What do you do when you make a special connection?

[havingfun]

What do you do? Every once in a while I meet an SP, MPA or dancer who I feel especially connected to. I am sure it happens to others. Do you see her exclusively? Do you have her occupy a more prominent role in the rotation? Do you ignore it and move on? I see others, but her slightly more often than the others. This is something that I have regretted on occasion. Because woman sometimes disappear suddenly from the business. And then I wish I had seen her exclusively while she was there. On the other hand, I would have missed out on other good times and other connections had I closed all doors. Limited dollars and limited time can make life bittersweet.

 

[licka daclit]

I myself will see a lady that i connect with almost exclusively. I will still see other ladies but I will see her the most. I have seen this one SP for around 5 years now and dont see any reason to stop. I still see other ladies because isnt that what it is all about...variety.

Some guys will only see a lady once and move on because they want to see as many different ladies as they can, and there are the guys who like to see just one for the most part. Thats how I am, I see one lady and mix in a different lady once in a while.

 

[funkygroove]

propose to her

 

[yoniluvrca]

Yeah-I think you will get as mant different answers here as there are guys on the board.

I general I like to see different ladies. And because I like to see younger ladies I tend not to repeat unless there is a "click". But I do not pretend that this is anything more than chemistry, somehow our vibe fits for that time. Often the click was not there the second time for me or it was different.

And remember it is often very easy to "fall in love" with a regular sp. It is a lot like falling in love in your regular life but tinged with much more fantasy. But falling in love is falling in love. It has as much to do with a chemical reaction as it does all your romantic ideas.

So to answer you question, I take it for what it is. If I feel like booking a second or third appointment I do so. If those are fun I keep going. But I always try to remember that the special connection may be a little more one sided that I care to admit.

 

[Macator2003]

Excellent answer yoniluvrca....ya took the words right out of my mouth. I have nothing more to add.

Good question havingfun

 

[great bear]

The more mature you are and the longer you have been in the game it seems that it is more convenient to find one or two very "special" women and stick with them. Friendships can develop (yes the envelope is still passed to them) but having said that bonds can develop.

I suppose we all go through phases. During my 40's it was wild sex I was in quest for. Now that I'm on the downside of my 40's its a level of personal comfort that is sought. This level of comfort for me is attained through having a longer term relationship.