, teaching requirements and thousands of dollars in tuition.
 

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A lot of guys also may be in denial that they are purchasing sexual services because they are paying a sugar baby instead of an escort.
Sex has been bartered for various forms of gain including financial since the beginning of time with many euphemisms and or terms of derision.
I know of a married graduate student who is servicing her married program supervisor so that she could skip the masters requirements and go straight to Ph.D program, saving time, teaching requirements and thousands of dollars in tuition.
Ahah! If you know anyone that need sex at the CRA you let me know 😋
 
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