This term has surfaced in countless threads, and for some reason I started to wonder how it was defined. At what frequency do you consider yourself a "regular" of a particular SP or MPA?
What constitutes being a "regular"?
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Once per week or twice per month, schedule permitting. More importantly, it has come to the point where there are almost NO restrictions (sexually).
Once per week or twice per month, schedule permitting. More importantly, it has come to the point where there are almost NO restrictions (sexually).
I'm limited to once a month with my drive, so for me, it's the "need" to see that special one on every trip. She clears her calander for you and xfactor is quite right...the restrictions diminish greatly.
I think the interval is irrelevant. As long as it is regular. EG: I average an appointment every 3 weeks I'd say as $$ will allow. Would I like to increase that to once a week or say twice a week - Dam right! And if the dollars were there I would. So do I consider myself a regular now at once every 3 weeks on average, or just a dabbler, and say I'm not a regular until I can afford once every week!?
I do see a lady regularly as much as I can (wish it was more). As to service it's always been top level....why else would I keep coming back?!
So the question should be "do you repeat with the same SP on a regular basis, and how many repeats defines a regular customer?"
I do see a lady regularly as much as I can (wish it was more). As to service it's always been top level....why else would I keep coming back?!
So the question should be "do you repeat with the same SP on a regular basis, and how many repeats defines a regular customer?"
Regulars are all good...
I agree with Sheik and Kiarra... more then three times and your a reg. I am not sure it is always exclusive to one provider. I am a regular at a certain MP near my house (twice a month, sometimes more)... however since I never know who is going to be on when I go there it is often someone different. Also I have two regulars at Brass Rail... everytime I go there if they are on they get my biz. I use to have only one regular at The Rail... but have not seen her there in months so I 'branched out'. And I agree with comments about increase in service level once you get to know each other more.
I agree with Sheik and Kiarra... more then three times and your a reg. I am not sure it is always exclusive to one provider. I am a regular at a certain MP near my house (twice a month, sometimes more)... however since I never know who is going to be on when I go there it is often someone different. Also I have two regulars at Brass Rail... everytime I go there if they are on they get my biz. I use to have only one regular at The Rail... but have not seen her there in months so I 'branched out'. And I agree with comments about increase in service level once you get to know each other more.
Irregular regular
I keep an irregular travel schedule, but I usually drop into my favourite MP when I'm in town. They know me as a regular. I will call ahead to see what is on the menu, but I usually go no matter who is there. So yeah, 3 times plus and you are a regular....until you stop...
I keep an irregular travel schedule, but I usually drop into my favourite MP when I'm in town. They know me as a regular. I will call ahead to see what is on the menu, but I usually go no matter who is there. So yeah, 3 times plus and you are a regular....until you stop...
I find it weird, but my decision as to whether I see someone further comes usually at the 3 time mark.
Now, I see that others have the same"mark" as the line at which you cross into being a "regular"
How or why 3 is the magic number, I'm not sure, but I suppose the second time you are further investigating the attributes that are important to you and as to whether your first impressions were right. The third time is possibly a final confirmation or disqualification; for lack of a better term.
Usually if things aren't escalating, there's no real chemistry and / or variety, I move on after the 3rd. That's if I get that far. Funnily enough the only 2 mpa's I've reached 4 with have become "regulars" ...
So, yeah I'd say that all the options in the poll constitute a regular once past the 3 yard line ...
Now, I see that others have the same"mark" as the line at which you cross into being a "regular"
How or why 3 is the magic number, I'm not sure, but I suppose the second time you are further investigating the attributes that are important to you and as to whether your first impressions were right. The third time is possibly a final confirmation or disqualification; for lack of a better term.
Usually if things aren't escalating, there's no real chemistry and / or variety, I move on after the 3rd. That's if I get that far. Funnily enough the only 2 mpa's I've reached 4 with have become "regulars" ...
So, yeah I'd say that all the options in the poll constitute a regular once past the 3 yard line ...
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I think it's a combination of how many times you saw her before spread on period of time (3 times in 3 years is not a regular) and how many times you intend to see her again in the future.
David p.
David p.
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I was a little surprised at the answers. I'm inclined to think you are only a regular if you are recognized immediately, if she remembers little everyday details, and if the sessions are not the usual scripted ones that one-timers get.
To achieve this comfort level, I would think you'd need more than 3 visits a year, I obviously figured a minimum frequency of one per month in posting the choices.
I'd be curious if the ladies on the board concur with the discussion of if their definition proves to be much different.
Thanks to all.
I was a little surprised at the answers. I'm inclined to think you are only a regular if you are recognized immediately, if she remembers little everyday details, and if the sessions are not the usual scripted ones that one-timers get.
To achieve this comfort level, I would think you'd need more than 3 visits a year, I obviously figured a minimum frequency of one per month in posting the choices.
I'd be curious if the ladies on the board concur with the discussion of if their definition proves to be much different.
Thanks to all.
3's a charm
Isn't the 3rd date suppose to be when sexual intercourse takes place? (with a non-sp flame mongers)
I guess I need to see Kiarra one more time to get regular status. Can't imagine the service getting any better.
Kurt
Isn't the 3rd date suppose to be when sexual intercourse takes place? (with a non-sp flame mongers)
I guess I need to see Kiarra one more time to get regular status. Can't imagine the service getting any better.
