Tipping
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Neither are expected or required but it is polite and shows gratitude. For just basic I always do. For other activities they make the pricing so not necessary though usually do if I have a good time.
Not required or expected, but absolutely always appreciated! 
(also if setting up the session required a lot of back & forth messaging or you had a lot of requests for the session, it's not a bad idea to toss a little extra in
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(also if setting up the session required a lot of back & forth messaging or you had a lot of requests for the session, it's not a bad idea to toss a little extra in
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We have a bad habit of telling people we are going to be late at the time that we are expecting someone myself included. Sometimes my clients will book me for HH but run almost 30 minutes late. Which eats into my 30 minutes post appointment pre appointment prep so I’m forced to move my whole schedule sometimes even losing out on clients who can’t accommodate the time change. My clients who book shorter sessions and come in very late typically give me something a little extra
I don't usually tip but there are some ladies who are so exceptional in terms of beauty, body, attitude and services and how real are sensual they are that I feel bad if I don't leave a tip for them
When the lady is beautiful and sexy and the service is even better and the rates are good and real tipping the lady is the right thing to do
When the lady is beautiful and sexy and the service is even better and the rates are good and real tipping the lady is the right thing to do
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When i saw your name i understand more why you tipping
LolWhen i saw your name i understand more why you tipping
some ladies really deserve to be tippedThe Silly Idea of Tipping—In Germany, tipping is just rounding to the nearest Euro; in Asia, it is often considered an insult.
Enjoying the hobby for about 40 years, I have never tipped an escort, stripper, etc I think it is a silly thing with a racist history, at least in the U.S. They are professional service workers, not minimum wage folks. I respect them as professionals and do not tip.
Tipping in US History, now we are obsessed with it.
Tipping spread after the Civil War as an exploitative measure to keep down the wages of newly freed slaves in service occupations. Pullman was the most notable for its tipping policies. The railroad company hired thousands of Black porters but paid them low wages, forcing them to rely on tips to make a living. Critics of tipping argued that it created an imbalance between customers and workers, and several states passed laws in the early 1900s to ban the practice. In “The Itching Palm,” a 1916 diatribe on tipping in America, writer William Scott said that tipping was “un-American” and argued that “the relation giving a tip is as undemocratic as the relation of master and slave.”
But tipping service workers was essentially built into law by the 1938 Fair Labor Standards Act, which created the federal minimum wage that excluded restaurant and hospitality workers. This allowed the tipping system to proliferate in these industries. In 1966, Congress created a “subminimum” wage for tipped workers. The federal minimum wage for tipped employees has stood at $2.13 per hour — lower than the $7.25 federal minimum — since 1991, although many states require higher base wages. If a server’s tips don’t add up to the federal minimum, the law says that the employer must make up the difference. But this doesn’t always happen. Wage theft and other wage violations are common in the service industry. Source: CNN “America has tipping fatigue 12/17/2022
In Canada, as I understand it, only Quebec still has a special lower minimum wage for tipped restaurant servers. In theory and in practice, however, they almost always make much more than the standard minimum wage with the tips they receive.
Dave's answer: OUTLAW tipping makes part of the price of service the same for everyone and forces employers to pay reasonable wages to keep employees.
Enjoying the hobby for about 40 years, I have never tipped an escort, stripper, etc I think it is a silly thing with a racist history, at least in the U.S. They are professional service workers, not minimum wage folks. I respect them as professionals and do not tip.
Tipping in US History, now we are obsessed with it.
Tipping spread after the Civil War as an exploitative measure to keep down the wages of newly freed slaves in service occupations. Pullman was the most notable for its tipping policies. The railroad company hired thousands of Black porters but paid them low wages, forcing them to rely on tips to make a living. Critics of tipping argued that it created an imbalance between customers and workers, and several states passed laws in the early 1900s to ban the practice. In “The Itching Palm,” a 1916 diatribe on tipping in America, writer William Scott said that tipping was “un-American” and argued that “the relation giving a tip is as undemocratic as the relation of master and slave.”
But tipping service workers was essentially built into law by the 1938 Fair Labor Standards Act, which created the federal minimum wage that excluded restaurant and hospitality workers. This allowed the tipping system to proliferate in these industries. In 1966, Congress created a “subminimum” wage for tipped workers. The federal minimum wage for tipped employees has stood at $2.13 per hour — lower than the $7.25 federal minimum — since 1991, although many states require higher base wages. If a server’s tips don’t add up to the federal minimum, the law says that the employer must make up the difference. But this doesn’t always happen. Wage theft and other wage violations are common in the service industry. Source: CNN “America has tipping fatigue 12/17/2022
In Canada, as I understand it, only Quebec still has a special lower minimum wage for tipped restaurant servers. In theory and in practice, however, they almost always make much more than the standard minimum wage with the tips they receive.
Dave's answer: OUTLAW tipping makes part of the price of service the same for everyone and forces employers to pay reasonable wages to keep employees.
just to add to this servers noy get minimum wage as well as tips. years ago they got less than minimum wage and had to rely on tips
Thank you for bringing this up!We have a bad habit of telling people we are going to be late at the time that we are expecting someone myself included. Sometimes my clients will book me for HH but run almost 30 minutes late. Which eats into my 30 minutes post appointment pre appointment prep so I’m forced to move my whole schedule sometimes even losing out on clients who can’t accommodate the time change. My clients who book shorter sessions and come in very late typically give me something a little extra
This was such a frequent issue when I worked in the Spa!
