Should Terbites be looking for a "GFE" from SPs?

[Bud Plug]

I was browsing through some reviews, and I saw the usual litany of Girlfriend Experience references, either used as shorthand for the services involved and/or as a way of rating (positively) the services of the SP.

It has always struck me as a bit odd that Terbites would prefer their SP's to act like a girlfriend. Friendly, yes. Act like a girl? Certainly! But a girlfriend?

First of all, the way that their real girlfriends/spouses act is probably why they're seeing an SP!

I think what's closer to the truth is that Terbites want SPs to act the way they wished their girlfriend acted. In other words, what they really want is really just another variant on the fantasy of a PSE. They don't actually want something that seems real.

Now, a PSE, I understand. You're not asking the SP to act like she likes you, and you don't need to be deluded into thinking she does, for your SP to provide a PSE. That's what the job is all about.

So what do you think? If you're searching for a GFE as your holy grail, are you deluding yourself as to what you're really looking for, or worse, if you really need your SP to act like your girlfriend is it a sign that you have some unresolved emotional issues to deal with?

 

[explorerzip]

Why would someone else's choices be a delusion? It's their money and they can choose to spend it however they like. Some people want the girlfriend experience, but don't want to deal with the 'fun' stuff like "Do I look fat in this?", PMS'ing, I want to see 50 Shades, etc. etc. If you're in a relationship, you must deal with that stuff. That's part of the package. If you don't want that part, then you go for a GFE.

Not everyone is into the slutty girl type that talks trash, wants COF, etc. Just as not everyone is into the sweet innocent girlfriend role. Different strokes for different folks!

 

[Buick Mackane]

Long time member judging what others are looking for ....again. :eyebrows:

 

[IM469]

If you're searching for a GFE as your holy grail, are you deluding yourself as to what you're really looking for, or worse, if you really need your SP to act like your girlfriend is it a sign that you have some unresolved emotional issues to deal with?

It's a fantasy that you are paying for - how are you deluding yourself ? If I have her role model as a cop, a maid, etc ... is it any different ? If I expect a romance to develop outside the paid services then I might be deluding myself.

 

[DanJ]

To me, GFE is simply a term for services offered. DFK, BBBJ, DATY. Some will extend that to CIM and CIMSW. Most guys aren't looking for a replacement girlfriend.

 

[Titalian]

I was browsing through some reviews, and I saw the usual litany of Girlfriend Experience references, either used as shorthand for the services involved and/or as a way of rating (positively) the services of the SP.

It has always struck me as a bit odd that Terbites would prefer their SP's to act like a girlfriend. Friendly, yes. Act like a girl? Certainly! But a girlfriend?

First of all, the way that their real girlfriends/spouses act is probably why they're seeing an SP!

I think what's closer to the truth is that Terbites want SPs to act the way they wished their girlfriend acted. In other words, what they really want is really just another variant on the fantasy of a PSE. They don't actually want something that seems real.

Now, a PSE, I understand. You're not asking the SP to act like she likes you, and you don't need to be deluded into thinking she does, for your SP to provide a PSE. That's what the job is all about.

So what do you think? If you're searching for a GFE as your holy grail, are you deluding yourself as to what you're really looking for, or worse, if you really need your SP to act like your girlfriend is it a sign that you have some unresolved emotional issues to deal with?

I sort of agree with Bud on this. That's why I never use the term GFE in my reviews, but PSE I've used a few times to describe how far the sexual experience and contact went.

 

[MRBJX]

To me, GFE is simply a term for services offered. DFK, BBBJ, DATY. Some will extend that to CIM and CIMSW. Most guys aren't looking for a replacement girlfriend.

and a lot of girlfriends..well they just arnent always skilled with bbbj and dont always like daty, many never cimsw.

If you are in the hobby, you should know its a fantasy but its also the reality of having the best of something with someone and the best of other things with someone else, because finding the best of everything in one person, well that's a fuckin unicorn.

 

[Marla]

I think GFE can be a confusing acronym. I just had a disgruntled client and gave him back half his money half way through the session because he wanted to do things i have restrictions about and manhandle my tits. When i used the "don't" word or the "no" word he became extremely pissed. He said those were wifey words and I had promised him a GFE which meant he wouldn't hear those negative words. I told him he was mistaken that girlfriend experience still had restirictions and an argument ensued. He seemed to think he could do anything he wanted with me as it was GFE so I stopped the session, not wanting to make an enemy further, I refunded him half his money. I was extremely annoyed because I could have had another appointment in leiu of his. Since when does a GFE mean you won't get restrictions or hear the word NO. Does it mean the man can use the woman with complete abandon?

