Life After Sex Work

[trm]

http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/12/17/life-after-sex-work.html

Here's an interesting article by a retired SP about the challenges she faced after she left the business.

 

[fun-guy]

I agree, very well written and honest. I admire her courage to share her story, show her face, and trying to shed the stigma society still has about sex workers.

However, she is naive in thinking that once you leave the trade and enter mainstream you can talk about your previous life on a public forum as a sex worker without any repercussions, especially when you are a teacher of small children. Society is not ready to accept this taboo, parents don't want to have their children being taught by a previous sex worker.

If she really wanted to move on life, you forget about your past, delete it from your memory and move forward. I don't know when, if ever, society is ready for this, certainly not in my life time. Certain mainstream jobs and employers may accept it, but definitely not teaching, especially if you out yourself to the public.

As I said I admire her courage to be frank in her life, and now is trying to help other sex workers to move on in life, but not all workers can do that, they need to fit into society without exposing their past.

 

[james t kirk]

I agree she should not have talked about it in a public forum and if she really had to write about it, she should have remained annonymous. Most definitely in the United States of America where even those on the left remain puritanical when it comes to matters of sex and sexual morals.

But she didn't deserve to be fired for it. I hope she sues whoever made that decision and wins. (I have my doubts, but we can hope.)

I would hazard a guess that many of us have come across a great number of women in our day to day lives who have sold sex for money in the past. Maybe she was a teacher, or your doctor, or your real estate agent. Who knows. But I'm sure. I have a female friend who told me that in University she used to sleep with her landlord in exchange for free rent. She seemed very comfortable with it and found it amusing more than anything. I just thought it revealed a bit more of what it means to be human.

BTW, some of the comments at the end of the article really blew my mind. Bunch of freaks posting there.

 

[fun-guy]

I would hazard a guess that many of us have come across a great number of women in our day to day lives who have sold sex for money in the past. Maybe she was a teacher, or your doctor, or your real estate agent. Who knows. But I'm sure. I have a female friend who told me that in University she used to sleep with her landlord in exchange for free rent. She seemed very comfortable with it and found it amusing more than anything. I just thought it revealed a bit more of what it means to be human.

There are numerous stories like that, I hired a hot looking girl in my younger days. Got to know her a bit and became friends, and she told me she slept with her professor to get better marks, lol. Heard this many times over. Of course she told me in confidence and after she got to know me well, she would not out herself out in public though. btw, nothing happened between her and I, unfortunately for me, we just remained friends.

I can't tell you the number of times I, and my colleagues, have had offers from hot ladies over our business career, obviously for their security or better benefits, obviously not for my Robert Redford looks or my lack of bulge behind my zipper. Being in a power position has its benefits I tell you.

 

[JackBurton]

If she was too stupid to keep her mouth shut and felt the need to blog about her past, while working with children, then it's clear she has a lack of good judgment and boundaries. Qualities that demonstrate she shouldn't be working around young kids.

She has no one to blame but herself.

 

[TeasePlease]

Poor judgment to be sure, but why? IMO, being in the business or hobby for any extended time distorts our perspective. We minimize the darker shades of the industry and create an atmosphere of social acceptance (look at our holiday parties). Some of us are even quite open about our hobbying with friends and co-workers. But....

Let's face it, this isn't something we would want our kids doing nor would we picture our "ideal" relationship to be with someone in the biz. (If it happens, so be it, but most of us wouldn't deliberately seek it out.)

As for teaching and kids, I hate to say it and I am fully being a hypocrite here....I'm not comfortable with it.

When I first became a father, a friend told me (jokingly) was that if I could keep my son off the pipe and my daughter off the pole, I'd be ok. I understand how people end up in difficult situations. I respect the ladies who have made the best of a very bad situation, especially those with families. But, for many of these girls, the biz was a last resort. I wouldn't want someone teaching my daughter that it's ok to have sex to get a guy to buy you the latest iphone.

"Glamorizing" isn't the right word. But a teacher, especially a good teacher, is a role model. If she wants to be a sexworker role model, I'm all for it. Where do I send the cheque (or check. lol)? Just not in front of a classroom full of children.