Depending on which place you’re working at, oftentimes the manager still wants to squeeze in that late client, even if your schedule is back to back and gives you zero time to look presentable for your next session.
Maybe an unpopular opinion, but in that case they should be required to pay the full amount for the time slot they booked or cover your loss of income if they insist you still see them and it disrupts your schedule.
It’s my opinion clients should cover the lost time and then re-book or move to the end of the line that day.
Wasted time slot is a direct loss of income in the spa world! Always be considerate of an MA’s time when booking.
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Honestly I skimmed cause I’m already fully aware of the history of tipping across North America and didn’t need the lesson.
So what I’m concluding by your statement here is, like other industries that have gotten rid of tipping… and because we don’t have “employers” we should start including gratuity in our rates?
Or some providers (especially Spa provider who offer exceptional services beyond the norm) should raise their rates and offset the amount the spa takes up front. So in theory they should be making the “same” market rate as other Indy massage providers
Love that idea!
I fully support that plan
Let’s get rid of tipping in 2026 and collectively raise our rates
What I am uncomfortable with is if I were to go to Alpha or any other club, sometimes the provider is not upfront about what is expected. "We will deal with the money after". And then at the end "just tip what you think the session was worth". Now I am in the no-win position of insulting someone's value or overpaying.
so just to summarize ... you fight racism by tipping the woman you pay for a cup of coffee, but not tipping woman you pay for a blowjob ... you social justice hero !!!
I am wondering though, during your 40 year study of racism; did you come across anything that said that white men paying for blowjobs may have negatively affected freed slaves after the civil war? I mean, if you did I would assume someone as moral as you ( I mean you stayed true to your convictions for 40 years !!!) would have to stop hobbying and never return.
There's probably no right answer to this that everyone would agree on, so use some sense.
There's no requirement to tip, but most people would appreciate a tip that isn't insultingly low. Did the session exceed expectations? Did she go above and beyond and blow your mind? Add a good tip if it's in your means and you want to make her smile. Did she give a menu with high costs and you went with one or two options? Then they're already happy with prices they've set. Is she a regular and you know it's near her birthday or an event? Tip if you want to make her smile. Finally, did she do something to help make the session possible? Lots of texting to put your mind at ease about a million questions? Or changing her schedule to fit you in? Did you inconvenience her by needing to cancel a session last minute or showing up late? All good reasons to tip.
Do NOT tip because you're wanting more communication outside the session, or to try and impress.
And the best tips are - being a good client that respects boundaries, positively reviewing her unless she asks not to be, and re-booking.
There's no requirement to tip, but most people would appreciate a tip that isn't insultingly low. Did the session exceed expectations? Did she go above and beyond and blow your mind? Add a good tip if it's in your means and you want to make her smile. Did she give a menu with high costs and you went with one or two options? Then they're already happy with prices they've set. Is she a regular and you know it's near her birthday or an event? Tip if you want to make her smile. Finally, did she do something to help make the session possible? Lots of texting to put your mind at ease about a million questions? Or changing her schedule to fit you in? Did you inconvenience her by needing to cancel a session last minute or showing up late? All good reasons to tip.
Do NOT tip because you're wanting more communication outside the session, or to try and impress.
And the best tips are - being a good client that respects boundaries, positively reviewing her unless she asks not to be, and re-booking.
I’ve recently tipped independant providers, and when visiting Alpha-west. To me it’s a simple gesture tucked in a thank you card and I’ve found it’s very well received and lead to even better service than I expected. In my opinion.
As far as I'm concern, tipping is a way to show my appreciation of my time with the provider, at the spa.
For that reason, I will always give a tip at the end of my time.
Expected or not, I don't care. If I had a good time and I have extra money, I can always flip a bit more when I give the donation, AT THE END!
To the spas that I have to pay upfront, most likely there won't have a tip, cause I put it with the donation.
To the SWs that I see at their incall, usually the first time, I will stand by the agreed donation, I give it up front.
If I appreciate my time, I will repeat, then I will put a tip inside the donation's envelope, most likely in the form of a gift card.
For that reason, I will always give a tip at the end of my time.
Expected or not, I don't care. If I had a good time and I have extra money, I can always flip a bit more when I give the donation, AT THE END!
To the spas that I have to pay upfront, most likely there won't have a tip, cause I put it with the donation.
To the SWs that I see at their incall, usually the first time, I will stand by the agreed donation, I give it up front.
If I appreciate my time, I will repeat, then I will put a tip inside the donation's envelope, most likely in the form of a gift card.
Personally I include all “tips” in my price, if someone wants to go above and beyond that then amazing
I personally believe in all inclusive pricing, no door fee then session, I think clients have a right to know ahead of time how much they are investing
I do think the tipping culture has become insane tho! I was at a cafeteria this past week and was asked by the machine at checked out if I wanted to tip… I grabbed all the food and drinks myself
I personally believe in all inclusive pricing, no door fee then session, I think clients have a right to know ahead of time how much they are investing
I do think the tipping culture has become insane tho! I was at a cafeteria this past week and was asked by the machine at checked out if I wanted to tip… I grabbed all the food and drinks myself