Kurt
Re: regulars.....
My Indy sp friend works mostly with regulars, I would concur that the service level increases for regulars, (which is another reason why they keep coming back
) and the frequency of visits can vary for each due to several factors such as proximity - out of towners can be once or twice a year regulars , cash flow - circumstances may dictate visits go from weekly to monthly or more, and lastly need - some people don't have the need,the time or the availability to see an SP that often, but when they do they know who they are gonna call.
I'd like to think I became a regular after more than two visits,,,altho the first few visits were few and far between due to schedules - her's more than mine
interesting poll willy
two good points,,knowing someone for awhile even if you don't see them monthly, the recognition factor &/or remembering little things about you are also important factors.,sweetdiane said:
My Indy sp friend works mostly with regulars, I would concur that the service level increases for regulars, (which is another reason why they keep coming back
) and the frequency of visits can vary for each due to several factors such as proximity - out of towners can be once or twice a year regulars , cash flow - circumstances may dictate visits go from weekly to monthly or more, and lastly need - some people don't have the need,the time or the availability to see an SP that often, but when they do they know who they are gonna call.I'd like to think I became a regular after more than two visits,,,altho the first few visits were few and far between due to schedules - her's more than mine
interesting poll willy
I suspect that it is a different feeling for the john and for the sp, and different again for each player within those categories.
I know that for me, I feel like, and certainly want to be, a regular on the second date; then again very few go beyond one or two visits. I guess that's why three or more is the number for the sp.
I know that for me, I feel like, and certainly want to be, a regular on the second date; then again very few go beyond one or two visits. I guess that's why three or more is the number for the sp.
Providers view vs. Clients view
I've done my own informal survey of both SPs and MPs on this same question, and although far from scientific, it is enlightening to see how the two sides see this question.
Asking the providers essentially the same question, their replies range from "once or twice a week" to only one lass who answered "once per month". A regular is defined by frequency, not by exclusivity. To paraphrase and summarize the conversations on the topic, they differentiate between a regular (they know your name and trivial details of your life) and someone that is familiar (they recognize you and might even remember your name).
We as clients seem (by the posts in this thread) to define a regular more by OUR perspective which seems to be loyalty and exclusivity (the only provider we see, sort of like "going steady").
So... are we kidding ourselves by thinking of ourselves as loyal regulars when in the eyes of our favorite we might not be? Does it even matter as long as we enjoy the delusion?
I've done my own informal survey of both SPs and MPs on this same question, and although far from scientific, it is enlightening to see how the two sides see this question.
Asking the providers essentially the same question, their replies range from "once or twice a week" to only one lass who answered "once per month". A regular is defined by frequency, not by exclusivity. To paraphrase and summarize the conversations on the topic, they differentiate between a regular (they know your name and trivial details of your life) and someone that is familiar (they recognize you and might even remember your name).
We as clients seem (by the posts in this thread) to define a regular more by OUR perspective which seems to be loyalty and exclusivity (the only provider we see, sort of like "going steady").
So... are we kidding ourselves by thinking of ourselves as loyal regulars when in the eyes of our favorite we might not be? Does it even matter as long as we enjoy the delusion?
Re: Providers view vs. Clients view
Don't forget that this business is about $$$$$, not loyalty, exclusivity. It's pay for play and the johns are the targets. "Loyalty and exclusivity" are key components of what we humans refer to as "love."
Most ladies wouldn't perform as sp's if it weren't for the easy money.
Sure, once in a while a little friendship evolves; but, you still keep on paying--- for friendship ???
For both parties, true human relationship falls farther and farther away. Many johns live out their inadequacies through these commercial arrangements , wasting their money and risking their health. The sp experience may be more complicated but is probably just as sad.
How many johns want to marry their "pay for play"mate , and if they did, how would the relationship fare ? How many sp's have real respect for johns who they see basically as "marks?"
It would be nice to be wrong , but general experience tells me differently.
When you meet an sp who entertains you well , provides sexual gratification and is reasonably priced( at least in your mind), you become a regular-- 1,2 or 15 visits. There's no magic number.
Feelings beyond that coupled with an ongoing commercial arrangement, seem to be an indication of serious insecurity and other character flaws.
MuffinMuncher said:
Don't forget that this business is about $$$$$, not loyalty, exclusivity. It's pay for play and the johns are the targets. "Loyalty and exclusivity" are key components of what we humans refer to as "love."
Most ladies wouldn't perform as sp's if it weren't for the easy money.
Sure, once in a while a little friendship evolves; but, you still keep on paying--- for friendship ???
For both parties, true human relationship falls farther and farther away. Many johns live out their inadequacies through these commercial arrangements , wasting their money and risking their health. The sp experience may be more complicated but is probably just as sad.
How many johns want to marry their "pay for play"mate , and if they did, how would the relationship fare ? How many sp's have real respect for johns who they see basically as "marks?"
It would be nice to be wrong , but general experience tells me differently.
When you meet an sp who entertains you well , provides sexual gratification and is reasonably priced( at least in your mind), you become a regular-- 1,2 or 15 visits. There's no magic number.
Feelings beyond that coupled with an ongoing commercial arrangement, seem to be an indication of serious insecurity and other character flaws.
