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Senor Gringo
Aug 14, 2004
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Hi,

New to the forum, should have come here first probably, but better late than never. I tend to deal with a lot of shyness and anxiety, work pretty hard, and generally prefer relaxing on my own rather than socially. So, after a lot of dating experiences involving a lot of time, money, and conversations, and generally spending about half the time wishing I were back home by myself, and never sparking anything very intimate, I burnt out on dating and decided maybe I was thinking too much about sexual experience and needed to vent that in a less frustrating way. So, after doing some research I decided to hire and SP. Most of the online discussion I found said that the women are very careful and businesslike, putting a condom on before any oral or genital contact with your member, and no mouth kissing. I hired an upscale escort and rented a hotel room for the night for an hour. She was good looking and friendly, but I was suprised when we began DFK followed by a BBBJ. I also did some digital penetration and stimulation of her, condom intercourse, and she rubbed her clit against the head of my member. Though my brain was pretty much along for the ride for the hour, afterwards I began to think about all the contact and possible STD's I could have gotten. I got pretty freaked out and got about 10 hours of sleep over 3 days and have felt like I had a low grade virus for over a week (tired, easily sweat and easily chilled). Finally going to get a blood test tomorrow, though from what I've gathered over the last couple weeks, the chance of getting HIV from a healthy acting upscale SP is about 100 million to one or so. I'm more concerned about hepatitis and other diseases which could have been contracted through the unexpected DFK and genital contact. The stress afterward kind of ruined the newbie experience. Maybe someone can give me some advice on how to make a possible future venture more enjoyably memorable afterwards. Thanks!

Why? Because.
 
because said:
Most of the online discussion I found said that the women are very careful and businesslike, putting a condom on before any oral or genital contact with your member, and no mouth kissing.
It varies from girl to girl. Of escorts, I guess half will kiss (if you want to, of course) and maybe a third will do BBBJ (if you want it) and virtually all will allow DATY. Only the nasty ones are businesslike to the point where this becomes obtrusive.
because said:
condom intercourse, and she rubbed her clit against the head of my member.
It isn't clear to me whether your member was covered at the time. If not, then I would suspect she's not quite as upscale as you thought
because said:
The stress afterward kind of ruined the newbie experience.
It's a common enough reaction, particularly if you've just jumped into the hobby rather than easing your way in via MP's. The risk of acquiring an STD is always present and all we can ever do is reduce the risk to a level we feel comfortable with. If in your case that means no SP's at all, that's your decision to make.
Originally posted by because
Maybe someone can give me some advice on how to make a possible future venture more enjoyably memorable afterwards.
Become familiar with the Hassle Free Clinic and don't be afraid to say "Please don't" during an encounter. Casually mention your preferences (and the experience you have just described) during the chit-chat when she arrives. Just don't be "businesslike" yourself! That will make her feel dirty and make the experience seem dirty to you. Also, research the girls you call to ensure they don't offer (anyone!) the services you're uncomfortable with.
 

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Senor Gringo
Aug 14, 2004
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Hi midlife,

She did the clit-head rubbing without a condom. But she was from an upscale agency and I paid an upscale price. Despite the following stress, I have some enjoyable memories, but also some frustration.
 

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Senor Gringo
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Just a little more info. I once got a psych test a few years ago, and came out three standard deviations above the norm in anxiety (that works out to being in the 7% most anxiety ridden of the population). DEspite counselling and medication, it's still pretty strong. Fortunately, this has not made my weiner problematic, but has unfortunately killed my love-life and sex-life, or at least a fun love-life and sex-life. Can anyone make any recommendations about a reasonably worry-free companion, who I could talk to at the time and make sure I'm reasonably comfortable during and after the appointment? Thanks!

Why? Because.
 

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Senor Gringo
Aug 14, 2004
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Hi Midlife,

Just my luck, eh? My first SP is a 'loon'. Guess it's got to happen to somebody, though. I'm not completely opposed to to hobbying anymore. It is still a pretty intriguing hobby, but I would like to feel safer as a beginner, with the right companion(s), it seems like it would be as safe as driving a car or flying an airplane.

Why? Because.
 

red

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its not unusual to have these concerns when you are starting in the hobby (or at anypoint) - just try playing at the level you are comfortable- maybe keep to SP's that play very safe.

welcome to the hobby - its alot of fun.
 

drlove

Ph.D. in Pussyology
Oct 14, 2001
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The doctor is in
because said:
Can anyone make any recommendations about a reasonably worry-free companion, who I could talk to at the time and make sure I'm reasonably comfortable during and after the appointment? Thanks!...
It really depends on the type of lady you are looking for; reallistically, there are so many variables. Throughout my years of hobbying I have met some incredible women (both physically and intellectually speaking).

My best advice is to call one of the agencies that is favorably reviewed here, such as Select, Hollywood, Vip, AAA et. al. and do some active "research". After you've seen a few ladies, you'll undoubtedly come across someone with whom you click. If you continue seeing her, you'll become a regular - and in the process become more comfortable and perhaps even receive a few additional perks as well! :)

Hope this helps.
 

baci2004

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At the range!!!
Start by getting your Hep shots.
 
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