Old fling won't be my facebook friend just because she's married

[hyperdog]

At first she was excited that we ran into each on facebook and we talked about old times jovially. We did want to become a couple long ago but for various reasons we never did. But suddenly she decides that we should not communicate anymore, and that she felt too guilty. I told her numerously that I had no intentions with her and respected her marriage completely. But she could not be pursuaded to continue communicating and shut the door on me. I must say, if this is what marriage does to people, then marriage is just plain dumb!

 

[blackrock13]

Take the hint and move on or ......................................... become a stocker.

 

[hyperdog]

Take the hint and move on.

I am moving on, but I just have to vent. Marriage is so BS.

 

[drstrangelove]

Don't knock it if you haven't tried it. I wonder if she was feeling that too much communication with you would lead to something that might ruin her marriage, and she wasn't willing to take the chance. It didn't work the first time when you were both single, don't blame her if it doesn't work the second time either.

 

[sidebanger]

grow up and use your big brain instead of the little one
It is inappropriate for you to pursue her. Any bullshit you spew about just being friends is exactly that.... bullshit. You want to fuck her. You both know it. She is protecting her marriage and family which is clearly much more important to her than some old almost-a-fling.

 

[simon482]

Take the hint and move on or ......................................... become a stocker.

yeah there is always a need for people to fill shelves at a store. are you suggesting he become a stock boy to take his mind off the former fling ?

 

[blackrock13]

I am moving on, but I just have to vent. Marriage is so BS.

You being such an expert.

 

[Petzel]

Take the hint and move on or ......................................... become a stocker.

Think you mean stalker.

 

[Petzel]

Maybe she's worried her husband might find out and get jealous or something.

 

[blackrock13]

yeah there is always a need for people to fill shelves at a store. are you suggesting he become a stock boy to take his mind off the former fling ?

Touché, I hate spell checker sometimes; stalker, but the way he's going thats where HD is going to end up pining over his failure with the ladies.

 

[simon482]

Touché, I hate spell checker sometimes; stalker, but the way he's going thats where HD is going to end up pining over his failure with the ladies.

he will be stocking shelves in the prison library.

 

[hyperdog]

It is inappropriate for you to pursue her. Any bullshit you spew about just being friends is exactly that.... bullshit. You want to fuck her. You both know it. She is protecting her marriage and family which is clearly much more important to her than some old almost-a-fling.

But I really don't want to pursue her. I told her that. Just because we had a thing in the past and I'm single does not mean that I want to have a thing with her now, nor did I say anything to her to imply that. There is nothing for her to protect her marriage from.

 

[Hip]

Marriage should not prevent her from facebooking you. She may be using her marriage as an excuse, but the truth is she doesnt want to add you. Dont insist.

 

[gloria muse]

At first she was excited that we ran into each on facebook and we talked about old times jovially. We did want to become a couple long ago but for various reasons we never did. But suddenly she decides that we should not communicate anymore, and that she felt too guilty. I told her numerously that I had no intentions with her and respected her marriage completely. But she could not be pursuaded to continue communicating and shut the door on me. I must say, if this is what marriage does to people, then marriage is just plain dumb!

She's really into you. She feels too guilty that she still has feelings for you in spite of being married. It happens a lot. Her brain wants her to suppress any feelings for you but she can't. Don't take it personally.

 

[Blue-Spheroid]

But I really don't want to pursue her.

Cool. So there's no problem then; she does not want to contact you and you have no interest in her.

BTW, do you mind if I have an affair with her?

 

[MojoRisin']

grow up and use your big brain instead of the little one
It is inappropriate for you to pursue her. Any bullshit you spew about just being friends is exactly that.... bullshit. You want to fuck her. You both know it. She is protecting her marriage and family which is clearly much more important to her than some old almost-a-fling.

correct-a-mundo

 

[mandrill]

Maybe she's worried her husband might find out and get jealous or something.

Bingo. If it's such a long time ago and she got married, she likely doesn't have feelings for you. But the fact is that you're no longer relevant to her life and now that she's reminisced a little with you, she's afraid her SO will get freaked out about you.

 

[HOF]

Cool. So there's no problem then; she does not want to contact you and you have no interest in her.

BTW, do you mind if I have an affair with her?

You can have her when I'm finished with her!

 

[hyperdog]

We have various different theories here. I did ask her directly why, and all she said was that she feels guilty.

 

[HOF]

She's not into you, leave her alone, the past is the past.