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The Wookie

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So I started hobbying about 6 years ago when my marriage fell apart and I was distraught, lonely and had been out of the game for so long, that my chances for a rebound were non existent. Never did it before because I felt it was dishonorable but after, hey a man has needs, so I said fuck it why not. 4 years past and I finally met someone decent with who I started a relationship with and decided to quit the hobby. This person btw was in my eyes hotter and nicer than my ex. Everything was going great for the first 6 months then I suddenly started loosing interest and sex got boring. Eventually the fire burned out and that relationship came to an end. The problem with that relationship I think was in the sex. I do not understand how before I started hobbying I could enjoy having sex with a single partner and still have it be interesting, now the same scenario does not float my boat. Have I been corrupted? Has this happened to anyone else?
 
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S.C. Joe

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I'm more like, fuck, this isn't worth $250 an hour, I don't care how "hot" she is.

I look how much $250 can buy, a nice meal, a hotel room for a night and still can have a few dollars leftover.

Sure once in a while I still might say oh why not but then its likely for under $250.

I think age might play a role, least my interest has decline. I can still perform all right but the crave isn't as strong.

That all said, I have no regrets, if anything, I'm happy I was able to enjoy it when I did.
 
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Shakeandbake

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I quit hobbying a few years ago after i got into a committed relationship. I used to hobby often after separating and divorce because i had no interest in being in a relationship. I love sex , i very much enjoy sex with my partner and we keep things very exciting and fun. I think about hobbying once and a while when i see a super hot girl or read a hot review but honestly i cant do it ... I love my partner and come to TERB because i enjoy the Lobby and reviews. My advice is find someone that you enjoy sexually and you will not want any other ... I hope my fire doe not burn out but you are both responsible for that so keep up your end
 
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Curious36

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I am in the same boat as Shakeandbake.....same situation. My wife is also very hot, younger, and simply does it for me. I come to the forum to see the banter etc. I do still enjoy keeping up with the scene and read reviews but dont have any desire to partake. I also think if I had that moment of weakness and partook I would feel shitty about myself for a long time.....not worth the $ or most importantly the guilt/shame. Siimply a different place and time then where I was a few years ago. I hope things continue on the current path.....
 
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james t kirk

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I find that as I get older (mid 40's now) that every day run of the mill vanilla sex does get boring. There's probably a pile of reasons - age, lower hormones, been there done that, the same partner over and over doing the same things, monotony, you name it. Kind of like Al Bundy on "Married with Children" Peg (who was pretty hot at the time) always wanted to do it, but Al didn't and would make faces and have to be dragged kicking and screaming up to the bedroom, yet when there was some hot little number around, he would perk right up and his eyes would open wide. When you're younger, it's all new and exciting. Thrilling. You do it and you want to do it again, and you can't wait for the next time. You can outlast and out demand any woman alive. But as you get older, all the bullshit piles up and sometimes you'd rather just crash in bed and watch TV and relax. (Though a great blow job would be nice too.)

I don't think (hell, it's a fact) that humans were meant to be monogamous. It gets boring by the very nature of the concept. The same pair of hips over and over and over.

Hence why I firmly believe in Swinger's clubs and open relationships. (The only problem is finding a woman who feels the same way.) You have to mix it up and keep it interesting and exciting. Swinger's clubs give you the opportunity to cheat together as a couple. It's purely sex for sex's sake. It offers you high intensity sex and makes you feel like you are 20 years old again. There is so much going on around you - sexual things, that you can't help but get turned on. You are in a living porno. (Again, the problem is finding a woman who will mix it up. In my experience women get all mixed up about sex and love. Most don't have the guts to mix it up. Like the old saying goes (and it's true) - men find women's sexual fantasies boring (and I must admit that I do) and women find men's sexual fantasies disgusting and alarming (they do and they won't do it).
 
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TeasePlease

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Monotonous monogamy is boring. Can't be avoided. Happens as quickly as a few months.

I've even found that variety in and of itself can lose its appeal.

I've found that if you want to be involved in a committed relation, you just have to find ways to stay in love.
 
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wazup

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What does loosing mean??
 
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Madeline Rhodes

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wazup said:
What does loosing mean??
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verb /lo͞os/ 
loosed, past participle; loosed, past tense; looses, 3rd person singular present; loosing, present participle
Set free; release
- the hounds have been loosed

Untie; unfasten
- the ropes were loosed

Relax (one's grip)
- he loosed his grip suddenly
 
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youwontknow

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Even thought I have slow down I will hobby until I can find my self a GF. Seem more hard work to find a GF then hobbying.
 
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MyHobbyist

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The Wookie said:
So I started hobbying about 6 years ago when my marriage fell apart and I was distraught, lonely and had been out of the game for so long, that my chances for a rebound were non existent. Never did it before because I felt it was dishonorable but after, hey a man has needs, so I said fuck it why not. 4 years past and I finally met someone decent with who I started a relationship with and decided to quit the hobby. This person btw was in my eyes hotter and nicer than my ex. Everything was going great for the first 6 months then I suddenly started loosing interest and sex got boring. Eventually the fire burned out and that relationship came to an end. The problem with that relationship I think was in the sex. I do not understand how before I started hobbying I could enjoy having sex with a single partner and still have it be interesting, now the same scenario does not float my boat. Have I been corrupted? Has this happened to anyone else?
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men are not meant to be happy with one partner.... no animals in the animal kingdom are exclusive to one partner... we were not made this way... only brainwashed into thinking this is what is right..
 
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superstar_88

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Really? You think women don't cheat?
 
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The Wookie said:
So I started hobbying about 6 years ago when my marriage fell apart and I was distraught, lonely and had been out of the game for so long, that my chances for a rebound were non existent. Never did it before because I felt it was dishonorable but after, hey a man has needs, so I said fuck it why not. 4 years past and I finally met someone decent with who I started a relationship with and decided to quit the hobby. This person btw was in my eyes hotter and nicer than my ex. Everything was going great for the first 6 months then I suddenly started loosing interest and sex got boring. Eventually the fire burned out and that relationship came to an end. The problem with that relationship I think was in the sex. I do not understand how before I started hobbying I could enjoy having sex with a single partner and still have it be interesting, now the same scenario does not float my boat. Have I been corrupted? Has this happened to anyone else?
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Yeah, it sounds you're corrupt for life. Either find a woman who is ok with an open relationship or just stay single and hobby for life. There's no point in pretending to be something that you're not.
 
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Celticman

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I do not know if we are meant to be (or can be) monogomous or not. But advocating against monogomy might have to be coupled with the question of being prepared to fool around and cheat on the wife. An even tougher question if it is a loving relationship. I am not moralising on this, as I do not know the ideal answer.
 
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The Wookie

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MyHobbyist said:
men are not meant to be happy with one partner.... no animals in the animal kingdom are exclusive to one partner... we were not made this way... only brainwashed into thinking this is what is right..
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I was happy with my initial partner, but the bitch left me, I guess it just not a two way street.
 
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BSLover

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It's called logic. Once your hormones calm down, you see sexual desires for what they really are: irrational impulses.
 
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milehigh

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I can certainly relate to your situation in the opening post.

Am seeing someone, but no commitments. Very difficult to leave this life-style once you have been in it. It is much easier said than done.
 
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