My two cents for beginners

[BenTheAdventurer]

Dear SPs and MPs,
I am new to the scene. Had a few great experiences and a few that were not so good. As a beginner, getting in touch with you can be quite nerve wrecking and sometimes we don't write exactly what you want and I find that some of you are a litttle quick to get angry.

I am always super responsive and respectful when I write. Here is an experience I had today with a very experienced MP in the region. This MP asks for blurred out ID with a selfie. I'm an idiot at this so keep this in mind. I got a picture of my ID and blurred out what I could (as mentioned in the ad) and sent a selfie of myself from this summer with me wearing sunglasses. The answer I got back was enraged almost saying i was wasting her time and that i had no common sense. Then, i wrote back with a brand new picture taken in the moment and then ghosted.

I would share the conversation here, but it would hurt myself and my SP/MP which i don't want to do. Just please be mindful for us beginnners who are nervous when you ask for ID. We all have not been doing this for years.

 

[ShenaniganD]

Keep in mind that they deal with a lot of scammers just like we do when looking for providers. I have read on countless occasions that they are trolled on, so if you come across as that, they will just block you. For every legitimate new person that doesn’t understand exactly what they are looking for, there are 9 others that are just trolling them.

 

[William St]

Dear SPs and MPs,
I am new to the scene. Had a few great experiences and a few that were not so good. As a beginner, getting in touch with you can be quite nerve wrecking and sometimes we don't write exactly what you want and I find that some of you are a litttle quick to get angry.

I am always super responsive and respectful when I write. Here is an experience I had today with a very experienced MP in the region. This MP asks for blurred out ID with a selfie. I'm an idiot at this so keep this in mind. I got a picture of my ID and blurred out what I could (as mentioned in the ad) and sent a selfie of myself from this summer with me wearing sunglasses. The answer I got back was enraged almost saying i was wasting her time and that i had no common sense. Then, i wrote back with a brand new picture taken in the moment and then ghosted.

I would share the conversation here, but it would hurt myself and my SP/MP which i don't want to do. Just please be mindful for us beginnners who are nervous when you ask for ID. We all have not been doing this for years.

I don't share ID with anyone, blurred or not. I don't want anyone's service so badly that I'll put my personal information at risk. Some women in this business are grifters who work with criminals and gangs. Stick to the tried and true providers with a long history of good reviews and positive mentions on this site.

 

[Theredmilf]

Dear SPs and MPs,
I am new to the scene. Had a few great experiences and a few that were not so good. As a beginner, getting in touch with you can be quite nerve wrecking and sometimes we don't write exactly what you want and I find that some of you are a litttle quick to get angry.

I am always super responsive and respectful when I write. Here is an experience I had today with a very experienced MP in the region. This MP asks for blurred out ID with a selfie. I'm an idiot at this so keep this in mind. I got a picture of my ID and blurred out what I could (as mentioned in the ad) and sent a selfie of myself from this summer with me wearing sunglasses. The answer I got back was enraged almost saying i was wasting her time and that i had no common sense. Then, i wrote back with a brand new picture taken in the moment and then ghosted.

I would share the conversation here, but it would hurt myself and my SP/MP which i don't want to do. Just please be mindful for us beginnners who are nervous when you ask for ID. We all have not been doing this for years.

If you’ve had some great experiences, I highly recommend capitalizing on those and asking for the providers to give you a reference. Not only will that clear the runway that you’re not a time waster and a decent client, you can possibly avoid having to give RWI.

I agree with the comments above. Without an established reputation, the provider has no way of knowing if you are a time waster or serious and so it’s important to follow instructions to the letter. Perhaps she snapped too quickly after having a bad day, it happens to all of us at some point or another—although I have to say after 10 years I mainly just block goofiness now.

It sounds like you didn’t follow her policies for submitting ID. I’m assuming she wanted a clear photo of you holding the ID to prove it’s you? We get a lot of inquiries that weaponize ignorance against us and so this is why a provider can snap, it’s maddening. Many are also not interested in training the newbies up so ask you guys to read our websites and do research before reaching out. Someone busy has many other inquiries and needs to make oftentimes snap judgments on who to block to be effective.

Thanks for your perspective though. Understanding the client view has helped me grow as a provider, not jump to conclusions and realize some of you are really just that green haha

 

[intoslivers]

I'm new to the scene as well and I only just recently experienced my first independent provider. We chatted a bit about this due to my situation.

Being new, recent virgin, very shy and very nervous, it is definitely nerve-racking, especially when communicating as you mentioned. A lot to research, to look out for, trying to not make a mistake and all that. I guess I maybe started off with agencies due to review activity and the fact I wasn't messaging directly to who I would be seeing?

I ended up wanting to experience an independent provider but it was hard to take that first step. I was worried about so many things. When I did my research and was finally able to decide on one, I think it helped they listed exactly what to write word for word so I didn't have to overthink it.

When we chatted about this she offered to give a reference if I ever needed one to make it easier (as Ruby suggested) and that I can always ask her anything I'm unsure about like with the process or what to look out for.

She mentioned they have to deal with many types of individuals. It can be frustrating to filter them out, which I guess can sometimes result in the situation you went through unfortunately.

 

[BenTheAdventurer]

I don't share ID with anyone, blurred or not. I don't want anyone's service so badly that I'll put my personal information at risk. Some women in this business are grifters who work with criminals and gangs. Stick to the tried and true providers with a long history of good reviews and positive mentions on this site.

That's how I feel but sometimes they ask for deposit or ID. Just a pain to deal with them when they do

 

[girlzrhot]

If you’ve had some great experiences, I highly recommend capitalizing on those and asking for the providers to give you a reference. Not only will that clear the runway that you’re not a time waster and a decent client, you can possibly avoid having to give RWI.

I agree with the comments above. Without an established reputation, the provider has no way of knowing if you are a time waster or serious and so it’s important to follow instructions to the letter. Perhaps she snapped too quickly after having a bad day, it happens to all of us at some point or another—although I have to say after 10 years I mainly just block goofiness now.

It sounds like you didn’t follow her policies for submitting ID. I’m assuming she wanted a clear photo of you holding the ID to prove it’s you? We get a lot of inquiries that weaponize ignorance against us and so this is why a provider can snap, it’s maddening. Many are also not interested in training the newbies up so ask you guys to read our websites and do research before reaching out. Someone busy has many other inquiries and needs to make oftentimes snap judgments on who to block to be effective.

Thanks for your perspective though. Understanding the client view has helped me grow as a provider, not jump to conclusions and realize some of you are really just that green haha

I mean it is probably best for everyone when an engagement breaks down over frustration on either side. When a client and provider can't demonstrate a level of patience and kindness the experience was always going to fail regardless.