Question For The Men Only

[Annessa]

Hello Gents,


I have a question/curiousity that I have wondered about for some time and I always manage to remember wanting to post this question but it always seems to happen when there is no computer in sight. *lol*


If you saw or knew of an Escort that has never had an orgasm with another person only with themselves, what would you think or do?




Your Cheetah Girl,
Annessa
xoxo

 

[yychobbyist]

I'm always a little saddened and a little titillated by the challenge when a woman tells me she has only ever achieved orgasm by herself.

 

[Gentle Ben]

And then there's a lady (SP) that comes along and says, "I've never had an orgasm, I've come close, I think, but I can't seem to get over the edge!"

True story BTW.

 

[calloway]

It's none of my business. But if she told me about her personal circumstances and wanted to be cured... I would provide my services free of charge.

 

[JohnC]

Always up for a challenge, as long as she relaxes and doesn't fight it!!

 

[Annessa]

For the men that vote/voted 'I don't care' reveal yourselves you selfish bastards.




Annessa
xoxo

 

[keybitz]

For the men that vote/voted 'I don't care' reveal yourselves you selfish bastards.




Annessa
xoxo

that person needs to meet somone who can provide a great deal of patience, sympathetic understanding, and sincere affection before her problem will be solved...since she is an escort, i suspect she is in wrong business.

 

[RTRD]

Its Not A Matter Of Being Selfish...

For the men that vote/voted 'I don't care' reveal yourselves you selfish bastards. Annessa xoxo

It’s not a matter of being selfish. Given the quantity of sex this woman is probably having, if she has NEVER had an orgasm with another person, the issue is one that certainly isn't going to be solved in the space of an hour between two strangers. I am neither a doctor, nor a psychologist, and clearly she needs one or the other. However, given that (presumably) she is comfortable having sex without having an orgasm, and (presumably) performs her "service" at such a level that men are prepared to pay her for "service" even though she doesn't experience that ultimate reward, why should I be concerned? I will more than likely receive what I came for, and she will hopefully have an experience no worse than what she has grown accustomed to. Neither of us is worse for wear...

 

[Annessa]

It’s not a matter of being selfish. Given the quantity of sex this woman is probably having, if she has NEVER had an orgasm with another person, the issue is one that certainly isn't going to be solved in the space of an hour between two strangers. I am neither a doctor, nor a psychologist, and clearly she needs one or the other. However, given that (presumably) she is comfortable having sex without having an orgasm, and (presumably) performs her "service" at such a level that men are prepared to pay her for "service" even though she doesn't experience that ultimate reward, why should I be concerned? I will more than likely receive what I came for, and she will hopefully have an experience no worse than what she has grown accustomed to. Neither of us is worse for wear...

I was only kidding around, hence the at the end of my comment.
If I cared to know who voted for what I would have allowed that feature but I do believe in privacy esp. with polls.




Annessa
xoxo

 

[midLifeCrisis]

For me it was a toss-up between "Poor woman..." and "Makes no difference...".

On a personal level, I'm sorry for her (though perhaps she should be seeking a WOMAN to rock her world), but from a business perspective, if it makes no difference to the service, then it's really none of my business.

I suspect, however, that such a woman would not be a particularly good escort, because enjoyment of sex, in and of itself, is an important facet of a good escort's personality ... this isn't why they do the work, of course, it's just why they CAN do the work. And it seems to me that there's probably a fairly high correlation between liking sex qua sex and having orgasms.

But after some pondering, I chose "Poor woman..." (although I would have preferred to say "person" rather than "man" later in the sentence!). After all, she's a person, first and foremost ... escorting is only what she does.

 

[Asterix]

For me it was a toss-up between "Poor woman..." and "Makes no difference...".

On a personal level, I'm sorry for her (though perhaps she should be seeking a WOMAN to rock her world), but from a business perspective, if it makes no difference to the service, then it's really none of my business.

Yes, but since I'm assuming the SP brought it up, she is essentially making it your business, at least as far as talking to her about it. I understood Annessa to mean this person had never had an orgasm with anyone else, man or woman. If who she is describing has such a block to physical intimacy I'd have to think she is absolutely in the wrong profession.

 

[Annessa]

Woo... Woo... Woo... wait a minute here!

I'm asking this question because I have met escorts through the years (and someone recently) that have never had an orgasm before with a partner. It peeked my curiousity so I asked them 'if they don't have an orgasm with a partner is sex still pleasurable for them?' And most of them said YES before I even finished my question. One of them said (and I quote) "I'm not desensitized, of course I get pleasure from sex, if I didn't then I wouldn't be having sex I would just play with myself." and then this women surprised me by saying something else that I never thought about before, she said (and I quote) "People put too much into this orgasm thing, like if you don't have one then the sex must have been horrible and that is so far from the truth"

So, because this surprised me so much (and not much does) I wanted to hear from the men and what they thought.

