Is it strange for me to be interested in foreplay, touching etc and not intercourse. I would really enjoy holding, feeling and touching a lovely lady without full blown sexual intercourse. I just thought that i would put it out there and see if I am all alone on this little island all by myself. I wonder how the ladies would react to such a request ???
No intercourse - but open to everything else
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I've heard about it too, but I thought that it's mainly due to coke-related erection issues
O well, some people just aren't comfortable with it, but at the same time want some erotic play. Similar to why alot of people visit strip clubs.
LOL, you remind me of my first SP.
I went looking for a BJ and found this hot tall light skin black gal no more then 20 years old. You never know what you find out there and this gal was hot.
But then came the BJ part and she starts screaming how even my guy friends could suck my dick and I really want her hot pussy and she start going down on me-her on top. That gal woke my ass up, even today I find a BJ boring compare to a fuck unless you are very close to the gal and even then its not as satisfying later on.
I think you should go all the way once or twice with some hot SP and then see if you still feel the same way
I went looking for a BJ and found this hot tall light skin black gal no more then 20 years old. You never know what you find out there and this gal was hot.
But then came the BJ part and she starts screaming how even my guy friends could suck my dick and I really want her hot pussy and she start going down on me-her on top. That gal woke my ass up, even today I find a BJ boring compare to a fuck unless you are very close to the gal and even then its not as satisfying later on.
I think you should go all the way once or twice with some hot SP and then see if you still feel the same way
I thought that no less than 75% of North Am population suffer from abdominal obesity
totally with you... these days I'd rather have foreplay, touching, cuddling, nibbling, kissing etc than just the wham-bam-thankyou kinda sex
The Cuddling Option
However I don't think they would (or should) have an even lower Cuddling Rate.
Some of the 'Sensual Massage' providers can give you exactly what you're asking for - and it's usually considerably less $$$ than GFE.
However I don't think they would (or should) have an even lower Cuddling Rate.
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Young girls surveyed do not consider BJs to be sex. President Clinton declared the BJ not to be sex. The BJ today is considered to be the new double cheek kiss.
Actually I find getting a blow job more intimate than fucking in many ways. I mean, she's actually taking your cock in her mouth and sucking it till you cum. He face is up close and personal with your crotch and balls. Pretty intimate to me.
You are not alone with this request, there are entire industries built on it and in fact a number of men visit ladies with similar requests and fantasies.
Some as was mentioned have a limit as to how far they will stray outside of a marriage or perhaps it's just how far they are comfortable exploring with a paid companion, the ladies are not offended or bothered by that and if a woman you see is then you should seek someone else as she should respect your boundaries just as you should respect hers.
For some men a part of their fantasy is the tease and denial, knowing there is a limit to where they can go, seeing but not touching or not having intercourse, often these boundaries are flexible and as you see this companion on additional dates the sexual contact will escalate as you'll naturally wish to pursue the contact a bit further each time.
For others the idea of being turned down and humiliated is a turn on, paying a woman to deny you and in the most humiliating way possible deny you sex is the attraction, thus no intercourse would ever take place but that doesn't sound like the type of encounter you are asking about, still in many BDSM scenarios there would be no intercourse at all.
For some there are physical reasons they cannot pursue intercourse and others simply are not interested in it and prefer other avenues, some have fetishes, some are nervous about sex with a companion and some are just stressed and find more comfort in companionship vs. intercourse (which for some people is associated with stressful relationships). Whatever your reasons seek out what you are comfortable with and if you want to go further do it when you are comfortable with it not when someone else on the board tells you to.
I myself have been approached by men that have asked for dates such as this and sometimes it just works out that way for whatever reason (other activities take a priority) when it's a concern and someone asks if I am bothered by it I generally am not. I will be honest and say that for myself the easiest way for me to orgasm is usually through intercourse so it's my preference but I am happy to take matters into my own hands and often my dates are happy to enjoy that as well, it then becomes a shared experience again and something we can both enjoy and participate in.
I wrote this once for one of my ads but I felt it applied here so I thought I'd repost it below. Seek out the lady you want to see and take the date as it goes, if you decide you feel comfortable with intercourse then it's likely she won't say no but if you don't wish for it to happen and want to find other ways to enjoy your sexuality then I'm sure she'll be open to exploring those avenues with you.
Sensuality
~noun, plural -ties.
1. sensual nature: the sensuality of Keats's poetry.
2. unrestrained indulgence in sensual pleasures.
3. lewdness; unchastity.
Sexuality
~noun
1. sexual character; possession of the structural and functional traits of sex.
2. recognition of or emphasis upon sexual matters.
3. involvement in sexual activity.
4. an organism's preparedness for engaging in sexual activity.
To be sexual is easy, it's biological and most of us would be defined as sexual beings at one time or another throughout our lives.
To be a sensual being requires more, to find pleasure when indulging the senses, to fully experience ones surroundings and to share that pleasure with another is not easy in this world.
The excitement in a glance, a touch, a taste. Diving further into those feelings, going slow, revelling in each nuance can be pure pleasure.
Touch her soft skin, stare unabashadely at her curves as she moves before you, feel her breath on you as she moves in close, hear the rustle of her dress as she slips out of it, the scent of her in the room, you taste her mouth, her breasts...
Well considering that's exactly what my service is....no sex or oral at all but everything else...I'd say it exists alright!
Everyone has their own particular needs. Personally, I love a good blow job better than mediocre intercourse. Then again...I prefer mediocre intercourse over...say...hitting my thumb with a hammer. Look at some of the more unique fetishes out there...I for one cannot see the sexual pleasure taken from giving/getting a golden shower. But to each their own...as long is everyone is consenting and no one gets injured.
There's an interesting article by Bethany St. James at thehuffingtonpost.com today with similar sentiment. It's a short article and worth reading in full. A small sample:
