SP with boyfriends

[DigitallyYours]

I know most SPs probably have significant others. But I guess it's out of sight, out of mind. And what's it to me anyway, it's just her job.

However, I stumbled onto an SP's facebook page because we happened to be at the same public event and when I was browsing pics from the event, I saw her tagged in a pic and followed the tag. On her FB page are pics of her with her boyfriend and they are clearly "in a relationship".

I feel kind of weird about it and will probably never see her again, even though I realize it should make no difference to me. I'm a little surprised by my reaction. I thought we had a good connection and don't have feelings for her in that sense but it's still weird seeing it.


Would it make you feel kind of weird if you stumbled onto an ATF's FB page and saw her with her BF/husband or something like that? Would you still see her?

 

[EntertainmentMan2000]

I know most SPs probably have significant others. But I guess it's out of sight, out of mind. And what's it to me anyway, it's just her job.

However, I stumbled onto an SP's facebook page because we happened to be at the same public event and when I was browsing pics from the event, I saw her tagged in a pic and followed the tag. On her FB page are pics of her with her boyfriend and they are clearly "in a relationship".

I feel kind of weird about it and will probably never see her again, even though I realize it should make no difference to me. I'm a little surprised by my reaction. I thought we had a good connection and don't have feelings for her in that sense but it's still weird seeing it.


Would it make you feel kind of weird if you stumbled onto an ATF's FB page and saw her with her BF/husband or something like that? Would you still see her?

judging from your post and amount of detail you do have feelings for her

 

[d_jedi]

I know a couple of MPA's I've seen have boyfriends.. one, I saw her with her boyfriend in public (obviously, I didn't do anything stupid like saying hi or anything).. another, now ex-MPA told me she had one.

It really didn't lessen my desire to see either of them.. but it certainly did snap any foolish thoughts I had about a relationship outside the spa with those MPAs out of my head..

 

[DigitallyYours]

I have zero desire to have a relationship with a sex worker. It's more that seeing her again, I would just see an image of her boyfriend and that would ruin the fantasy element of the session.

Now that I think about it, she mentioned several times past relationships she had but made it a point of never mentioning any current boyfriends. I guess she realizes that mentioning it is bad for business.

 

[fun-guy]

Would it make you feel kind of weird if you stumbled onto an ATF's FB page and saw her with her BF/husband or something like that?

Not in the least. Whatever happens in that room when I see an SP stays in the room. After I leave the room, I'm back to reality and move on until the next escapade.

You went to all that trouble to look her up on facebook, etc... is not a healthy sign.

 

[Ladyraven]

I know most SPs probably have significant others. But I guess it's out of sight, out of mind. And what's it to me anyway, it's just her job.

However, I stumbled onto an SP's facebook page because we happened to be at the same public event and when I was browsing pics from the event, I saw her tagged in a pic and followed the tag. On her FB page are pics of her with her boyfriend and they are clearly "in a relationship".

I feel kind of weird about it and will probably never see her again, even though I realize it should make no difference to me. I'm a little surprised by my reaction. I thought we had a good connection and don't have feelings for her in that sense but it's still weird seeing it.


Would it make you feel kind of weird if you stumbled onto an ATF's FB page and saw her with her BF/husband or something like that? Would you still see her?

So she has a life outside of her work. why does that bother you ?
do you have a SO?

 

[DigitallyYours]

Not in the least. Whatever happens in that room when I see an SP stays in the room. After I leave the room, I'm back to reality and move on until the next escapade.

You went to all that trouble to look her up on facebook, etc... is not a healthy sign.

I didn't look her up. I had no idea she would be in those pics. Surprised for sure. I just clicked her name. Wouldn't call that effort.

 

[EntertainmentMan2000]

I didn't look her up. I had no idea she would be in those pics. Surprised for sure. I just clicked her name. Wouldn't call that effort.

Denial is the fist stage...