Just because I'm the one that posed this question don't assume. Thanks.




Annessa
xoxo

And for the record (I can't believe I'm going to say this) I've had many boyfriends that could not keep up with my sex drive.

 

[RTRD]

Actually...

Woo... Woo... Woo... wait a minute here!

I'm asking this question because I have met escorts through the years (and someone recently) that have never had an orgasm before with a partner. It peeked my curiousity so I asked them 'if they don't have an orgasm with a partner is sex still pleasurable for them?' And most of them said YES before I even finished my question. One of them said (and I quote) "I'm not desensitized, of course I get pleasure from sex, if I didn't then I wouldn't be having sex I would just play with myself." and then this women surprised me by saying something else that I never thought about before, she said (and I quote) "People put too much into this orgasm thing, like if you don't have one then the sex must have been horrible and that is so far from the truth"

Actually, my answer was based partially on knowing this...

First of all, if you are a man who know more about sex than just what he see in pornos, you'd know that most women do not have orgasms EVERY time they have sex...especially within the relative "routine" of a long term relationship. Some times the sex is great...typically when both the moment and the mood for both partners connect. Some times however you have sex because it is a healthy part of an adult relationship. Doesn't mean it wasn't pleasurable just because no orgasm resulted. Some times my wife fucks me because, hey, ever once in a while she wants to fuck her husband. The earth doesn't move, but she is better for it (or so I am told). Typically the better sex comes when there is big build up...dinner...drinks...a mood is set (my wife is a total "slut" after a few martinis...lol). But you can't really do that at 7:00am before you jump into the shower for work, can you?

Secondly, I actually have a female friend who "complains" about the same thing. She is late 20's (maybe 30 by this point)...and has never had an orgasm during sex - just via masturbation. Yet she certainly enjoys sex - before marrying a few years ago she was pretty into casual sex (though I never partook personally) and said it was because she just loved a good fuck...especially with a guy she hardly knew (added a wonderful "tension" she said). She just didn't have orgasms.

Now perhaps given the few years of practice they have now had her and her husband learned how to bring her to orgasm during intercourse. But the lack thereof in the past certainly didn't seem to stop her from having fun.

 

[Back Burner]

I really didn't have time to read all these long posts, but my question. if you're paying, why do you care?

Enjoy the fantasy!

 

[B470]

i guess i am weird ...(living on a park bench will d that to you)

i feel sorry for somone who can ONLY get off with a plastic toy or thier fingers
i just think it would be very fustrating.

 

[shack]

If I cared to know who voted for what I would have allowed that feature

I haven't seen that feature before. Is it new or have I been missing it for longer or does it in fact not exist?

 

[Annessa]

I haven't seen that feature before. Is it new or have I been missing it for longer or does it in fact not exist?

Yes it does exsit.
You can click on a box that allows the poll to be open and shows everyone who voted and what they voted for. But because I personally take privacy and discretion seriously in many ways I would never do an open poll.



Annessa
xoxo

 

[ToronToto]

Are we talking about females that have NEVER had an orgasm whatsoever with another person?

I understand that many women don't have an orgasm during regular intercourse, but even not even after DATY/digits?

 

[Annessa]

Are we talking about females that have NEVER had an orgasm whatsoever with another person?

I understand that many women don't have an orgasm during regular intercourse, but even not even after DATY/digits?

Yes we are, but specifically women that are 'SW' that have NEVER had an orgasm what-so-ever with another person, and I was curious about what the men think about this. Whether they find that a turn on, turn off, don't care, etc.




Annessa
xoxo

 

[midLifeCrisis]

Yes, but since I'm assuming the SP brought it up, she is essentially making it your business, at least as far as talking to her about it.

OK, if we assume that the SP herself is bringing it up with me personally, then I will very definitely think about it on a personal (rather than a business) level and then very definitely pick the "Poor woman..." choice. From the original post it's not clear that this is the way I am supposed to have learned it ... I could have heard about it from a mutual acquaintance, or read about it on a Review Board.

And perhaps I should clarify: I do not believe that good sex necessarily involves a female orgasm, nor do I believe that it is impossible for a woman who has never had an orgasm to enjoy sex.

However, orgasms were invented by Evolution (or God, if you will) to encourage people to have sex and make lots of babies, leading me to question to what degree a woman who never orgasms with a partner really likes the sexual act itself. I'll bet a woman who does orgasm (with the proper partner) will enjoy the act more, even if there is no orgasm on that particular occasion or with that particular partner.

Perhaps it's the intimacy or the vulnerability that is more of an attraction with a non-orgasming woman than the actual physical sensation? After all, a guy who's too old or too tired to orgasm can still be thrilled with a cuddle and a bit of play. And we havent' even started getting into the more esoteric realms of sexual satisfaction!