Wailing on Mr. Ed - Is it time for a review template?

[Goober Mcfly]

I got an interesting PM from a well-known and respected SP, and by the time I had finished writing the response, I had this mess (which was far longer than the 1000 character maximum for PM's) in front of me.

As I said in the "miranda" thread, I'm all for SP's posting on the boards. I even recognize the need for SP's to respond to reviews of themselves. However, I do believe that the integrity of the board deteriorates when a bad review degenerates into a flaming of the original reviewer because of disagreement.

As an SP, you have to accept the fact that you have no control over the reviews, except that you can "request" no review, or even "request" a good review. Either of these situations is shilling, IMO. And as such, has no place on the board.

The whole concept of the review system has inherent flaws. Any review is subjective. What's the difference between good DATY and so-so DATY? Opinion. That's why the poster's previous posting history has such a bearing in the perceived validity of the review.

If I have been with 10 so-so SP's and then go on a date with you, even if you're only marginally better, you are going to get a glowing review because compared to the others you were awesome.

I think a basic review template is in order. Basic information as well as a section based on the "YMMV" or subjective information. And I think the moderators should have broad discretionary powers to delete any review that fails to contain at least the minimum information.

TERB's responsibility is for the people (lurkers or otherwise) to get the correct information. If it is time to step on some toes, so be it.

 

[Goober Mcfly]

IGoober Since you dont adhere to the terb policy of PM's being PRIVATE.

I didn't disclose the contents of the PM. Therefore, I am "adhereing to the terb policy of PM's being PRIVATE", FYI.

Meh.

 

[Samantha Jones]

No you left it to their imaginations-as far as what i wrote you
which can be even worse

as we all know some people tend to assume the worst

i just like to be honest


I just received this from a senior MALE Terb member
I think he is very wise- I officially bow out of this board- forever.

QUOTE "One thing Ive learned about this board is that common sense and honesty don't appear to matter much. Only egos do and for that very reason you will NEVER win a single argurment.

You know who you are and that alone should be sufficient for you. NEVER let them know they hurt you or you will find out yet again what prey feels like when sharks smell blood.

Only way to beat em is to be the best you can be for yourself not anyone else"

 

[penguin_jf]

A template should be available

but not required. One of the things I've enjoyed over the years has been the creation of a review to try and reflect more than just the 'mechanics' of the time I've spent with a lady, although I have striven to include them for those to whom 'just the facts' is important.
For many of us (myself included), the time I spend with an escort is more than just physical release - it has an emotional component as well, and that's a big part of what I'm looking for. It's hard to convey such qualities in a form though, and, like I said, I enjoy the creative process involved in producing a (my opinion only!!) well written review. I do, however realize that's mostly a conceit on my part.
I'm also not a huge fan of the 'blow by blow' action accounts that are REQUIRED on TER - they won't even publish your review if they consider it lacking in 'the juicy details'. Just not my style.
As far as PMs go - was the original post editted, as I could see no reference to Samantha Jones in it? Sorta confused, there.

 

[Samantha Jones]

to clear confusion
yes Goober did edit his post & removed my name after I pm'd him about it.

thank you Goober.

I had said that reviews- even good ones - if they go overboard can aso cause problems
perhaps moderation is the key- and being realistic.
I dont believe its the template that causes the problem or relieves it- its the rebuttals- no matter who writes them
If the reviews were all automatically locked-no replies of any kind allowed
and the rebuttals kept to a different forum entirely perhaps that would help?

Bye and Have a great 2003- ! I intend to.