 

[DigitallyYours]

So she has a life outside of her work. why does that bother you ?
do you have a SO?

Of course we do. Like I said, just kind of wrecks the fantasy element to have real life intrude. Kind of like if you had a pic of your family on the nightstand during a session.

And I don't hobby while in a relationship. For the same reason.

 

[night ride]

I agree it might be a little creepy to track her down on facebook, but like OP says he just clicked a link.
To answer the question, if I stumbled upon details about someone I had seen a lot, I would be happy to see she is leading a normal life. Lots better than finding she's leading a destructive life.

 

[GG2]

It turns me on when I know that an SP or MPA has a boyfriend or husband. For example, one girl I know (who is actually neither an SP or MPA) just got married two weeks ago. One week prior to her marriage, she sucked me off. One week after her marriage she gave me a handjob. I just look at babes like her in disbelief. Does she even have a soul? It's so exciting getting off on a cheating slut.

 

[coolcat]

One SP that I had a few sessions with refused to kiss. Her reasoning, she only allowed kissing with her boyfriend because she wanted to "save" something for him.

 

[nondescriptive]

I think its kind of funny that some SPs have boyfriends, One SP said to me "You have a better body than my boyfriend" and another said, after a somewhat lengthy hiatus from the biz and I happened to be her first client back, "I missed being an escort, my boyfriend is lousy in bed"

 

[Blue-Spheroid]

I thought we had a good connection and don't have feelings for her in that sense

Am I the only one who thinks he doth protest too much?

She probably had a good connection (business connection) with the OP as well; but it was not a relationship. Why would he find it weird that a woman (probably a good looking one) would be in a real relationship? Should she be satisfied with the couple of times a month (or less) the OP sees her?

In general, the private life of an SP is usually outside the realm of the SP encounter as it is none of the client's business.

This does remind me, however, of a dancer I used to frequent (now long gone from the scene). We used to go way over the line in one of the VIP rooms of an unnamed club. We used to spend an hour or more in the back room essentially making out and talking about all sorts of things; typically she would only ask me to pay for five or six songs per session. She liked to talk about her BF which I found odd at first but since she was happily naked on my lap and letting me fondle her while she talked about him, I soon got past the oddness. Our sessions grew more and more intense with time to the point where I could have BBBJ or (covered) FS any time I wanted. I remember one time she was venting about how her BF wanted sex from her way more than she wanted to give it up. She was telling me that there was no way she was going to let him have it any time he wanted. I found it amusing because I, on the other hand, was getting it from her whenever I wanted. Those were good days. She quit dancing when she decided to get pregnant; sadly she's not come back from retirement.

 

[massman]

I know many have bfs. I just don't want to hear about it. Unless she is telling me how much nicer my dick is, or how much better in bed I am, then I'll take that!

 

[Mod100]

One SP that I had a few sessions with refused to kiss. Her reasoning, she only allowed kissing with her boyfriend because she wanted to "save" something for him.

Sounds like "Pretty Women".

 

[DigitallyYours]

What surprised me isn't that she had a boyfriend. I generally assume most do. What surprised me is that seeing a picture of it had an impact on me, that knowing it in the abstract or if she told me she had a bf, does not.

I think my only point is that seeing it is different from knowing it.

 

[harryass]

its big turnoff for me when SP talks about their BF or SO. Lessens and takes away from the fantasy.

 

[Brandon123]

I know of many SP with bf's and even husbands with kids. It doesn't bother me. I'm flattered that they would tell me about their personal life anyway.

 

[kaempferrand]

I don't really mind or care if the SP has a bf or husband. What I find funny is there are somethings the SP would do with you/to you that she would not do with her bf or husband. Like anal. Or she would dress up for you but not to her real significant other. Now I find that bizarre. Well I guess when the right dollar amount is involved everything is equalized. Plus also at times real love gets in the way and holds back that heated animalistic nothing held back passion that you can easily obtain in this hobby if the chemistry is right between the parties involved.