I've recently lost a friend. Her choice, not mine - she's an escort and there's a part of me that wonders if that's why. My question is, why would this happen? is this the norm in the industry with SPs vs civvies or would this be a personal choice. Im not totally familiar with the industry and would love to hear some input from some professionals - stories from other people that may have experienced the same situation etc because Im at a loss. I miss her a lot and she wont respond to any of my emails or phone calls. I dont judge her, in fact, Im proud of what she's doing, PLUS she's getting paid for what everyone else is doing for free. I just hope she's happy.
some advice! peeps
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With such little information it's tough not say.
Not to mention I wouldn't generalize and say that SPs and civvies can't be friends.
Maybe you did something to make her not want to be friends.
Maybe she just doesn't have time for you.
Who knows, maybe it has nothing to do with you.
I've had friends fade out and it was for no real reason other than we stopped making time to hang out with each other.
Not to mention I wouldn't generalize and say that SPs and civvies can't be friends.
Maybe you did something to make her not want to be friends.
Maybe she just doesn't have time for you.
Who knows, maybe it has nothing to do with you.
I've had friends fade out and it was for no real reason other than we stopped making time to hang out with each other.
Im not trying to generalize. Like I said, it's not like Im familiar with the industry and Im aware that sounded close minded, but it's not meant to be at all. I plead ignorance! 
someone, please, educate me
I also dont think this is a situation of a friendship fading out - we've all had those before, this feels different. It's definitely deliberate and definitely out of nowhere. If I did something to hurt her, we've had a relationship in the past where it would have been discussed instead of ignoring the other's msgs.
someone, please, educate me I also dont think this is a situation of a friendship fading out - we've all had those before, this feels different. It's definitely deliberate and definitely out of nowhere. If I did something to hurt her, we've had a relationship in the past where it would have been discussed instead of ignoring the other's msgs.
Okay how about this
What is she SPing for? Has she been doing this for a long or short amount of time? Does she do drugs? Did you say something to creep her out? Something has happened such that she no longer wants to see you. Either something is fucked up on her end or you did something.
How long have you known her? Did you ever have sex with her? Did you ever date?
Short answer to your question......
Is it because she is an SP? Maybe.
Is it something else? Quite possibly we can't know on such little info.
Personally, you probably did something and weren't even aware of it. Why else would she go from talking to ignoring your msgs? If you already knew she was a SP that probably wasn't the issue.
What is she SPing for? Has she been doing this for a long or short amount of time? Does she do drugs? Did you say something to creep her out? Something has happened such that she no longer wants to see you. Either something is fucked up on her end or you did something.
How long have you known her? Did you ever have sex with her? Did you ever date?
Short answer to your question......
Is it because she is an SP? Maybe.
Is it something else? Quite possibly we can't know on such little info.
Personally, you probably did something and weren't even aware of it. Why else would she go from talking to ignoring your msgs? If you already knew she was a SP that probably wasn't the issue.
I know there's only so much you can speculate, just more of a open ended opinion question, is all. Mostly interested in stories that may be similar. Maybe hoping some of the SPs will respond as well...
She hasnt told me officially she was an escort, but she knows I know now (I found out through someone else) and I've told her I didnt care, and I loved her no matter what. No - we didnt date, or have had sex with each other. I've known her for about 4.5 yrs.
She hasnt told me officially she was an escort, but she knows I know now (I found out through someone else) and I've told her I didnt care, and I loved her no matter what. No - we didnt date, or have had sex with each other. I've known her for about 4.5 yrs.
That could be it then , that you found out without her teller her, and she's either embarrassed ( this doesn't mean she's ashamed of her profession ) or she may feel betrayed because you found out a secret she didn't want you to know.
for the record, I was told and she found out that I was told. I didnt betray her...but it would make sense. But it hurts that it would be taken out on me...
I went on an internet date once and I don't know what happened but I figured out that she was an SP.
I called her on it. She admitted it. I told her I didn't care. That was the first and last date. Prior to meeting we talkd on the phone a few times.
Truth be told I didn't really care that things didn't go anywhere. She was a single mom and at that time I don't think I was ready for that.
In retrospect I should have played dumb but whatever it was during the date it was so obvious that I could not say something.
Oh and the date ended when she had to get in a Zipcar and go to a late night appointment.
I called her on it. She admitted it. I told her I didn't care. That was the first and last date. Prior to meeting we talkd on the phone a few times.
Truth be told I didn't really care that things didn't go anywhere. She was a single mom and at that time I don't think I was ready for that.
In retrospect I should have played dumb but whatever it was during the date it was so obvious that I could not say something.
Oh and the date ended when she had to get in a Zipcar and go to a late night appointment.
Yup that was something that you should have said from the get go. If you find out before she tells you that is a recipe for disaster. People like to be in control of their secrets.
Also, your use of the word love is suspect. Sure maybe you love her like a sister or friend. But it comes off a bit creepy.
With all due respect, it's not in the slightest bit creepy and it's a word her and I use freely - as friends. We were roomates
Roommates. LOL even more detail we should have known.
Don't worry it wasn't her secret it was the toilet seat you inconsiderate pig.
Don't worry it wasn't her secret it was the toilet seat you inconsiderate pig.
I would have given all this info, but I thought I'd start with the basics. we havent lived together for 2 yrs LOL... geez
The person who told you did potentially betray a trust , and she may believe you have done the same by not letting her know soon enough, is she's truly upset who knows what she is thinking, give it time,and never EVER call her peeps
