Hope it's okay I post this here, wasn't sure where I should. Anyway here is my issue. Seen a certain sp for a bit now and she asked me the other day if I wanted to have an unprotected casual non professional sexual relationship. She said we can go get tested together and then enjoy ourselves even more. I love the idea but am wondering the general opinion of others, if you would/wouldn't. I'm torn. She is super cool, I know her family and they seem to be very nice, she has a close relationship with them. Anyway, just wondering, thanks so very much.
Relationship with SP?
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Unprotected? Are you trusting her on the pregnancy front?
Unless you have a vasectomy I would be wary.
Unless you have a vasectomy I would be wary.
Thanks for the responses. I actually have had a vasectomy so not worried about that. She is still fairly young (26).We just seem to click, to really enjoy one anothers company. We watch football together, exercise together, etc.... I think it would be fine but just a bit of apprehension. In my head I keep thinking 'who else does she have this arrangement with'? She says no one, and I want to believe her, but, I don't know. Maybe I'm damaged and that's why it's hard for me to trust people.
Guy your story sounds weird to me at so many levels. It sounds all deep and personal, you've met her family but you are still paying for sex which makes you a client. And now she's giving it to you for free? ...There must be a catch, what is it?
Are you still seeing SPs & she's aware of it too?
Not to be a hypocrite but if she's comfortable enough with you and you're ready, do it, it means she trust you!
Or talk to her about being not too comfortable yet from what she does and wait until your ready. She should respect you for your decision as you would respect her decisions.
Not to be a hypocrite but if she's comfortable enough with you and you're ready, do it, it means she trust you!
Or talk to her about being not too comfortable yet from what she does and wait until your ready. She should respect you for your decision as you would respect her decisions.
As a SP, she probably goes to get tested regularly and often. And since she's the one who asked you, she's given it some thought as to who she'd feel safe with too - you! So from a physical health standpoint, she obviously cares. The only thing you need to think about is whether it works for you. Does she expect you to be monogamous that way? She's a SP, so pretty clear she'd expect you to still be cool with how she makes her livelihood. My 2cents.
Relationship issue aside, as with any girl, you'd want to make sure you've been seeing only each other for at least the past 6 or 9 months (latency period for HIV) before getting tested, and then deciding at that point. If she has been with anyone else recently, that clock won't start until she stops.
My guess is that she thinks he's cool and fun to hang with. He must also be viewed as perhaps, a good provider. Maybe she can exit the industry? Is that the catch?
I've got nothing against an SP and a John having a relationship if all the right ingredients are there.
But getting close for both John and SP in the normal course of hobbying fun, is like experiencing only the joyous times together, without experiencing the trials and tribulations of reality.
Like Fuji said, only the OP knows best.
Maybe he should try getting to know her in a 'normal' way for couples, and see what comes of it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
She could change her mind, and so can he, if they discover that there are things of each other, that they aren't comfortable with.
1. Life is short.
2. Balance the pros and cons.
3. If YOU can live with the balance of the pros vs cons then DO IT.
4. See point 1.
So is this a friends with benefits arrangement or an actual relationship especially since you've already met her family? I think it would be important to find clarity on this before you decide one way or another.
In some people. In others as long as 9. It can vary, but the typical time period before an overwhelming majority develop antibodies quoted by medical authorities is 5-6 months.
