Relationship with an escort
- Thread starter WhiteKnight6t9
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Let me put it this way. The sex is insane. It's everything you'd imagine it to be. But it will be difficult to have a normal relationship while they're still escorting. Their normal outlook returns long after they've quit.
But those who are swingers seem to do fine.
But those who are swingers seem to do fine.
Exactly. I had a relationship a few years ago that was well publicized this board, tons of drama ended very badly and costing me everything. Have your fun but keep things in perspective. It will never ends well
Interesting topic. I am curious to know more about this part of your comment "Their normal outlook returns long after they've quit."
What do you mean by "normal outlook"? Normal being in a traditional one on one relationship or normal meaning back when they were working as an SP having multiple partners?
Thanks.
There's nothing wrong with it, they are real people after all, but it's not for everyone. You need to get rid of any jealousies that you may have, knowing that non-monogamy is something that you have to live with and that after a day of fucking...she may not want to fuck you...
Be honest with yourself.
Is this an opportunity at a real relationship, or is it just you mixing signals that come with paid meetings with a nice person? Remember that a good attendant or escort is typically a pleasure to deal with... and they probably like it that way because it makes things easier to be themselves.
Is this an opportunity at a real relationship, or is it just you mixing signals that come with paid meetings with a nice person? Remember that a good attendant or escort is typically a pleasure to deal with... and they probably like it that way because it makes things easier to be themselves.
I'm always amazed when this topic comes up. Escorts are just normal people just like everyone else. They fall in love just like everyone else. If they happen to meet a client that they click with, is it really a surprise that they would want to explore it further? A client also has a leg up on anyone else an SP might date because, like Juno said, they already know what's up.
The industry has all kinds of people so what I have to say I don't want to paint all girls in the same vein. But there are a few patterns that even the industry girls have admitted themselves to me and I have quite a few friends in the industry.
But some of them admit that the industry changes their views on men, sex, and relationships. For some here, girls have admitted that they view a lot of men as untrustworthy. As they see a lot of married men.
For some, sex becomes a hunger for men and they also witness some really kinky and weird shit. Other girls are open to it and become more open while for others, they see it as a fetish that has to be Fed for these guys.
I've known quite a few women who've worked and then retired from the industry. And you'd be surprised at how conservative some of them become when they've retired. Because sex doesn't become the main theme in their lives where after all their job is mainly about sex.
When your doing this week after week seeing several dozens of men your outlook on them becomes as a result of that. And to be honest, this demographic doesn't represent us men in the best light. And that's what these women see. It isn't until they've quit that they see what the other bunch of males are like and begin to realize the type of island they were on.
In a previous relationship with an escort I was trying to be understanding and cool with her job. That was my intention. So I was shocked when she got angry with me after a few more months of dating and asked me why I didn't stop her from doing this. I was like what? But this is your choice. And she was like how can you be with a woman that fucks different guys every day?? How can you stand me after all the things I do with these guys and let them do these things to me?? She thought I was a weirdo. When really I didn't like any of it but I tried to block it out because my intention was to just ride out the wave.
I knew she wasn't going to do this forever but I didn't expect her to react to me that way. You can never control or predict these things. It's luck of the draw man. I allowed her looks to keep me calm cause I really didn't want to lose her. But realistically if she didn't look the way she did I would have ended it pretty quickly. That's the catcher. When a woman hooks you in with the looks, the sex, and the attention, your judging faculties get weakened.
Looks will disappear with age. So if you don't think you can live with her personality alone don't get involved for the long term . Just have fun.
This industry operates session by session so just abide by that and you'll be saner for it.
I've recently discussed it with a well known smart and good looking SP and she confirmed in no uncertain terms what I pretty much already knew, namely that she would expect her man to buy her out of escorting as soon as the relationship is established. Meanwhile she was dating someone who she met on a dating site and he had no such obligations as he had no clue about her SPing and she was happy to keep it that way.
Are you able and willing to provide for her matching her income? If yes, maybe you have a leg up. If no, she will never forget it or forgive you for it, no matter what she says now. The only way to do it properly is the way it was done in "Pretty Woman". Not many men can afford it.
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Misty4me
So many misconceptions in this thread . Not all woman are the same guys ! Believe it or not we make our own choices in life . The escorts I have known are educated and realize they won't be doing this forever also . For me expecting a guy to take me out of the industry and them match my income would never be an option . Why would I disrespect myself and the man I love by expecting such a thing . Many ladies enter this industry to make money at something they love to do , if we have a higher then average sex drive why not use it to make ourselves some money . Escorts are people too !
