The Big Question - what does "cheating" mean to you

[drrogers]

I heard a phone in show this week where they were asking listenters to call in on what cheating meant to them. I was tempted to call in my opinion but then decided to sit back and listen to what others had to say. There were a number of opinions and some were even interesting.

So, let's have a go at it here - what better place than an escort review board? So guys - what do you consider cheating to be - either from your point of view or from the point of view of your SO cheating on you.

Would also like some of our great SP's to chime in - they are looking at it from the other side - so what does cheating mean to you?

Doc

 

[YellowDog]

For me it is when I give a $300 an hour SP $295.

 

[Mcluhan]

Cheating is sliding up to the lessor attractive of two females, and fawning over her.

 

[Frosty]

Cheating to me is when your SO doesn't know about your sexual activities with another person and that includes kissing.

 

[lickrolaine]

Cheating to me is when your SO doesn't know about your sexual activities with another person and that includes kissing.

agreed,plus it may include online communication.

 

[lickrolaine]

Cheating to me is any form of intimacy with someone of the opposite sex.

define intimacy as opposed to flirting?

 

[svtcobra]

So kissing another woman (DFK or None) is that classified as cheating?

 

[Never Compromised]

Cheating to me is any form of intimacy with someone of the opposite sex.

So having hot wild dirty sex with someone of the same gender is not cheating on your SO?

I bet their are a lot of wives out there that would be so disappointed to hear tht their husbands were having gay sex.

 

[tboy]

anything you would not do with another woman in front of your SO

Perfect Definition my friend...that says it all.....

 

[licka daclit]

Cheating to me is when you SO finds out.

 

[toughb]

Cheating:- A deception for profit to yourself...

Cheating to me is any form of intimacy with someone of the opposite sex.

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Cheating is hurting the one you supposedly love.

Hurting children when they have to watch their parents in a divorce situation.

The danger of hurting your health and an innocent party.

Getting caught? When not if.

Cheating is a lack of morals and ethics.

 

[abstract]

You're likely right there asshat, and you getting angry about what other's may do that doesn't affect you seems a little over the top, but regardless, you wait until you've been married for 10+ years and your wife bitches and nags at you over stupid shit all the time and in turn, your sex life goes into the toilet because of everything else that is neccessary to manage a business, a household & family takes precedence over intimacy and see how long you hold out.

I had an affair a few years ago and that was definately the wrong route for escapism; I even considered leaving my family at one point to be with this other lady; morally & ethically wrong?...absolutely, and it would've been a big mistake....I didn't do it. Now, I occassionally slip out to visit an escort to briefly escape the everyday mundane shit as mentioned above, as well as attempt to satisfy my sexual appetite, without getting involved emotionally. It works for me and keeps me grounded and I make no apologies for being a typically wired male.

Amen brother!!

cheers!!

 

[osanowo]

anything you would not do with another woman in front of your SO

I vote for that. As long as what you do makes you feel guilty you can consider that you are cheating.

From wiki:

Many people consider cheating to be any violation of the mutually agreed-upon rules or boundaries of a relationship, which may or may not include sexual monogamy. (...) the boundaries to which people agree vary widely, and sometimes these boundaries evolve within each relationship.

 

[BallzDeep]

I think the married guys know best, I never have been but I'm sure it gets stale after a while, for both sides. It's easier for guys to get an escort because there's so many choices.

Right or wrong, it's not for me to judge, I think lack of sex isn't good for your state of mind. Seeing an sp is something to look forward to.

 

[toughb]

Never felt I had to cheat on my wife...

You're likely right there asshat, and you getting angry about what other's may do that doesn't affect you seems a little over the top, but regardless, you wait until you've been married for 10+ years and your wife bitches and nags at you over stupid shit all the time and in turn, your sex life goes into the toilet because of everything else that is neccessary to manage a business, a household & family takes precedence over intimacy and see how long you hold out.

I had an affair a few years ago and that was definately the wrong route for escapism; I even considered leaving my family at one point to be with this other lady; morally & ethically wrong?...absolutely, and it would've been a big mistake....I didn't do it. Now, I occassionally slip out to visit an escort to briefly escape the everyday mundane shit as mentioned above, as well as attempt to satisfy my sexual appetite, without getting involved emotionally. It works for me and keeps me grounded and I make no apologies for being a typically wired male.

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Was married for 25 years till she passed away. We had a very full marriage and I had no complaints. Vows should mean something.

If there are arguments how come I seem to here it's always the wifes fault. Try communication.

If you want to go with the other women then there is obviously something very wrong with the marriage.

Hope your marriage works out.

 

[gdurham]

You're likely right there asshat, and you getting angry about what other's may do that doesn't affect you seems a little over the top, but regardless, you wait until you've been married for 10+ years and your wife bitches and nags at you over stupid shit all the time and in turn, your sex life goes into the toilet because of everything else that is neccessary to manage a business, a household & family takes precedence over intimacy and see how long you hold out.

I had an affair a few years ago and that was definately the wrong route for escapism; I even considered leaving my family at one point to be with this other lady; morally & ethically wrong?...absolutely, and it would've been a big mistake....I didn't do it. Now, I occassionally slip out to visit an escort to briefly escape the everyday mundane shit as mentioned above, as well as attempt to satisfy my sexual appetite, without getting involved emotionally. It works for me and keeps me grounded and I make no apologies for being a typically wired male.

I am in the same boat. It is important for me to realize that, while I agree with you, all that the above is is justification of cheating, not what cheating is. I agree with the notion that cheating is being intimate with someone other than your partner. I just don't feel bad about cheating.

 

[gdurham]

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Try communication.

If you want to go with the other women then there is obviously something very wrong with the marriage.

Hope your marriage works out.

Tried. didn't work. How about you try not judging others based on your own life expieriences. Ever think that everyone's life might not be like yours?

 

[spatial_k]

Cheating is basically anything that hasn't been allowed or has been expressly forbidden in the contract you've made with your partner. Relationships are not a rigid thing. You create it with another person, and the boundaries you set up up are also your own. For instance, I have an oen relationship, so sleeping with someone else is not cheating. But we still have rules based on what would hurt us/ hurt the other person. So if I broke a rule that would be cheating.

What else could cheating mean?

 

[great bear]

Cheating is when Finny holds hand with someone other than Lanc's.

 

[osanowo]

whatever you do it's cheating, except if you are French of course