 

[diana <3]

Although there are some services that I would consider pretty core to a true gfe, I've always read it as being more about attitude and pacing- unrushed, sensual, open to doing what you like(even if not willing to do absolutely everything) but also a bit interested in her own pleasure and is relaxed enough that you can genuinely give her some.
But then, I'm coming at it from the other side, and don't have to worry about parsing every review to try and figure out if a girl does something specific that I'm looking for.

Edit: posted at the same time as Marla, this was not intended as a reply to her.

 

[dannywd78]

That experience sounds (to me at least) that he was looking for a PSE. I tend to equate a GFE as more of a sensual, 'loving' sort of experience, even though it's a fantasy. I wouldn't characterize as delusional - sometimes that's the fantasy that I want to explore

 

[calib]

when you go to a peeler bar do you go looking for girlfriend experience???

 

[shack]

when you go to a peeler bar do you go looking for girlfriend experience???

Quite the analogy.

 

[Buick Mackane]

I think GFE can be a confusing acronym. I just had a disgruntled client and gave him back half his money half way through the session because he wanted to do things i have restrictions about and manhandle my tits. When i used the "don't" word or the "no" word he became extremely pissed. He said those were wifey words and I had promised him a GFE which meant he wouldn't hear those negative words. I told him he was mistaken that girlfriend experience still had restirictions and an argument ensued. He seemed to think he could do anything he wanted with me as it was GFE so I stopped the session, not wanting to make an enemy further, I refunded him half his money. I was extremely annoyed because I could have had another appointment in leiu of his. Since when does a GFE mean you won't get restrictions or hear the word NO. Does it mean the man can use the woman with complete abandon?

You were entitled to kick him out and keep the money, he went beyond your limits. Share his info with other ladies so they don't have to deal with him.

 

[Toronto`s Finest]

To me, GFE is simply a term for services offered. DFK, BBBJ, DATY. Some will extend that to CIM and CIMSW. Most guys aren't looking for a replacement girlfriend.

EXACTLY .... That is what it means ... in terms of service ..... as opposed to Porn star experience.

 

[Titalian]

To me, GFE is simply a term for services offered. DFK, BBBJ, DATY. Some will extend that to CIM and CIMSW. Most guys aren't looking for a replacement girlfriend.

BS, Gfe is used by many providers but don't expect what you have suggested here cause half the time it doesn't happen.

 

[RobAustin]

That experience sounds (to me at least) that he was looking for a PSE. I tend to equate a GFE as more of a sensual, 'loving' sort of experience, even though it's a fantasy. I wouldn't characterize as delusional - sometimes that's the fantasy that I want to explore

I always thought the difference between PSE and GFE were pretty clear cut. I always assumed GFE was a covered FS with LFK only. Guess i was wrong

 

[explorerzip]

and a lot of girlfriends..well they just arnent always skilled with bbbj and dont always like daty, many never cimsw.

If you are in the hobby, you should know its a fantasy but its also the reality of having the best of something with someone and the best of other things with someone else, because finding the best of everything in one person, well that's a fuckin unicorn.

Keep in mind that you can sometimes find the "best" in a real girlfriend, but also have to take the "worst" with it. It goes the same for her too. That's just the price of admission.

 

[explorerzip]

I think GFE can be a confusing acronym. I just had a disgruntled client and gave him back half his money half way through the session because he wanted to do things i have restrictions about and manhandle my tits. When i used the "don't" word or the "no" word he became extremely pissed. He said those were wifey words and I had promised him a GFE which meant he wouldn't hear those negative words. I told him he was mistaken that girlfriend experience still had restirictions and an argument ensued. He seemed to think he could do anything he wanted with me as it was GFE so I stopped the session, not wanting to make an enemy further, I refunded him half his money. I was extremely annoyed because I could have had another appointment in leiu of his. Since when does a GFE mean you won't get restrictions or hear the word NO. Does it mean the man can use the woman with complete abandon?

I'm amazed there are idiots out there that think paying for companionship gives them permission to try and push limits. Sorry that you went through this Marla.

 

[explorerzip]

I always thought the difference between PSE and GFE were pretty clear cut. I always assumed GFE was a covered FS with LFK only. Guess i was wrong

All encounters with an escort should be covered FS regardless of PSE, GFE, or whatever acronym. If a lady blatantly or even subtlety suggests BBFS, then steer the hell away. PSE is what you would typically see in a hardcore porn film: facials, greek, cim, etc. Don't always expect specific acronyms if a girl advertises PSE though. Basically being a bit rougher with a girl (within reasonable limits of course) compared to a GFE.

 

[Titalian]

I'm amazed there are idiots out there that think paying for companionship gives them permission to try and push limits. Sorry that you went through this Marla.

Why would you be amazed, I hear it all the time with the ones I've connected to.