Your Pioneer and Philips players proabably play the first half of the movie and freeze on the layer break right?
The problem isn't in the consumer DVD players, it's in the software used to recode (compress) the data and the way it's burned.
Most of the currently popular software doesn't put the 'layer-break' info in the right place on the disk according to Hoyle. You can do it manually using 3 or 4 additional programs with an hour or so of additional screwing around and calculations, but most people wouldn't bother.
I'm surprised Nero is included in the ones who don't do it properly, but they may just be discouraging D/L piracy.