Now to answer the question can it work yes , I have seen it work with several couple friends of mine . If your a jealous person and can't work through that while she continues to escort chances are slim that you'll both be able to make it work . If she gives it up for the relationship willingly then there will be no resentment , and of course a lady would have to wonder how her man could be ok with this because most of us ladies would not be ok with our man being sexual with someone else so be prepared to give up your hobbying ways , she will know if and when you've seen someone else for sexual purposes . It can work but be prepared to overcome obstacles that wouldn't otherwise be there and sexual intimacy can do all sorts of things to your head . Good luck , keep us posted !
Misty
Now to answer the question can it work yes , I have seen it work with several couple friends of mine . If your a jealous person and can't work through that while she continues to escort chances are slim that you'll both be able to make it work . If she gives it up for the relationship willingly then there will be no resentment , and of course a lady would have to wonder how her man could be ok with this because most of us ladies would not be ok with our man being sexual with someone else so be prepared to give up your hobbying ways , she will know if and when you've seen someone else for sexual purposes . It can work but be prepared to overcome obstacles that wouldn't otherwise be there and sexual intimacy can do all sorts of things to your head . Good luck , keep us posted !
Misty
What if you gentleman go see an escort and fuck her, how would you feel being the married guy? There isn't anything wrong with seeing escorts while married or in relationships or single, or whatever the case is... so what is the difference if a escort was or is in a relationship? You see escorts do whatever with them, does it bother you that you saw one? Would then it bother you if you then dated an escort because you had done the same thing to your wife or girlfriend?
Married or not, there isn't anything wrong with seeing an escort.
There's many forms of relationships, it's no different than having an open (communication) relationship. Sure, things happen but with every relationship theres always things that arise, so that is why communication is so important for a meaningful and rewarding relationship.
Married or not, there isn't anything wrong with seeing an escort.
There's many forms of relationships, it's no different than having an open (communication) relationship. Sure, things happen but with every relationship theres always things that arise, so that is why communication is so important for a meaningful and rewarding relationship.
As someone who very briefly was in a relationship with an escort (even that description is a bit of a stretch), Adonis' is bang-on.
It doesn't work.
Sex is the most intimate act we have as humans. You can't give yourself physically and emotionally knowing that "her job" requires her to have sex with others.
It doesn't work.
And that's before we bring up some of the dark forces at play in this industry (ie: addiction, exploitation etc).
It doesn't work.
It doesn't work.
Sex is the most intimate act we have as humans. You can't give yourself physically and emotionally knowing that "her job" requires her to have sex with others.
It doesn't work.
And that's before we bring up some of the dark forces at play in this industry (ie: addiction, exploitation etc).
It doesn't work.
This.
My personal rule I don't date while being a SP: Not with a former client not with anyone outside who doesn't know I'm an SP. Firstly, because I don't trust men that are ok with me being and SP and who want to have a relationship at the same time.
Secondly, I'll date someone outside of the industry once I'm done.
I understand many would agree or disagree with me, this is just what I think and it may not be reflective of what other ladies here think.
Moreover, I do not consider it disrespectful in any way or that it will hinder me to make my own decisions, if the scenario was that he met me this way, we fall in love and I tell him to wait until I'm done and get out on my own but instead he offers to take me out of the industry and we both agree that he will support me temporary while i launch my business or do whatever it is I decide to do to resume my civi life.
Lastly, and maybe not relevant to the post but if the scenario was that I am out of the industry because I decided to and I happen to meet someone and I fall in love with him I will definitely tell him about my past.
While sex may be "our job", sex at work and sex with a significant other are very different. To operate successfully in this industry the lady must be able to differentiate between the two, and hope that her partner (be it her life partner or her partner for the next 60 minutes) need to be able to do the same.
And before jumping at your comment about the "dark forces" at play, are you suggesting that addiction, exploitation etc. are definite things present in the lives of the ladies you visit? Cause if so I think you might want to reconsider such a broad generalization. There are addicts in the industry just like there are in yours. And while exploitation is undeniably something that happens in this industry, in other cases I don't think you can call a lady who has taken control of her sexuality to build a business founded in autonomy. When a lady can recognize strengths or qualities in herself and use them to better her life in some way then more power to her. I wouldn't call that exploitation to make your own schedule, meet only people you choose to, and engage in an act that only you deem admissible.
Relationships are about the individuals and how their lives can fit together harmoniously, so to say "I couldn't date an escort cause they are xyz", is the same as ladies saying "I couldn't date a client cause they bought into xyz". It's nonsense.
Lol I love these threads. OP: try it out. Go all in to the relationship, complete with a puppy and joint bank account. When it's all over, make a new thread recounting all the sordid details.
